How do you handle bullying?

New / Sales
Therake

New Sales

BIO
just looking for individuals with like minded concerns and mentors.
Therakemore
May 7 17 Comments

I've been dealing with a bully since I started and quite honestly my job didn't provide a lot of training so every time I have a question it's a snarky remark or an eye roll. She slams things on my desk, acts like something's on fire if there's something minimal that can easily be fixed and I feel like she is the type of personality who wants everyone to know she irreplaceable. She's driven everyone out of that office. What dip I do? I've gone to management and the response is "egh that's just her... ignore it" I don't think that's right.

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TOP 17 Comments
  • Grab newusrnm
    We all know Karen
    May 7 0
  • New / Mgmt McAfee
    You have choices:
    1) Play along
    2) Ignore her
    3) Beat her at her own game
    4) Kill with kindness
    5) Get extremely toxic and political and turn the tables
    6) Constantly upstage her
    7) Leave

    The only one that every worked for me was a combination of 5 and 6.
    May 7 3
    • New / Mgmt McAfee
      Then she got in a lot of trouble and ended up in court and getting banished basically.
      May 7
    • New / Mgmt McAfee
      Toxic people aren’t worth it. I ended up leaving later too. If I could do it also over again, I’d just choose number 7.
      May 7
    • New / Eng
      griesrt

      New Eng

      PRE
      Flipboard
      griesrtmore
      Lol are you joking?
      May 7
  • Google əๅɓoo⅁
    If people on the team behave like this and management thinks it is OK, I would just leave.
    May 7 0
  • Yup, leave. Management is on her side. They’ve made up their mind.

    Most likely she’ll continue to drive good talent out, management won’t give a shit until it’s too late, and they’ll get canned after a couple years as well for not delivering good results.

    I’ve been in the same situation myself too, and tried most of 1-6 above, but ultimately the real problem is management and that won’t ever get solved. So just do 7.
    May 7 0
  • Aka why I left FAANG.
    She got promoted 3 months after I left, by the way.
    May 7 0
  • New / Sales
    Therake

    New Sales

    BIO
    just looking for individuals with like minded concerns and mentors.
    Therakemore
    OP
    I have tried most of these things. It got to the point where they accused me of being on drugs and I almost sued them... it's like she's there favorite I've never dealt with something this immature before
    May 7 3
    • New / Mgmt McAfee
      Very high school. I think they were her favorite too. But I managed to disband the clique.

      Just leave.
      May 7
    • New / Mgmt McAfee
      Honestly, I’m pretty sure everyone except for me was on drugs. One of their tactics is projection.
      May 7
    • New / Sales
      Therake

      New Sales

      BIO
      just looking for individuals with like minded concerns and mentors.
      Therakemore
      OP
      Completely agree I asked them to give me a drug test twice and they refused so I went and got my own.
      May 7
  • Juniper Pliny Jr
    Leave, but before you do, have a meeting with HR and then make her life impossible
    May 7 0
  • Indeed unw888
    I quit and get a better job somewhere else. And I make sure to mention in my offboarding interview that I'm quitting because of the bully
    May 7 2
    • New / Mgmt McAfee
      Hmm. I’m curious as to why you would mention this person to HR when you’re leaving. Second, why would you go to the off board interview?
      May 7
    • Indeed unw888
      I mentioned the person because of a sincere hope that the company would solve the problem (they did not)

      Offboarding interview was mandatory. It was mostly things like "turn in your badge" and "here's your COBRA paperwork"
      May 7
  • New / Eng
    griesrt

    New Eng

    PRE
    Flipboard
    griesrtmore
    HR?
    May 7 0