Gonna lose my girl. Need advice

Jul 16 28 Comments

Girl works in Europe. I work in US on visa. Girl finishes her university in December and majored in Aerospace.

Due to strict visa policies, strict citizenship requirements for aerospace industry, it is unlikely she will get a job in her field here. Since she just finishes university she does not want to toss her degree out for a guy and just come here and not work/do something unrelated to her major and interest.

I for one am not ready to move to Europe because I too graduated recently and mainly for visa and language concerns (will lose visa if I leave)

So looks like our run is coming to an end. What can we do? We have already been long distance for 1.5 years and it would suck to continue long distance while we both work in different countries with no end in sight 😔

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TOP 28 Comments
  • Oath Atinlay2
    Why won’t she get job in the US?
    Jul 16 5
    • OP
      US immigration policies are one of the strictest. The options are - 1) student visa, which she is not considering since she just finished university and also due to crazy costs of universities here 2) L1 - internal transfer within company in her home country which have offices in States. Again this is rare and most companies will want to do this for experienced hires and really dependent
      on positions available at the time etc
      Jul 16
    • Oath Atinlay2
      Why won’t you move there?
      Jul 16
    • OP
      1) Less tech jobs 2) Language requirements. She is from France, English is spoken minimally and most jobs have french requirements 3) I can’t come back easily to US in future, I came here 6 years ago as a student and my only options once I leave would be what I described above
      Jul 16
    • Oath Atinlay2
      Sounds like the decision is made for you. Neither of you want to budge and love your careers more.
      Jul 16
    • Microsoft u582s
      Haven’t you already asked this question here/ been through the whole debate rigmarole already?

      In any case, 1) it appears you’ve made up your mind, 2) you already have listed both your trade offs, and how you folks value each is an entirely personal decision. so not sure exactly what blind can help with.
      Jul 16
  • New / Eng
    sriv123

    New Eng

    PRE
    Udacity
    sriv123more
    Find another girl, you'll be fine I promise ya
    Jul 16 5
    • OP
      I am scared not gonna lie. She is my first gf and I don’t want to lose her
      Jul 16
    • New / Eng
      sriv123

      New Eng

      PRE
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      sriv123more
      You'll be fine bro, it sounds like you folks are young. You wanna experience the world, other donuts, etc. until you settle, trying to grab onto something not meant to be is going to do you no good.
      Jul 16
    • A10 Networks / Eng isodragon
      Isn't it insensitive? Low integrity? Commitment?
      Jul 16
    • New / Eng
      sriv123

      New Eng

      PRE
      Udacity
      sriv123more
      When you are young, you should experience life. If not, you will try to do it in your 40's when you are already settled and you'll encounter significant problems
      Jul 16
    • Google gWrF26
      aforementioned promise is redeemable anywhere outside of the bay area

      jk lol
      Jul 16
  • Booking.com
    仆街 冚家鏟

    Booking.com

    BIO
    🤬🤪🥴🥺🤫😜🤦‍♂️
    仆街 冚家鏟more
    Clearly you two don't love each other enough to make sacrifices. Move on.
    Jul 16 1
    • Cisco drogbaaa
      This is true. You will find a way if you want to be together.
      Jul 16
  • Google / Data noobler
    “Chase a check, never chase a b****” -Future,2017
    Jul 16 1
    • Google / Data noobler
      On that note, listen to others and move on.
      Jul 16
  • Amazon alsbjd
    So ... end it? If you're both new to your jobs, then you're probably young too. Live your life for a while without each other and see what the world brings to you.
    Jul 16 0
  • Cisco / R&D gtb_fool
    Or both move to Canada
    Jul 16 0
  • Bloomberg 1337c4lyfe
    Not meant to be? Sorry to hear that, but you’ll be ok. You’re too young to think she is the one. I promise you, you will change a 100 times by the time you’re 30. Her too.
    Jul 16 0
  • Airbnb kYFK02
    Put a fork in it
    Jul 16 1
    • Booking.com / Other
      仆街 冚家鏟

      Booking.com Other

      BIO
      🤬🤪🥴🥺🤫😜🤦‍♂️
      仆街 冚家鏟more
      and fork off
      Jul 16
  • Microsoft $€£¥
    Move to Amsterdam or Berlin good tech scenes
    Jul 16 1
    • Booking.com
      仆街 冚家鏟

      Booking.com

      BIO
      🤬🤪🥴🥺🤫😜🤦‍♂️
      仆街 冚家鏟more
      +1 for Amsterdam
      Jul 16
  • Microsoft sm1nw
    Have goodbye sex?
    Jul 26 0
  • Salesforce layerx
    Let the river flow. When one of you meet someone else it'll end anyway.
    Jul 19 0
  • New zphb68
    🍌
    Jul 18 0
  • Twilio lxKU38
    Eh move on.
    Jul 16 0
  • Lyft 0xabc0de
    Move on.
    Jul 16 0