@microsoft I know. For this reason, I have refrained from relationships for a while. It hurts to see someone hurt/sad because of me. But after the relationship gets boring, I can't seem to control the attraction I develop outside, which leads to intimacy.
She cheated I have her a chance. She cheated again and again. I divorced her. She has had nothing but failed relationships and now gets pissed when the guys she is with cheats on her. God how I love karma
It isn't easy either. Relationships get boring after a while. No one's perfect and the other person attracts you because s/he seems perfect at first (just like your SO seemed perfect until the honeymoon phase ended).
5'6 you should be honest about what you need and not lie to your partner. If you need some outside sex, talk about it and figure out if its workable in a way that you and your partner can agree on and feel comfortable. Otherwise break up.
What about emotional cheating? My cheating didn't start with sex outside the relationship. It started with attraction, flirting, some connection, followed by intimacy. But I knew that attraction was only temporary.
I’m not saying that because of this people can cheat after promising monogamy. But monogamy is the default assumption a lot of the time.
Also, I’ve seen and heard of so many relationships ending because of a case of cheating. After having seen it a lot, it almost seems like the expected result of relationships. Over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Is tendency to cheat a feature, instead of a bug, of human sexuality?
Another thing, it’s really interesting to me that one case of cheating often ruins an entire relationship. If you only cheat once over multiple years, weren’t you actually successfully monogamous for the great majority of the time?