I am a indian dude. I am talking to a few Indian women in the context of potentially getting married. Many of these women work in tech companies in the Bay Area. If someone is somewhat attractive, they are extremely arrogant. They seem dominating in nature, especially the MBA types. The engineering ones seem better except the ones from amazon seem really arrogant. These women expect the guy to throw their career and follow the future wife. I am inclined to throw in the towel and marry a non-indian who I seem to get along with and have better chemistry. Many of them don’t seem to be arrogant to that degree (I dated a non-Indian girl who is a asst professor in economics/gsb at stanford, and she was good). The tech Indian women say things like - do you know i work at amazon. I am senior management, etc. note that they are often 1-2 years out of grad schools or mbas. Blinders had suggested marrying Indian for less stress but it seems it is worse. Lots of stereotypes and PC incorrect statements here, but would love to get the community thoughts. Note - I am talking to these women on Shaadi.com where folks have short relationships with the goal of getting married in 3-6 months. Edit: TC: 650K, YOE: 5 assuming not counting grad school. Age:32 (I got asked these in private messages)
You act like you have so many prospects to choose from and marry. What makes you think all of these women even want to marry you?
Good question. I don’t know. However they are talking to me so I am assuming there is non zero interest.
If natural it will not seem so, if put on or fake because that's society thinks is powerful it will stand out like a sore thumb
Get your mom and dad to hook that up for you and import one. #problemsolved /eot
Marry a housewife. Else your life will be hell and you will get minimal sex. That too nothing funky for you like BJ.
They don't have anything to do after coming here.They will start eating your head in 2-3 months
If you don't give her the good dick, how can you expect her to go above and beyond for you..?
Why shouldn’t they be ? Given they had to fight innumerable stereotypes to reach where they are as compared to Indian men who are still spoon fed each day ( don’t take it personally but our female caretakers have royally spoiled us with all the attention that it makes us think we are the center of the universe ). Indian women are awesome. Just learn to give immense respect and absorb more from them then what you have to offer. And you will just do fine.
Lol another stereotype by momas boy. As an Indian male who had do jump through several loops, face family seperatation and abuse, deal with unfair reservation, I think you can keep your misandrist attitude somewhere else. Perphas your mom spoiled you in numerous ways, but comparing that with someone asking for validation from unknown person in a rude way is plain stupid. “Just learn to give them respect” Clear case of entitlement. Everyone has to gain the respect, take your ignorant self somewhere else.
You are reinforcing the Indian male stereotypes, not the women.
It's the wrong stereotype. It's that many Indians (of both genders) are generally full of bloviating garbage and devoid of humility and self-awareness; the signaling to signal ratio is off the charts. Say this as an Indian male. I'd totally date a random, smart American in lieu of a random, thinks-she-is-smart Indian (the same is true of many Indian men). To the OP: Keep away from MBA types (what I call high V, low M). They are the most confused people you can find, but utterly unaware of the limitations of their "profundity".
MBA women aren’t going to take shit from anyone ( Indian women or otherwise). It comes from competing with aggressive men at school and work. I’ve dated both American and Indian MBA women and it goes with the territory. If you think they are cocky, ignore them and move on. There are so many women out there.
I agree with this post .. I m a mba Indian women .. you have to be very aggressive to be here .. we had a class of 28 percent women and couldn’t achieve 30 percent coz they couldn’t find women ..
Be a good human. Period. Money, Status, Title, Power are irrelevant to happiness and family life. OP was talk relationships and these things should not define you.
Perhaps but do you envision having kids? You don’t need a man, but probably the kids will be better off if they had both a mom and a Dad. Also, as one ages, you need family and support systems. Emotional support and empathy. Both men and women. Btw, are you married?
Sounds as he wants a woman who earns her own money and successful but will be a quitter housewife do laundry cook and clean for him at home and then take care of kids. And oh, give him all her $$$
Lol so true
....I don’t think the women are the problem.
Explain.
I think OP has some issues dealing with confident women or is trying to date outside of his league. Also..talking to a few about marriage...wtf