Will start with Google in Zurich soon. Should mention that working for one of these companies was my dream. I've been with my girlfriend for the past 4 years, we basically grew up together. We lived together in NYC for one year. She now wants to move back in our home country because all her friends are there and she can't take living abroad anymore. Should I leave Google for her? TC: $160k
Dump her. Enjoy Google
can’t you join google in US ?
We're not from US. Just been there on a contract job for 1 year with L1-B. The offer was specifically for Google Zurich. I could ask for a L1 transfer in the future, but right now it is not an option.
Never settle
What's your home country?
It's a medium high income economy according to CIA factbook. In any case nothing compared with Switzerland or US in terms of potential income.
Wouldn't want to get doxxed by naming a country lol
Does she have a work in Zurich? I think you should be compassionate here, as she must feel really lonely to want to get back. She probably understand that Zurich is a much better choice for life, but she feels depressed because she can’t fit in, and you have all this amazing life ahead of you. You just need to help her to get her own life in Zurich and she will stay.
No. She doesn't. She might move in with me for one or two years, but she really wants to live the rest of her life in our home country close to her family and friends. I can promise to her that we move back in two years, but I don't want that. It would make me miserable probably.
It’s very normal. The thing is when she moves back she regrets it because she is different already. Why don’t you ask her to give a try and find a job, and if she stills want to go back in 3-6 months so be it for her. But I don’t think you should sacrifice your career for someone who is not your wife
Sounds like you two are pretty invested in each other — but while you shouldn’t ask her to live where she’s unhappy, she also shouldn’t ask you to give up a dream. Try long distance for a year. It won’t be easy, but its not the hardest thing in the world either. (Especially if your home country is in Europe or within a few hours of Switzerland) Conversely, if you do pass up a life opportunity that you deeply want, for her, it’s likely to be a source of resentment that will strain the relationship as well.
Or he might find that this opportunity wasn’t worth it... I’ve been married for 10 years plus 3 years of dating and living together, and it’s my second marriage. Now I am convinced that right relationships are based on sacrifices from both partners, but decisions on those sacrifices should be made together based on facts, data and logic to minimize negative impact on suffering party.
Sounds totally rational, as does navigating a relationship according to “facts, data, and logic”. I have yet to experience a romantic relationship that worked like that.
Some women choose to follow men and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up one morning and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore - Lady Gaga
Choose career over girls. The girls will follow. If you choose the girl, she will lose interest since you’re getting weak, and you will lose her later anyway.
Also working for a company making someone else rich should not be your dream. Your dream should be having your own business or financial freedom.
+1000, bro. You should never make someone else’s business important part of your life. In the end you’ll find out that your great intentions just make money for someone else, and that most leaders are sociopaths who care only about themselves.
Don't be stupid. Neither choice will make you feel good in the short term. Choose Google. Coz if you leave that, there's no stopping at that. What else is she gonna blackmail you for
Wow, wanting to live close to your family is not blackmailing