How much interaction do you have with people through the day?

Neurocrine Atin|ay2
Aug 8 22 Comments

True story:

My only interaction today with another human at work was: "Hey buddy, do you need this done by tomorrow or does Monday work?"

I realized I only spoke the mentioned one line all day today. And this is not unusual. Most days are spent writing code, evenings are spent in the gym, watching a Netflix show, and walking my dog. I stay by myself.

Trust me, I am not socially awkward or depressed. I like my space though. A few friends ping me over chat so I am in touch. But is not having any face to face social interaction through the day really a red flag?

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  • Northrop Grumman HowCouldYu
    Used to happen to me lol. Story time. I work in aerospace/defense so anti-social culture is quite the norm. Being a young guy who’s outgoing and likes to hold a conversation, it killed me. I used to get up for work around 5am, go to the small 400 sq ft free gym they had at my company site and work out (no windows, no one else ever would work out that early), id finish by 6-630am, work for 9 hours and not talk to a soul, get home (lived in a studio at the time), make a sad dinner alone (gf was long distance), then go to sleep and repeat the next day. If that doesn’t scare the ever living crap out of you, I’m not sure what will. Did that for like 6 months until I realized I needed a change.
    Aug 8 4
    • Neurocrine Atin|ay2
      OP
      Thanks for sharing. The only difference is I am not an early riser so I work out in the evening. But other than that, the story is pretty much like yours.
      Aug 8
    • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
      that sounds sad. What’s your life like now? What has changed since then?
      Aug 8
    • Northrop Grumman HowCouldYu
      Yeah man, it was scary af. I felt like I was see-through. Been pretty popular my whole life through high school, college. So to be dropped into this environment was like red flags everywhere, but for some reason I just kept chugging away. Anyways, yeah I’d say the biggest help (for me at least) was to actually accept my nerdy coworkers for who they are and since then I’ve made a lot of really meaningful friendships. (So it was probably fault all along for anyone reading; yeah I’m probably an ass/douche but I saw my flaws and changed my ways to be much more accepting of everyone). Now my days are filled with people checking in, jokes, and plenty of friends outside of work too. But building a network inside was the first and best recommendation I would admit. But don’t be fooled I’m desperately applying to other jobs (stay away from Northrop Grumman)
      Aug 8
    • Intel Kitten420
      This was me in 2006 or something. Wake up, coffee and a smoke, work for 10 hours, grab dinner , noodle on the guitar, sleep and repeat for 2 years. I almost forgot how to interact with another human being. That whole experience definitely changed my personality since I did it for so long. Not recommended.
      Aug 8
  • Oscar 🐨koala
    It’s normal these days. FWIW I work from home nearly every day (one day in the office every two weeks). So.
    Aug 8 4
    • F5 Networks indian-in
      How to get into your company
      Aug 8
    • Oscar 🐨koala
      It’d team dependent lol. I am the only one who does this at Oscar honestly (I am not a remote employee).
      Aug 8
    • Oscar 🐨koala
      Pro is I get nap time if not oncall. Con is I have no one but Slack.
      Aug 8
    • F5 Networks indian-in
      Where r u located?
      Aug 8
  • New / Product dowop
    Spend 40% of my days talking with people
    Aug 8 2
    • SAP bilit
      Job type figures ☝️
      Aug 8
    • MeridianLink / Product XVrn30
      Yep. I'm in product for same reason. Like human interaction too much.
      Aug 9
  • Microsoft / Eng ---------
    A lot.
    I put headphones on when I need to focus on work, otherwise people stop by and talk talk talk.
    I work in an open space, and my team is quite friendly, but one of the drawbacks is that everyone feels comfortable randomly stopping by for a long chat. It's not rare that I have to take some work home or stay late, cuz I couldn't have much done during the day.
    Aug 9 0
  • Salesforce jfeyhvdfhv
    I get interrupted by people so many times in a day I'm never able to get any work done. Sometimes I wish I had a day like yours
    Aug 8 1
    • Neurocrine Atin|ay2
      OP
      Oh I have lived that life. My current life is definitely more peaceful. Although I am not sure how recommended or sustainable this lifestyle is. As I am growing older, I have started loving my space and peace of mind more than anything else in this world. But somewhere in a corner, I am also worried how healthy it is.

      I have realized that after I have spent a few hours with my friends, I want to head home. These are the same friends whom I spent all day everyday with at college. Similarly when I visit my family, I only want to spend a few days with them and then I start to miss my space.
      Aug 8
  • Facebook zucked
    Never call someone buddy for one. It’s demeaning and patronizing
    Aug 8 1
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    • Neurocrine Atin|ay2
      OP
      I am not necessarily saying I want to change, but I want to know opinions if I should. I don't want to realize I didn't pay attention to these red flags early on.
      Aug 8
  • Intel D’s🥜
    That’s just not healthy man, but I can’t give more thoughtful answer because you’re a 🙄
    Aug 8 0
  • Just make sure you have good social contacts at least on the weekend. It's important for obvious reasons.
    Aug 8 0
  • Intel ringbuffer
    Programming is kind of a lonely job.
    Aug 8 0

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