Getting divorced. How do I find a good lawyer?
Longtime lurker here. Let me knock out the obligatory stuff first: yes I'm Indian, in the Bay area, TC is $250k. I got married to my wife a couple of years ago ("Love" marriage not arranged). She's currently a student but we're roughly the same age. Things began to get really rocky over the last several months and in a fit of rage she said that she wanted a divorce. I had no heads up that she had such extreme feelings about our relationship so I was admittedly shocked and reeling from this. It turns out that she's moving pretty fast and is filing for divorce without trying out separation or counseling despite my recommendations to work things out. She's playing dirty through her lawyer and laying claim to options I was rewarded at a job prior to Google (we were married during my last 2 months at my old job) and doing a bunch of extremely shady shit that I'd rather not talk about for fear of being dox'd. The lawyer I've currently got is a total rookie and I get the feeling I'm going to be taken to the cleaners. How can I find the best lawyer possible? Any recommendations from personal experience?
First concrete recommendation, thank you. She's here in the Bay area and has been studying here. I too haven't understood the cause of the divorce apart from the fact that she's convinced we will be incompatible moving forward. ... which is rich considering that she was the one that really doubled down on wanting to get married. Now she doesn't even want to talk through proxies like friends (let alone to me directly)
Dude she married you for your money and a gateway into US.
Don't have recommendation but hope you turn out ok at the end of this.
How can she, being a student, afford a better lawyer than you? Open up your pocket book and get a better lawyer instead of hiring a rookie and asking other rookies in blind!
I think that is what OP is looking for in this post
@Fezos thank you. Yes @Omni I'm happy to throw dollars in the right direction. She can afford a hardcore lawyer because she's got wealthy parents.
It's kind of odd and something doesn't add up. I don't know if she can be awarded alimony if it's a no fault divorce and if she doesn't demonstrate need. Can she? You didn't abuse her.
Yes. What is the ground is is claiming divorce on?
California is a common property state, so at divorce each spouse gets half of all assets.
Waiting for the feminist comment where you deserve to be ripped off
😂 Oh trust me... It's comin...
Bro, you make quarter mil per annum. Why on Earth would you hire a rookie? The only way to come out on top would be to spend money and hire a seasoned divorce lawyer. Trying on save money on lawyers is never a good idea. The amount of $$$ you stand to lose in alimony would be far greater than anything you've seen.
I'm not trying to save money. I'm happy to hurl dollars in the right direction I just don't know where to look beyond Yelp.
Is your wife indian too? At what state she is filling for divorce? Because state rules play a major role in determining alimony and other payments
She's Indian yes. State of California I'm afraid.
Oh! Was it arranged? Maybe she is seeing someone else especially if she is rushing the timeline suddenly. I recommend you to hire a Private Investigator and a really good lawyer! Hope everything works out well for you
don’t give her a dime
Where did you get married? If you got married in India and hold Indian passport, shouldn't you go to court in India? That way alimony would be much less
Yes married in india but partner filed in US, which has jurisdiction over me.
Damn. Women are feminists until they see the prospect of fleecing you dry through alimony.
I don't know about "women" but yes my soon to be ex-wife is pulling absolutely no punches.