I am in a relationship with a married man and emotionally invested with him. We talk everyday when he is driving to work, chat when he is putting his kids to sleep, and meet once a quarter. He is super responsive to my pings during the day but it slows down in the evening when he is home. We know almost everything about each other including interests, work, kids, health, desires, emotions, life, happiness, sadness, regrets, everyday things. He tells me he really likes me but can't divorce because of kids and social obligations. He remembers every touch of mine and I do too. It's killing. I keep thinking about it and it's giving me a headache. I really want to end this but I also really like him. What are some of the things I can do - do I cut him off suddenly one day or do I slowly get out of it? What else can I do?
TC?
It’s not a relationship. He is using you as his side chick. You have zero probability of being with him. If push comes to shove, he will dump you in a nanosecond
I think deep down I know this, and I cry everytime I realize this. I don't know how to get out of this.
You just get out of this position no matter how hard it will be. This will never end well
you guys are just fuck buddies. that's the reality
He will leave you the moment his wife finds out. And she will find out. I have seen it many times. He is lying to you both.
He said he is open to introducing me as a friend. Should I reduce the relationship to friendship?
No. Despite popular opinion, spouses are not stupid/oblivious.
Tell his wife, she deserves to know the truth. Then let her decide what to do.
He wouldn't tell his wife, we already discussed that. But he is open to introducing me as a friend.
There are three people involved. You are letting him control hold all the cards. Do you see how terrible that is?
Stop it immediately. You'll get over the emotions and there are other available guys. What you're doing is wrong. Don't be so desperate that you'll take being a side chick to a married man. There is no future in this and you're wasting your better years with this nonsense.
Suggest a threesome.
Eliminate the possibility of sex while he's married and watch how quickly your relationship with him dies.
We never had sex. We had some intimacy. I told him I don't want to get intimate anymore and he seemed ok. He told me to stay in touch with him as we currently are. I don't know if that's a mind game or if he really means it
Your feeling for him is nothing but gush of dopamine and oxytocin in your brain. It will normalize after few days eventually.
He’s using you for sex, be little sensible and let him fuck off
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Let him know ho you feel then break it off after a week or two later. Ya it sucks but dont cheat ypurself out of a fulltime partner.
Pun intended?
Pun intended?