For our entire (17 year) relationship, my wife doesn’t like to have sex often - maybe 2-3 times a month tops - and she can go years without it with no difficulty (we had a dry spell that lasted over 5 years). So often she had been saying she is “too tired,” so out of exasperation one day, I suggested “What if I do all the work?” and all of a sudden... She’s now been willing to have sex up to 4 times a week and is game for whatever “as long as she doesn’t have to move” (she clearly enjoys it in spite of being tired). Is this normal? An upgrade? What do you think of the situation?
She needs some black dick homie get me in there
You want a black dick? You got it in there.
I don’t think it’s normal, but I’ve been in that position. I was able to teach my partner to at least put some effort into it. It is really odd though.
If my bf was on blind, he would probably relate to you and ask the same question 😂
Why the sad face? I am not complaining, but this is the way my wife is. Actually what’s weird is she’ll lie there in a suggestive way, and it can be kind of hot sometimes. What’s also weird is that the only time she’s ever been able to orgasm is when she’s this tired and I do all the work. Who knows why...
What do you mean “who knows why?”. You have been together for all this time so you should know everything about her sexual preferences. Don’t people talk about these things? Experiment, ask, try pushing things, go and buy a bunch of toys. Have you tried strangling her? Tie her up? Maybe she likes you to do the work because she enjoys feeling powerless for a moment.
Maybe you found her fantasy. Maybe she wants you to be happy because she loves you and it doesn't take effort on her part. The only one who knows is her. Maybe you should ask her.
Those might be possible. I will ask her.
Is she overweight? Does she have a thyroid issue? She needs to find out why she’s too tired often - start with asking her ob gyn to run some tests including for thyroid function.
She’s pretty thin and had her thyroid checked previously (it came back normal). She isn’t just tired for no reason; at the end of the day watching two kids, taking them to activities, etc, I can understand it. Thanks for the suggestion though.
I prefer morning sex but bad breath ruins the game
Based on your age it's a big upgrade but for people like me we share all work and everything is normal in everything. No complaints. I feel your selfishness to have sex has made you open up your thinking and now found the solution :-) good that you didn't graze out.
I’m in my late 30s. How old did you think I was? It wasn’t about a selfishness to have sex. I love my wife and she’s my best friend, but for years we were sexually incompatible and it was a sticking point (mostly, never in the mood at the same time). We’ve finally discovered something that works for us (there are times she wants to and I’m the one who is willing; and as I mentioned in the post, the reverse is more often the case), but it seemed weird and unconventional. What did you mean by “graze out”? I never heard that expression before.
Help her with kids more often so she is less tired? Or hire a babysitter a couple days a week to give her a break?
I’d put some effort on this front
That’s a good idea. I travel a lot for work and work long hours so helping directly with the kids more isn’t always possible - but it’s a good suggestion. Thank you. Her mother also lives with us so we get a fair amount of help there.
The simple answer is your wife is a “lazy fuck”.
She has a flexidoll fetish
Congrats to you 🎊🎉🎈