I am a female, so I didn’t vote, but these ranges are uncharacteristically low. I don’t know a single person (male or female) in real life who waited until marriage. Almost everyone I know slept with quite a few more than 7 before marriage. I myself lost count of how many lovers I had before marriage as did my husband and all almost all of my friends.
I don’t know why anyone wouldn’t. Women are humans, too, and most humans like having sex. My husband and I slept together the night of our first date and our relationship is still idyllic after a decade.
@7493 yep I suspect those who slpet with 20+ could stay loyal. I have maybe more than 100 opportunities and chosen not to mess up (honestly now a bit regret but if I'm the kind of person who just fuck I dont think I can be loyal, also, isn't it embarrassing to constantly run into people you fucked?)
Late to reply but if I had to guess my number, it would be in the 40s-50s. All of it before I married my husband at 25. I think my husband has slept with 80-100 women, but he also started quite a bit younger than me and also lost count long ago. This will probably not be believed, and I find it somewhat difficult to understand as well, but he actually had a difficult time finding a relationship, but obviously not a hard time finding women to sleep with. I guess it does make sense, though, when I consider my own promiscuity and the fact that I would have wanted to have actual relationships with fewer than 10 of them.
@OP- Not everyone considers it a mistake to sleep with people. I’ve never cheated on anyone, so this has little if anything to do with staying ‘loyal’. I have never randomly run into someone I previously fucked. You think sleeping with 20+ people means that you run into each and every one of them constantly? Even if I assume the absolute ‘worst’ as you’d probably define it, we are talking less than 60 people. How high could the odds possibly be to run into them ‘constantly’ as you worded it? Factor in the reality that people move, myself included, and time changes you and it’s all but impossible for me to run into anyone I’ve slept with, recognize them for who they are and not just a familiar face in a sea of other familiar faces who I have not slept with, AND also feel embarrassed by it if the first two conditions somehow fall into place. I’ve been with my husband for nearly a decade and have a job and children to worry about. There’s no way I have the time or mental capacity to be embarrassed by randomly encountering someone I shared a good time with. I wouldn’t be embarrassed the next day and I sure as shit won’t be embarrassed 10-20 years later.
Unlikely. If you have no reference of comparison you wouldn’t have a frame of comparison. Also the person you marry is rarely the person with whom you have the best sex, there’s always that sultry bombshell who was a fling from the past. You know the no strings attached let’s bonk all night kind of girl.