Intern Crushes

Zynga FVcS45
Oct 15, 2017 331 Comments

So Im an intern and I really like one of the other interns. He's easy to get along and friendly with everyone in general. We talk to each other everyday at lunch and I kinda push to learn more about him. I don't know if he understands that I am interested in him and I can't tell if he likes me or not either. I honestly put way too much effort in the beginning to get to know him but now I toned it down because I can't tell if hez into me. What should I do? Should I just be friendly or tell him that I like him?

P. S. We also go to the same university

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  • New / Eng wut🤬
    Go big or go home!
    Oct 15, 2017 23
    • Snapchat / Eng
      ex-softie

      Snapchat Eng

      PRE
      Microsoft
      ex-softiemore
      How long this this thread gonna go. Enough advice already. OP, Send the guy a link to this thread. 😂
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Zynga Zyngite
      ahahahahahah I totally should and hope he gets the hint! 🤣
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Tableau onezeroone
      He may be being shy for the same reasons you are.
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Microsoft nambian
      Ask him for Farmville cash see how he reacts
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Intel kryanbirza
      No dont go big. Take it slow. Be friends and hamg around but not too much to be friendzoned. Try to go big after internship
      Oct 16, 2017
  • Microsoft HGqw60
    The leg cross from basic instinct should do the trick...
    Oct 15, 2017 5
    • Zynga FVcS45
      OP
      loool now I gotta do that to know?
      Oct 15, 2017
    • BlackBerry AdultDC🐉
      It only works if you are not wearing underwear and dress slightly provocatively
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Zynga FVcS45
      OP
      yeah not happening
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Airbnb 0x0000000C
      To those of us under 40 and don’t work at Microsoft, Basic Instinct is a movie from the early 90s where Sharon Stone uses her wiles to manipulate simple minded men.
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Bloomberg / Eng idFR43
      Hahaha I was just about to say likely someone interning now in 2017 has not seen that movie
      Oct 15, 2017
  • Amazon blurryface
    Keep doing what you do now and then ask him out when its your last day. That way if he is not interested things dont get awkward between you two.

    Btw men sometimes really dont pick up on the clues that interested women give off.
    Oct 15, 2017 4
    • Square dhBjhsj
      It's because we're demonized when wrong.
      Oct 15, 2017
    • New deew82
      Mostly we pretend not to when not interested.
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Amazon udev
      @dhBjhsj this times a million.
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Facebook / Eng nimblepoor
      So true, alphabet soup
      Oct 18, 2017
  • Square dhBjhsj
    This is really just a test to see how much gender assumption Blind is capable of.
    Oct 15, 2017 1
    • Zynga FVcS45
      OP
      loool I ain't testing anything.. the gender assumption is correct in this situation so nothing to worry!
      Oct 15, 2017
  • New / Eng wut🤬
    How long is the internship? My bet is if you're talking to him every day at lunch he has the same feelings. Maybe just find out if he already has a girlfriend and if not go for it!
    Oct 15, 2017 14
    • Zynga FVcS45
      OP
      aha thanks!! 2yrs? 😮 who made the first move?
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Google hQvrjflaHg
      To second some of the advice here, you have to ask him out outside of the usual contexts so that it's clear it's a "date". You don't have to use the word date, but it has to clearly be one. Just the two of you, doing something like coffee or drinks or dinner.

      But: if he says, "like a date?", the answer is a (perhaps shy) "yes". Don't deny it. If you deny it he'll think you're not interested and interpret everything through that lens.
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Zynga Zyngite
      aaah I see what you mean.. I was thinking of coffee but I'm too sure that he would just think it's a friendly stroll (which at this point I don't mind). We always have one other person when we are leaving work so it will kinda be weird especially if I plan somthing for just us two. Also, there is a high chance of my other friend tagging along with us as well.
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Wells Fargo oSEu52
      I made the first move, it was more of a situation where I was like “ F it, either she feels the same or she doesn’t” and, well.... she did! :)
      Oct 16, 2017
    • LinkedIn crem3
      You're making way too big of a deal out of this. Just casually ask if he wants to do _something/anything/doesn't matter_ after work some day that you both like just you two. Or tell him that you've really been wanting to see that new movie in the theaters. Or whatever. Just get out of the office. It doesn't matter if he says no it isn't into you. Better to know. Just GO FOR IT and stop fantasizing on blind.

      But of course, tell us everything. ;-)
      Oct 16, 2017
  • Intel fgvhurdc
    When I interned I was hooking up with another interns. We're all human, go for it. Even when I started full time, I was hooking up with interns.
    Oct 16, 2017 3
    • Microsoft gEFg84
      Keep it in your pants old man.
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Snapchat SnappedUp
      Intel ain't the only thing inside yo
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Intel / Other jdl90
      Bong bong bong bong
      Oct 16, 2017
  • Microsoft / Strategy program22
    Because when I think dating advice I think Blind!
    Oct 16, 2017 1
    • Microsoft cron
      Priceless
      Oct 17, 2017
  • Uber / Eng
    VshV06

    Uber Eng

    PRE
    Google
    VshV06more
    Serious question: how would you rate your attractiveness from 1 to 10? How about him?
    Oct 15, 2017 8
    • Amazon GooseWatch
      Let me guess, you're both Asian and you go to UWaterloo? 😂
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Zynga Zyngite
      ahahahahaha you got it! Asian but not oriental though
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Amazon GooseWatch
      Gotcha, good luck 😉
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Oracle / Sales Strongbo17
      Ask him out very politely then
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Uber / Eng
      VshV06

      Uber Eng

      PRE
      Google
      VshV06more
      Ask him casually for drinks after work
      Oct 16, 2017
  • Microsoft Gmaj58
    Sit in his lap and just talk about the first thing that comes up.
    Oct 16, 2017 4
    • Oracle / Other
      SafraCats

      Oracle Other

      BIO
      Keeper of Safra's cats.
      SafraCatsmore
      Wow. We’re all really impressed by your 90s bar jokes, Microsoft.
      Oct 16, 2017
    • VMware trollbully
      Well I got a chuckle out of it.

      I am going to use that line on gf when she gets out of the shower.
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Expedia / Eng
      Luvv

      Expedia Eng

      PRE
      Amazon
      BIO
      I'd rather have a full bottle in front of me than a full frontal lobotomy
      Luvvmore
      "Me too"
      Oct 16, 2017
    • VMware trollbully
      Follow up: she liked the joke and the needful followed.

      Great line.
      Oct 17, 2017
  • Microsoft Trance
    WTF is this, high school? Grow up.
    Oct 16, 2017 0
  • New / Eng vvlo
    Get back to work and stop hitting on your colleagues.
    Oct 16, 2017 2
    • Tableau Spartacus
      Except the old married guys. Flirt with them.
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Amazon oDSb37
      ^^ this
      Oct 18, 2017
  • Western Digital / Eng WDHW
    Ask him if he likes chocolate ice cream. If he says yes, say so do I, let’s fuck.
    Oct 16, 2017 1
    • Expedia / Eng
      ucantav

      Expedia Eng

      PRE
      Amazon
      BIO
      I'd rather have a full bottle in front of me than a full frontal lobotomy
      ucantavmore
      You give "hard drive" a whole new meaning
      Oct 22, 2017
  • Comcast / Product dj2dirk41
    Don't eat where you shit
    Oct 15, 2017 4
    • Facebook jacks
      Don't shit where you eat
      Oct 15, 2017
    • BlackBerry AdultDC🐉
      Both are perfectly acceptable
      Oct 15, 2017
    • Google / Eng ae521
      Just don't do both activities in the same place trust me
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Expedia / Eng
      Luvv

      Expedia Eng

      PRE
      Amazon
      BIO
      I'd rather have a full bottle in front of me than a full frontal lobotomy
      Luvvmore
      This. I was in a similar position. Things turned sour and it was a year of unadulterated emotional misery. I'm only now finding my bearings again. As God is my witness, I'd gladly cut off my schlong before venturing into another office romance.

      I don't work at Expedia anymore.
      Oct 16, 2017
  • Oracle / Other
    SafraCats

    Oracle Other

    BIO
    Keeper of Safra's cats.
    SafraCatsmore
    You’re getting started on the most important part of your career, and potentially, your life.

    Be direct. Just tell them how you feel, ask if they feel the same, and move forward. You don’t have time for flirtations right now, but a relationship would be helpful with someone who knows what your life is like.
    Oct 16, 2017 3
    • VMware kingjoffre
      thanks mom.
      Oct 16, 2017
    • VMware kingjoffre
      wait this is good advice. let's break it down so she won't mess up.
      1) tell them how you feel
      2) ask if they feel the same. this is important . don't forget this step.
      1 and 2 are atomic operations and tricky. it has to be done together and it can't be rolled back.
      3) after 1 and 2, move forward . don't just stand there staring at him. that's no good.

      run this in your head few times so you won't mess up.
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Google / Eng ungoogley
      Instructions unclear. Dick stuck in ceiling fan.
      Oct 16, 2017
  • Facebook Yesplz
    On a date I had the girl I liked told me about where folks make out and came up right to me a few times and I still missed the signs so..
    Oct 15, 2017 2
    • Salesforce / Eng rho
      legendary
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Facebook Yesplz
      I was like, why is she telling me this stuff? Is she cold or something? Oh well I'm just gonna stand here.
      Oct 16, 2017
  • Google iujS33
    Not sure if you're trolling or not; nevertheless, my reply is the same: this is not highschool, grow the fuck up.
    Oct 16, 2017 3
    • Nvidia beefy^
      from all the high school interns: fuck u
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Intel / Other jdl90
      From the rest of us: still not highschool, grow up.
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Nvidia beefy^
      hey intel the 1960s called they want their business model back
      Oct 16, 2017
  • Uber / Eng pepelele
    Pussy
    Oct 16, 2017 1
    • Amazon COrr70
      Stay classy as ever, Uber.
      Oct 16, 2017
  • Intel gpdshdcrd
    Learn not to shit where you eat and you might have a long and positive career. If I was him or her I would tactically decline your advances because if your feelings got hurt you could make work life HELL.
    Oct 16, 2017 2
    • Oracle / Other
      SafraCats

      Oracle Other

      BIO
      Keeper of Safra's cats.
      SafraCatsmore
      Stop telling people this crap.

      Only people who are frightened by the world use phrases like these. Success is for the bold.
      Oct 16, 2017
    • Microsoft iidhns
      Ridiculous, especially since they're interns. Tons of people start relationships at work, myself included, and it works out fine.
      Oct 16, 2017
  • Enjoy / Product
    SMØKECØINZ

    Enjoy Product

    PRE
    Enjoy
    BIO
    esports / cannabis / crypto / logistics / SaaS
    SMØKECØINZmore
    Have as much sex as your body and mind allow, ideally in a stairwell of your office. Make sure a TechCrunch reporter is present if at all possible.
    Oct 16, 2017 1
    • Tesla Jiggawatts
      I want video... Like straight on splash-zone close up, VR headset, FPV thrusting...
      Oct 16, 2017
  • New / Other
    thatGuy710

    New Other

    BIO
    InfoSec
    thatGuy710more
    Blow him at work
    Oct 16, 2017 1

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