Found the girl that I really like to be married

Uber Uberer
Oct 7 75 Comments

Hello folks,
I met this girl few months ago. Since then we really hit it off. We both have a great chemistry together. Couple weeks after meeting her I asked her relationship status because we were flirting and I wanted to ask her out. I am single and she said her relationship status is complicated, and that it'll require more time for her to tell me why its complicated. I am very understanding guy and agreed to it, and so didn't ask her out.

Now, sometime ago she confessed to me that she is married with a kid, doesn't live with husband because of trust issues and that they'll probably get a divorce in future. My heart literally broke, even though we weren't and aren't dating. I couldn't concentrate on anything for couple of days. She said that I take time to think about if I want to be in contact with her, but it'll be sad for her if I decided not to.

More details:
This whole story only spans 3 months.
She is in her mid twenties, even me. We're young 🤣.
We were physically intimate with each other just once.
I have never been married.

I feel like I have got too "attached" to her due to the awesome bond between us. She is a catch, but so am I to her. I consider myself as an emotional guy, will this tale hurt me in future as well, no matter what decision I take?
What should I do, any suggestions are welcome! This is a serious question, so lets keep the trolling to minimum.

TC: 190k

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TOP 75 Comments
  • Verizon Media Atinlay6
    Run away. Far and fast.

    Just call it a lesson learned.
    Oct 7 0
  • Microsoft jokerekoj
    She’s a cheater. What’s good about a cheater?
    Oct 7 3
    • Verizon Media Atinlay6
      You’ll lose them how you found them.
      Oct 7
    • Microsoft jokerekoj
      I agree. Once a cheater always a cheater. I saw too many examples. Get away from her
      Oct 7
    • Juniper Pliny Jr.
      Cheater is a cheater is a cheater is a cheater.

      Period.

      They'll do the SAME to you eventually. Do NOT think you're something special, b/c you're not....Nobody is to a cheater.

      One she'll be unattractive (sex will dry up soon)and all you'll have is the base cheater personality you contend with and all the misery it brings. 🤔

      It is what it is.
      Oct 7
  • New / Eng
    Psynaptic

    New Eng

    PRE
    Neuralink
    BIO
    Working on Brain Machine Interfaces
    Psynapticmore
    She is not a catch. She is the type to cheat after a marriage. Quit thinking with the smaller head and see clearly.
    Oct 7 9
    • Adobe fngstained
      @Salesforce did your post get flagged by any chance? Wtf is wrong with people here
      Oct 8
    • Salesforce salty🍩
      No idea. People keep saying it’s fiction. If only.
      Oct 8
    • Adobe fngstained
      I don't believe it's fiction. Personal experience. Either we're anomalies or other people have the ability to move on from stuff like this without batting an eyelid, in which case I envy that more than the highest TC in FAANG.
      Oct 8
    • Salesforce salty🍩
      What’s you’re story Adobe?
      Oct 8
    • Adobe fngstained
      In a nutshell, the other side changed at the worst possible time while I'd always tried to be consistent and maintain a certain level of honesty. Not exactly the same story, but similar pattern.
      Oct 8
  • eBay / Field Ops spongerick
    TC or gtfo
    Oct 7 4
    • Uber Uberer
      OP
      Sorry mate. Here it is: 190k
      Oct 7
    • Twitter trk612x
      Why do you submit to the ebay loser?
      Oct 7
    • Verizon Media Atinlay6
      Thems the rules
      Oct 7
    • Juniper Pliny Jr.
      Your TC is too low to be getting involved. 🤔

      Wait until L7, then start dipping your toes ✌
      Oct 7
  • Zoox / Eng streetfood
    You know logically this is a bad idea. Wait 3 weeks for your hormones to settle and then you'll no longer feel bad about leaving her
    Oct 7 7
    • eBay / Field Ops spongerick
      Try Grindr in the meanwhile
      Oct 7
    • New grindr
      I am not available
      Oct 7
    • Uber Uberer
      OP
      Lol
      Oct 7
    • Uber Uberer
      OP
      Btw, does grindr work?
      Oct 7
    • New grindr
      Hell if I know. Only thing I grind is LC.
      Oct 19
  • Aspect AvKW75
    Do people here not see the part where she was technically married when she slept with you? I mean get a divorce and then do whatever you want. How would you feel if your legal wife slept with someone else?
    Oct 7 4
    • Airbnb / Eng rXzp46
      It's not true. You can declare separate even when you are still living in the same house. As long one of the person in relationship have decided and declared he/she no longer wants to be in the marriage, the marriage is over.
      Oct 7
    • Airbnb / Eng rXzp46
      Divorce in California can take years. Most people start dating when they are still “technically married".
      Oct 7
    • Aspect AvKW75
      Wow, didn't know that. 👍
      Oct 7
    • Uber Uberer
      OP
      Ya, they're seperated.
      How long does divorce in California take?
      Oct 7
  • Amazon real_bezos
    Date for couple of months to see how you guys pair. Then if it goes well, marry her. If not, GTFO. And do this after she gets divorced. And also make sure the kid likes you. Else you are f***ed.

    Don’t just go and marry because you hit it off for few months.
    Oct 7 0
  • Amazon bcif84ju7u
    Time for the beta to raise the alpha’s kid. Nothing new here.
    Oct 7 4
    • Verizon Media Atinlay6
      ^This
      Oct 7
    • Cisco unit-test
      Wow... found the red piller
      Oct 7
    • Slalom Consulting / Sales StankyFeet
      you had to go there huh
      Oct 7
    • GE wmCo28
      Getting with a single mother is always a deal breaker, especially making 6 figure salary
      Oct 8
  • Amazon fejj zebos
    Move on. Lots of baggage and there are plenty of fish in the sea without baggage.
    Oct 7 0
  • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
    You understand right? what it takes to be able to say “found the person I really like to be married” ??

    If you can say that about someone, don’t be stupid enough to lose them.
    Thank your stars, cherish them and make it work..

    Goodluck.👍
    Oct 7 0
  • Cisco fqab23lv
    Are you ready to be a dad? To another mans kid? If so go for it, otherwise don’t start something that is going to end ugly.
    Oct 7 2
    • Uber Uberer
      OP
      I am not even ready to get married
      Plus the kid would be too much, I accept I am too young and immature for that shit.
      Oct 7
    • Cisco fqab23lv
      Then you know. GL
      Oct 7
  • Indeed Ìñδèèδ
    I don’t see what the problem here is
    Oct 7 1
    • Roku RokuRoku
      That’s the problem. People can’t be happy with things they are getting easily. They want a problem in life
      Oct 7
  • Amazon @citizen
    Take it slow - with the marriage thing. she has a complex problem with the husband hanging around - don’t break ur achey breaky heart - have sex and see if she is still interested in a continued relationship
    Work with the situation with Hubby and kid
    It’s a package deal man. You won’t ever be alone - remember that.
    My advice have lots of sex and see how it still feels after a few months. Both can decide later ;) enjoy man
    Oct 7 2
    • Uber Uberer
      OP
      Great advice mate, thanks
      Oct 7
    • Symantec GuXy80
      Best advice
      Oct 8
  • Facebook akeli
    Stop seeing her. Tell her to sort things out and come back after divorce (plus 6 months) if she still feels like it so she is clear and sure. Also don’t wait for her, you might meet someone similar or better meanwhile. Be open to that. Also tell her that you are not waiting for her. You’ll be surprised when you have open mind what miracles can happen! Good luck.
    Oct 7 0
  • New / Mktg
    SrZeroCool

    New Mktg

    PRE
    IBM
    SrZeroCoolmore
    She's looking for higher TC. Run for your life!
    Oct 8 1
  • New grindr
    She "confessed". If it was all above board she would have been upfront about her situation.

    Dump her like yesterday's trash.
    Oct 7 0
  • Cisco TB12-12+12
    When you said that you found the girl, why are you even asking the question? It's not easy to say that to someone honestly and heartfully. If you do believe that, go ahead with the relationship. People who say that there's too much baggage didn't see shit in life. They are the fortunate ones who didn't run into hardships till now and collapse once they hit in the future. She just had a hard time earlier than the rest.
    Oct 7 0
  • Samsung
    chajimogo

    Samsung

    BIO
    Stressed out but surviving
    chajimogomore
    Run. I have met a girl in the many years past in my 20s who hit off really well, then turned out she had a kid and her parents live with her. Tons of baggage there.

    Unless you are in the same boat yourself, and you are not. Run. Again run. You don’t want to deal with that.
    Oct 8 2
    • Uber Uberer
      OP
      But then what's the gaurantee that I'll meet another person with same or even more connection? Did you meet someone later?
      Oct 8
    • Samsung
      chajimogo

      Samsung

      BIO
      Stressed out but surviving
      chajimogomore
      Yes. It’s a numbers game so you will have to keep trying. As much as you like this girl there are too many warning signs for you to move forward.
      Oct 8
  • New justgo
    What's her TC?
    Oct 7 2
    • Uber Uberer
      OP
      No TC, still studying, will be studying for next 2 years.
      Oct 7
    • New BAiM58
      @op this is called hypergamy bro. Run, far away. You can get much better and find a decent woman.
      Oct 8
  • New justgo
    You need to date other girls. mmh..."We were physically intimate with each other just once." Stay out of trouble or you will get hurt again in the future. Once a cheaper is always a cheater.
    Oct 7 0

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