How to Get Wife to be Attracted to Me?
We haven't had sex for over a year. Before you say TC, my TC is already higher than hers. I listen to everything she says. I dress well, smell good etc. Try to start getting her turned on, but she always ends up stopping me, saying that she is not in the mood.
Work out, and get 6 packs
She has somebody. Divorce and move on.
Can Indians divorce outside of India? Just curious.
I’m pretty sure you can divorce in the US.
She either has somebody or lesbian. OP, how is your looks? Was it arranged marriage?
6 feet, 195 lbs, no six packs but not obese either. If I lose 20 lbs, I would look as good as one can. No, not arranged marriage.
Okay, so you are not uggly?
She is fucking somebody else, it can’t get any clear than this. Sorry mate
Don't take advice from blind just talk yo her
She compares me to her friends' boyfriends or husbands, and that is also a problem I think...
Have an honest talk with her, ask why she always refuses sex. Go to marriage counseling. If you want to improve the marriage, tell her and see if she does too. If she does, great, start counseling. If not, do consider leaving
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Yup. You can’t live like this forever OP. Talk to her and dig deep down to the root of the problem, calmly. If she really isn’t attracted to you and there’s nothing you could do about it, leave. I’m sorry 🤷♂️. You could also see a marriage therapist.
Ask her to see a therapist. Be honest, tell her how you feel (honestly) "we haven't had sex in a long time and it frustrates me... What do I need to do, I am not a mind reader". P.S. imop women speak a much more subtle language of intention and desires than men. And I'm guilty of this too ... Very easy to be oblivious of their signals and how they percieve things their partners do. If you have children this is all the more important that you resolve your differences, and be willing to work on your problems regardless of if you stay together. If she declines (to go to therapy) go by yourself, if the relationship isn't worth working on for BOTH of you together, than you have your answer, but for children absolutely no reason to lay blame, and appropriate behavior is to show you can work together as their parents, and no lay blame. To clarify when I say ask "what I need to do?", Does not mean "what do I need to do for sex" ... Means: "what do I need to do to make sure you know I care about you"
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Maybe you’re too easy, and kissing ass is turning her off. She might like to get treated like a piece of meat.
That's tricky. She is kind of feminist, and I wouldn't risk something like that.
This happened to me to it sucks