I am a woman and I am gonna get married within two months. At the same time, I am switching the company. There's a lot to learn in the new company and I gotta work hard to prove myself. I don't know how well I can perform with the responsibilities of marriage. All I want is to balance my work and marriage life. I didn't find any role models in this area because all the married women I have seen at my current company are not the best performers. I myself even have a bias about married women giving their best at work place and this is making me anxious about my career. So, people do you know any married women who are best at their work place/carriers in India?
Yes I met married women top performers. It’s a matter of priorities and skills. If you’re talented and willing to be at the top you are going to accomplish it.
In general, not just India, you just have to choose one or the others. There’s not enough time in a day to be great at both.
Have your husband help chip in around the house or hire help. Your hourly pay is probably not worth you spending the time to do certain things around the house, unless you want to or enjoy doing them. Agree with above poster there’s only so many hours in the day and in the end you’re only one person.
Define best performers. Share where you worked or what you refer to as “in this area”. Share your reasoning behind why marital status matters so much to you. (Unbelievable level of unconscious bias in the op.)
I don't think marriage by itself should be so demanding to affect your performance at work. Maybe you are worried about other changes that are going to happen to you at the same time. Either way it may affect your performance at the beginning, but you and your husband should find ways to make you go back to be performing well
Also do you have the same concern about married men? If not why?
Married men usually put work much higher in priorities list. Why? I don’t know, it could be evolutionary trait or social but it is the fact. Also not getting pregnant and all your body messed up for months helps
Huh?! “Fact” based on your own perception?
It’s kids that really affect work. Being married should actually help you be more effective as long as your husband is a functioning adult who can take care of himself and share household responsibilities.
All the time. Don't all big banks in India have married women as CEOs? You should start with having a tough conversation with your future husband. It is best if your in laws have separate living arrangement. Set everyone's expectations in your new home from the beginning.
Congratulations, If you have found great husband than you will perform good in your next company
Curious, what about the married woman life do you think will cause friction at work?
The household chores and taking care of husband and in-laws.
Get a cleaning lady to come to the house once a week. Don’t live with in-laws.