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Losing Interest In Women

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Nov 29

For the past few months I’ve been slowly losing interest in women.

The main issue is that I’m in my 20s and all the girls my age have an overinflated ego because of all the validation they get from social media and online dating apps. This manifests through terrible personality traits, huge sense of entitlement and a lack of self awareness.

At this point I’m planning on going monk mode and focusing on my health & maximizing TC.

Anyone else in the same situation?

TC: 135k (in LA)

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  • Amazon / EngGHskann
    Same boat. Nothing you can do right now. Best option is to maximize TC. Once you’re older you can look for a younger girl that doesn’t live in a big city. City girls are for the most part very vapid and quite slutty.

    Which really sucks for everyone! It sucks for the men who have extra trouble finding high quality females, and it sucks even more for the women. The women end up wasting their youth sleeping around, and then one day they wake up and hit the wall — they realize they’ve become old. Then they settle for any schmuck that will take them... Which is completely suboptimal for everybody!
    Nov 2911
    • Amazon / EngGHskann
      But I do let women sleep with whoever they want. And I do just so happen to be a handsome catch. I just also want a partner that values their time and youth (which is a way to say, valuing themselves as a person) as much as I would value them.

      For me it’s not about getting laid but finding an optimal life partner.

      If the goal were to just get laid, then I wouldn’t be complaining! This is an optimal situation for getting laid.
      Nov 29
    • Microsoft / EngKennyH
      Agreed. Play the field too long and you’ll no longer be able to join a winning team and have to settle for fucking community softball
      Nov 29
    • PeerStreet / Other
      KnqJ7ah

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      @moka read these studies -

      https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3752789/

      https://m.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/more-sexual-partners-unhappy-marriage_us_5698440

      “According to researchers, the 23 percent of participants who only had sex with their spouse prior to getting hitched reported higher quality marriages versus those who had other past sexual partners as well.

      They claim this finding is especially true for women, writing in the report, "We further found that the more sexual partners a woman had had before marriage, the less happy she reported her marriage to be."”
      Nov 29
    • HPE / Engmoka
      Lol I’m not reading your fucking studies and Amazon guy sounds like an autistic robot based on the posts in this thread. Seems like both of you don’t really interact with women in the real world. Anyways, good luck to you gentlemen.
      Nov 29
    • Snapchat TSau32
      Haha boys are quite slutty REGARDLESS where they live too, so does that mean all girls are doomed?
      Nov 29
    • Facebook QgLd56
      “High quality females”

      Are we talking about humans or livestock? Jesus.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon / EngGHskann
      It’s called sexual market value. Yes this may blow your frail liberal mind but people are not all the same
      Nov 29
    • Facebook QgLd56
      I’m not saying that all people are the same. What I’m sick of is people thinking of women as objects to be acquired. That they exist for for the consumption and pleasure of men, and that any behavior contrary to that makes them vapid sluts.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon 123raj
      @GHskann is right. SMV is a real thing.
      @moka - you sound like a strong independent feminist who dont need no man.
      Nov 30
    • PeerStreet / Other
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      @QgLd56 when it comes to finding a life partner I have no qualms about calling a spade a spade.

      Countless studies show that women who sleep around are women who will be more emotionally damaged and unlikely to lead to a healthy relationship.

      It’s basic statistics, why wouldn’t you want the odds to be in your favor when deciding on such an important life decision?

      Also this is doubly important for men because family and divorce courts are heavily stacked against them.
      Nov 30
  • Facebook Rdfrt
    My wife and I have observed this inflated ego and expectations (way beyond their level of success and looks) in women in their 20s within our own extended family. My wife and I are both surprised by it and discuss how things have changed. We think many of them will end up old, without a partner and then complain they can't find the right guy (which they have already started doing).
    Nov 2920
    • LinkedIn / Eng
      Gill Bates

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      And what happens if your wife gets hit by a truck? Are you going to be unhappy for the rest of your life?

      If not, then no, your happiness is not dependent on your wife, it's just enhanced by it.
      Nov 29
    • New 5'6
      I don't agree with you @Gill Bates. The dependency you create on each other is bound to govern the happiness. That's exactly the reason why breakups are hard.
      Nov 29
    • LinkedIn / Eng
      Gill Bates

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      Codependency isn't generally viewed as healthy, but whatever floats your boat.
      Nov 29
    • Facebook Rdfrt
      @Gill Bates that's another level of stupidity! Sorry!

      What if my wife is not hit by a bus? Which has been the case everyday for 10+ years. You are living in a disconnected, shitty marriage if you want a wife but are so scared you don't want your lives to be entwined.
      Nov 29
    • New 5'6
      Agree with you @rdfrt. I don't think Gill Bates understands what a serious relationship means.
      Nov 29
    • Facebook QgLd56
      The point is that having a healthy relationship supplements the happiness of both people, that together you are greater than the sum of your parts, but that you do not cease to function without the other person. My happiness doesn’t hinge on my partner, but my life _is_ better with him in it.
      Nov 30
    • Facebook Rdfrt
      your definition of healthy is not same as mine. Mine would be that my happiness depends on being with my wife (and on her happiness) AND we are better as a team than the sum of our parts. But everyone must find their way.
      Nov 30
    • PeerStreet / Other
      KnqJ7ah

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      @Rdfrt sounds like a really toxic dynamic to be honest.

      If you can’t be happy on your own you are destined for failure in life.
      Nov 30
    • Facebook Rdfrt
      Whatever makes you happy.
      Nov 30
    • Women in their 20's are on top of the world! Their fertility gives them huge unnatural power over men (and older women)! Then when they turn 30 they are like spoiled fruit. They try to keep up-dating them but the powerful men want only women in their 20's. Meanwhile the not-so-powerful men who were barren of girlfriends in their 20's, reach their 30's get a crack at the 20-year old women.

      Let this be a lesson to women. Be humble about your sexual power, as it is fleeting, like all fame.
      Dec 8
  • Microsoft kvitka
    Being a girl, this post and all the comments are very sad to read. Hope you guys meet someone who'd boost your interest back to the initial level.
    Nov 295
    • Amazon / EngGHskann
      Agreed it is very sad. I wish it were different, but men and women relations in America are just in a really poor state.
      Nov 29
    • Microsoft kvitka
      I guess I've been lucky. I do live in a bubble, but coming from Eastern Europe myself and living in Seattle area for around 8 years, I don't see a big difference. You'll find gold diggers and other sort of things in any place around the globe, it's just a matter of your skills to filter those out fast.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon / EngGHskann
      I have no idea what East Europe is like, but here’s an article talking about a guy perspective in Seattle: https://jeffreifman.com/2018/08/10/an-update-on-the-distribution-of-men-and-women-dating-in-seattle/

      You made a good point about filtering. But on the flip side, it’s still lots of effort and the odds are not in our favor here.

      But in some cities like New York it’s actually easier for men (slightly). Lots of women try to go to NY for acting or other similar roles.
      Nov 29
    • Microsoft kvitka
      The article and all this dating distribution by state only makes it look worse, like it's some sort of hunting game and kills all the romantic part. I guess its harder for me to understand cuz I'm on the other side of the problem here. I've never done any dating apps just because I feel like they set up certain mood and expectations on the meeting couple, converting the date into an interview proceess. While any random acquaintances start naturally and flow that way. Doesn't mean you end up dating with that person, but at least won't have any frustration because you didn't have any expectations at all.
      Nov 29
    • Microsoft Lotl
      Older single men are the ones most affected as younger men start dating older women.
      Nov 29
  • Honestly I suggest working on yourself before throwing stones at how people behave in the dating word. You’re most likely not the catch you think you are. Improve yourself, focus on loving yourself, and others will be attracted to that. I’m personally not that handsome but have never had the issues with women that many men on here seem to internalize and dwell on.
    Nov 294
    • Also the women of planet earth don’t owe you anything lol try not to come off as entitled to a girl.
      Nov 29
    • PeerStreet / Other
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      I have no issues attracting girls, my issue is losing interest in them because of their mannerisms, personalities and sense of entitlement.

      If you’re okay with lowering your standards for your partner, that’s great, I’m happy for you. Unfortunately I don’t feel like I should compromise just because the dating market in your 20s is skewed toward women
      Nov 29
    • Are you in the bay? Might be something to do with the culture out there being pretty insular regardless of the “progressive” views of the area.

      Did you have the same experiences outside of be bay if you’ve done that?

      Just curious how Area specific this experience might be.
      Nov 29
    • NAVEX Global HollaBackG
      You are probably trying to date girls who are pretty but have no real personality.
      Nov 29
  • Google / DesignAngryBlob
    women are expected to bear less responsibility in life than men and they are forgiven more often then men. as a result they often don’t develop a high sense of objectivity and ownership over their actions, so they end up blaming others for their failures while being entitled and completely oblivious to what’s actually real.

    I don’t know if dating apps are making it worse or if LA is especially bad at this, but this is my general observation so far.
    Nov 298
    • Capital One / Mgmt
      mokka!!!

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      Perfect observation bro... these bit**es are money oriented
      Nov 29
    • NAVEX Global HollaBackG
      Bear less responsibility?! Women are expected to have kids, run a household, keep the whole family happy, AND have a career. You’re full of it.
      Nov 29
    • Google / DesignAngryBlob
      @hollabackG sorry, let me clarify. what I mean by less responsibility is that women are typically less self-reliant; they rely more on the man in the relationship to provide for the family, to be the emotional support in hardship, to be the voice of reason or the decision maker. this is very unfortunate because strong self-sufficient women are truly admirable and they have to go through a lot more shit to become what they are compared to strong men
      Nov 29
    • Amazon 123raj
      Angryblob is absolutely right.
      Nov 30
    • NAVEX Global HollaBackG
      It depends - these days, women earn the same or more money than men. But, I suppose there are some women who rely on their husbands/ boyfriends to earn most of the money.
      Nov 30
    • New / EngNakAmot0
      Even strong self sufficient , independent women push their load of responsibilities on to the man once they are in a relationship. I have personal experiences with so many women (as partners) and as friends who have BFs. Most of them change once they are in a relationship.
      Nov 30
    • Capital One / Legal
      SoWhat?

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      Perfect @NakAmot0... traditionally women always finding someone to depends on...so they will naturally follow the traits
      Nov 30
    • Amazon 123raj
      Completely agreed with nakamoto. You cant fight biology.
      Nov 30
  • Microsoft Mr 🌏
    Would you be interested in some gay anal sex?
    Nov 293
    • PeerStreet / Other
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      Honesty I sometimes wish I was, feels like dating with be so much easier as a gay man
      Nov 29
    • Indeed Cobol06
      LMAO the gays are promiscuous and shallow af too! What makes you think gays aren’t self-entitled whiners either?
      Nov 29
    • LinkedIn / Eng
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      FYI, my gay friends tell me that it's hard to develop long time relationships because so many men just want to sleep around. The struggle is real.
      Nov 29
  • Facebook AVCq23Bb
    Sounds like an overgeneralization of a bad experience you had with a few women. Dating sucks in general. As the guy, you are the one that generally has to put himself out there based on incomplete data about whether someone likes you. It's a process that is bound to lead to a lot of failure. But take advice from the startup scene and fail fast. Be resilient to failure, learn from your experience, and iterate on your approach. Move on if she isn't interested, there are literally millions of women out there, and they are all different. One of them is bound to be a good match for you. Don't waste time faulting the women who are not because they are probably a fair match for someone else.
    Nov 294
    • PeerStreet / Other
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      It just seems like my time could be better spent improving myself.

      The searching cost is way too high at this point, I’d rather just wait until the odds are in my favor
      Nov 29
    • Facebook AVCq23Bb
      Hey whatever is right for you. Improving yourself is an important activity. In fact being happy alone is a reasonable pre goal to being happy in a relationship.
      Nov 29
    • PeerStreet / Other
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      Yeah I think that’s my problem. I really enjoy my alone time (reading, writing, coding, working out, etc. ), so a girl has to really impress me to the point where:

      spending time with her > my alone time

      So far it seems like a hopeless endeavor but you’re right my dating pool has been a small sample size.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon / EngGHskann
      @OP that’s not a bad thing. The canonical female erotic fantasy is to woo a powerful, competent, and dangerous man with her beauty and wiles. They want to distract the man from his alpha male ongoings and focus on her. They want to socialize this man so that he’s principled and socially agreeable on her behalf.

      So for you, make yourself “available” to be “caught”, but keep improving yourself in the meantime. Men have the advantage that for a long time their sexual market value goes up as they get older. So you’ve got a lot of time left! It’s the young women that should be really scared, as their sexual market value starts declining at a much younger age. They have tremendous pressure to get their life situated at a much earlier age than us guys.

      So a great strategy for us guys is to just bide our time and develop ourselves until we find that girl we really want to pursue.
      Nov 29
  • Medallia hFEH36
    Follow the girl and she goes after money, follow the money and the girl will follow u
    Nov 292
    • Facebook QgLd56
      No. Sincerely, a woman.
      Nov 29
    • New 5'6
      It's a myth @medallia
      Nov 29
  • Amazon blinkers
    Yup same here.Looking to move to Europe for a while to see how are things out there.
    Nov 295
    • PeerStreet / Other
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      That’s a good idea, only concern is TC is severely impaired in Europe
      Nov 29
    • Amazon blinkers
      Lol I’m so depressed at this point I’m ok with a TC cut.
      Nov 29
    • Amazon 123raj
      Same .i'm thinking about it too. Blinkers you got a place in mind?
      Nov 30
    • Amazon blinkers
      France,Germany,Netherlands or England.France in particular
      Nov 30
    • Amazon 123raj
      Cool.
      Nov 30
  • Quantcast tt8675309
    Perhaps you should consider moving.. as that seems like quite the outlier audience in LA. Just my two cents.
    Nov 291
    • Nutanix classical
      Lol and move to Bay area, where it's probably even worse.
      Nov 29
  • Apple NDxS32
    Ironic—I’m a girl and I have the same problem but for guys. Early 20s and think all guys my age are way too conceited and oftentimes irresponsible. The pendulum swings both ways :)
    Nov 296
    • Microsoft Mr 🌏
      Would you be interested in finding a scissor sister?
      Nov 29
    • Capital One / Mgmt
      mokka!!!

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      May be she already has one
      Nov 29
    • Nutanix classical
      As a guy who was responsible 20 yo and had other responsible 20 yo friends, what I have observed is often times girls would go for the rather shiniest/popular(often for wrong reasons) guy out there and would show no interest in the nicer guy despite him is being perfectly normal, interesting and has substance. And then they would complain about how that guy cheated or was irresponsible or how therr are no good guys left. Well it wasn't really surprising for the guy who saw though. Obviously, this is huge generalization, but back from school to grad school I have seen this way too often than otherwise. I think in much later 20s things get better.

      PS> as the guy who has been friendzoned twice (never again, been years now since then) I have even heard the complains about not enough right guys (after I got turned down, we remained decent friends for years).
      Nov 29
    • Capital One / Legal
      SoWhat?

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      Women have many choices then guys dude.. so for good “nice” boys they feel not competitive.. they know even a simple smile is enough to get a lifetime commitment from that guy.. women are looking for excitement with fun and including risks hence they choose the guys that they also know who are known as bad boys... they know at any point of life they are able to get “nice” husband type “material” ... now it’s obvious that in sex both are enjoying right? So when she gets the bad boy she thinks she gets the control over the bull... but when she is tired enough or wanted to startled down she will find a “nice” guy... women are mostly double standards...
      Nov 29
    • Nutanix classical
      Being nice does not implies being gullible. Being nice doesn't mean the sex won't be good, or they are boring. Being nice just means, we treat people with respect and honesty. It never means that being nice means you would just get into relationship with any next girl, or lack the basic intelligence to decide which person is good or bad for you.
      Nov 29
    • Capital One / Legal
      SoWhat?

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      While I agree with you... this is what women feels boring... women in public I mean if you ask them in public will say she like honest and respectful men... but what they really attracted to is different...

      What I meant to describe is... women can’t be understood... because they themselves are confused being... what you need to introspect is what kind of relation you want ? Just a causal sex relation that may last for sometime and move to next or a relation for lifetime ? Being assumed you are that one of the “nice” guy you may wanted to be in second type of relationship... women at different stage have different needs...

      13+ to 20s mostly in sex not in relationships (they say they are but they don’t). Because they have many things in mind - career, society, sexuality, and hell lot of ego.... because her body is her insurance to get what she needs...

      20s+ to 40s are in experimental stage... where socially they want to Settled but sexually, mentally and emotionally she still wanted to experience multiple relationships... I mean she is still checking her options.. who will not choose multiple options if they have .... now she knows that her looks are not that charming and there are lots of competition in market due to new girls.. she soon have to find a “nice” insurance policy (guy). But still the beauty ego is there...

      40s are the women that knows that now she is already old and if she didn’t find a right guy she will lost her insurance... completely...so mostly she will find “nice” guys and expect commitment from him.. and they will mostly stick with this men...

      Now above observation is not for all women... as always there are exceptions but mostly (may be 90%) these are the cases and hence you will notice there are maximum divorce till age 40s from women side...

      If you notice mostly heroins getting married at old age if they marry young they mostly divorced later... take any celebrity...

      While men and women both mostly misuse the power They have... women have naturally a power called beauty and obviously there are less women compare to men ... so they have more social dominance to choose partners.. and for that they have their own female ego..

      Believe me my friend women ego is far more dangerous and brutal then male ego...
      Nov 29
  • Indeed Cobol06
    Look for Asian chicks... they’re EASY AF as long as you’re a non-obese white dude.
    Nov 291
    • Capital One / Mgmt
      mokka!!!

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      Yes because she is interested in getting citizenship
      Nov 29
  • Amazon allanact
    Yeah same situation... my drive was so low I thought I was sick. Then another friend in his 20s mentioned he had the same problem.

    We are facked
    Nov 291
    • Amazon 123raj
      It'll come around when you're in 30s. Just wait it out. What goes up ..must come down.
      Nov 30
  • Amazon airohpsid
    MGTOW
    Nov 290
  • RealSelf / Design
    JIGJOGJAG

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    Maybe it’s the type of women you’re attracted to
    Nov 290
  • Microsoft yFJf66
    Seen a lot of girls with over inflated ego but didn't give up still trying to find that one person.
    Nov 290
  • Google Deqd18
    TC?
    Nov 290
  • Nutanix classical
    I'm just happy to know that I'm not the only one in this boat. Whatever, the definition of "right guy" is nowadays, I'm sure I can't make it anymore. You get advice like, work on yourself and what not shit, as if there is something horribly wrong with us. Sorry, but I'm done trying to be exceptional for usually average ladies. If I'm really that hard working, I would prefer be great at something else like my job, music or something which doesn't feel that unfair and at this point feels much more rewarding.
    Nov 293
    • New 5'6
      Your comment makes me sad. I hope you find love soon. There's nothing wrong with you, trust me on this 🙂. Also, there's nothing called exceptional or average, we all are somewhere on an infinite spectrum. You might be better at something and the girl in other things. A good idea would be to view it as a mismatch in what you two want than classifying people as average/exceptional.

      Good luck to you. Let us know when you make good progress with your job, music, etc 🙂
      Nov 29
    • Nutanix classical
      Thanks for the kind words. You are right about infinite spectrum. It's just that once it happens enough times, i.e. at macro scale, these "mismatch" just seem like BS when everything went well. Individually sure, it's ok, I barely knew the person so whatever. It never was supposed to be this hard.

      Thanks again. Got into FAANG few months ago and love the new job, so everything going well in that domain. I'm gonna focus more on these aspects of life now which I can control better.
      Nov 29
    • New 5'6
      I see your point. I have refused a ton of guys whom I had good conversations with because we didn't align on our relationship/life goals. You never know what the other person is judging you on and what his/her priorities are for the kind of person he/she wants. I agree with your point about how it wasn't supposed to be this hard. Dating game is getting tougher for guys, not just because of the skewed ratio but more because we all have lesser tolerance, lesser commitment, and very different lifestyle choices which we don't want to compromise on (includes myself).

      Congrats on getting into faang. I am glad you love your new job. I hope things continue to be great for you in all aspects. Good luck.
      Nov 29
  • RackWare Dreamlight
    No offense, mid 20s are the worst in terms dating. Women start to take it more seriously when they reach 30 and above. Speaking from personal experience.
    Nov 292
    • Capital One / Legal
      SoWhat?

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      Yes they are real serious after 40+...
      Nov 29
    • Facebook Rdfrt
      Lol
      Nov 29
  • Amazon / MgmtKYuG83
    Go monk mode man, and if you are coupled with “ms. right for now” while waiting for “mrs. right,” to stay sane, that is forgivable.

    I know this is crazy advice, but truly works. I went monk and focused on my health, wealth, and wisdom as a man. I sextupled my TC in a span of 6 years, sprung away in net worth, became very healthy and much more attractive. What I didn’t realize was I was also “riding out” my 20’s until I got to my 30’s, which is a fantastic time to be a man.

    The reality is that women date older, men date younger... usually. So as the time scale progresses, you will have more dating oppty. A woman in her 20’s dates men in 20’s+, while you date women only in their 20’s. They have a bigger pool than you. A woman in her 30’s dates 30’s+, while you can date her and the women in their 20’s too. Women hit a cliff and men just soar off the runway in their 30’s.

    Sorry you are frustrated that women don’t want you now, but they will later. Don’t try to get married before 30, make yourself healthy wealthy and wise, ride it out, and better opportunities will await you. All those women who rejected you in your 20’s? Trust me, you will do better.
    Dec 10
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    You want to see overinflated ego? Have you met men in tech?
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    • Facebook Rdfrt
      But they actually are much more successful than the women in question, in most cases.
      Nov 30
    • Spotify
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      Making more money doesn’t mean you’re a better person. But yeah- many of the successful women have a degree of imposter syndrome so they have lower egos than less successful women, regardless of inherent goodness, so to speak
      Nov 30
    • Intuit Merc77
      Women have egos too, try working at a place that’s all women... yeah... it’s no better.
      Nov 30
  • New monomo
    Why don't you just fuck and forget?
    Nov 292
    • Capital One / Mgmt
      mokka!!!

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      Perfect use her hole don’t find heart... women doesn’t have heart or mind... they are full of holes
      Nov 29
    • New monomo
      Even if you're satirical, fuck and forget is the best thing to do
      Nov 29
  • Osmo uaDX03
    This will sound silly but try to get into pickup. Look up RSD Tyler on YouTube. Learning about this has completely changed the way I interact with women. My dating life is a million time better now and I actually enjoy women nature as opposed to being clueless and bitter as in my early 20a.

    Don’t fall in the MGTOW bullshit these are mostly bitter losers. Also don’t try to attract women with your career and money. Become confident and charismatic enough that women will sleep with you BEFORE they know about your nice career and tech money. AFTER they sleep with you then you can show them how smart and rich you are and trust me they will LOVE you. Then you can have a relationship on your own terms.

    Here’s a good video to start with.

    https://youtu.be/ICDlE3uDTC4
    Nov 291
    • PeerStreet / Other
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      I was into RSD back in 2013, met Tyler at one of his events, etc.

      Learning social dynamics was great, very important during my college years.

      The trouble is not attracting women but staying interested. It may be because I have high standards but honestly it’s so hard finding a girl that doesn’t have major red flags
      Nov 29
  • Intuit Merc77
    Don’t look for girls in the same city, that’s pretty much like trying to date a co-worker. Gotta look outside of your area. Don’t eat where you also go to the bathroom.
    Nov 291
    • Microsoft Mr 🌏
      You never bring snacks to the bathroom for pooping?
      Nov 29
  • Williams Lea Tag / MktgGayDude
    Well...Let me say HELLO to you 😎🤣🤣
    Nov 290
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    Try dating non-white girls from the more ghetto neighborhoods.
    Nov 290
  • Capital One AggieDev
    You need to go where there are quality women, pick some where in the south with a large metroplex within 100 miles and top ranking universities.
    Nov 295
    • Capital One AggieDev
      Hell, I’ll just say it, you need to go Texas bro... unless you are a socialist in which case you need to re-evaluate your life and stay as far away until you realize socialist policies contribute to pretty much all evil in life and change your mind.

      Libertarian baby.
      Nov 29
    • Capital One / Mgmt
      mokka!!!

      Capital OneMgmt

      BIO
      I am fucking awesome 😎
      mokka!!!more
      Why Texas ?
      Nov 29
    • Google / DesignAngryBlob
      😍
      Nov 30
    • Capital One AggieDev
      Straight up, in Texas we have more pride in our state than ourselves. Hell, a lot of us have more pride in Jesus than our state. At the end of the day a person can only be so “Great” and Texans are already great because they’re Texans.

      I guess what I’m saying is, no one here needs to prove their the shit if they’re a Texan. It quite literally comes with the territory.

      So if you can get over not being a Texan, whoever you find here most likely won’t be all into themselves (unless your looking in city center of a metroplex). Nah, that girl will be into things much bigger than herself because it’s how we are bred here.

      You wave and greet people on the street. You pull over when you see an accident. You bring cookies around the neighborhood at Christmas time. You sign up to help charter food to the new family of three. You pitch in and help your community.

      Now the trick is.... the person either needs to be a Texan, or claim it over wherever they are from.

      Ideally you want to be within 100 miles of a top ranking university so you have higher chances of finding someone who is into her college and therefore educated.

      You want a city around to increase the chances she is progressive enough to get what you do for a living.

      If she’s a Christian, oh boy you hit the jackpot. They may not be as “dangerous” but they make great life partners and are taught self sacrifice.
      Nov 30
    • Capital One / Legal
      SoWhat?

      Capital OneLegal

      BIO
      Go watch porn... Not my stats
      SoWhat?more
      I hope you are correct... I am in Texas though 😍
      Nov 30
  • Google fucktard
    why don’t u gain interest in guys instead
    Nov 292
    • Capital One / Mgmt
      mokka!!!

      Capital OneMgmt

      BIO
      I am fucking awesome 😎
      mokka!!!more
      He is not gay... stupid
      Nov 29
    • Williams Lea Tag / MktgGayDude
      😎🤣
      Nov 29
  • OpenTable Meliodas
    Try looking outside LA.

    Or, go for cougars, they know what they want and don’t play girl games.
    Nov 291
    • Amazon airohpsid
      Cougars play games. Games are almost inescapable.
      Dec 2
  • Amazon $$$$$$$$__
    We're not interested in you either
    Nov 300
  • Intuit ZeroSnark
    Holy fuck I’m glad i got out of my 20s. Feel for you friend
    Nov 290
  • IBM
    84u74u4i

    IBM

    PRE
    Blue Origin
    84u74u4imore
    Have you tried pegging?
    Nov 290
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  • Salesforce rcno01
    That's a good thing actually, you're gonna stop putting them on a pedestal
    Nov 290
  • New / EngApollon
    If you meet a few people and they suck then I’ll believe you. But if everyone you see suck then maybe you should reflect on yourself including your approach and your sample size. Are you aiming for the hottest ones in LA while not being ones yourself? What dating apps are you using? I hope it’s not Tinder. Now think of this like applying to FANG. Is Google gonna take you just because you are a nice guy?
    Nov 303
    • PeerStreet / Other
      KnqJ7ah

      PeerStreetOther

      PRE
      Amazon
      KnqJ7ahmore
      OP
      I don’t use dating apps, odds are stacked against most guys (top 1% get 80% of matches. Most of the girls I meet are through friends or communities I’m part of.

      My issue isn’t attracting girls - I have no problem going out and hooking up with a “hot girl”. My issue is the interest/attraction drops soon as I discover the baggage and poor attitude/personality
      Nov 30
    • Capital One / Legal
      SoWhat?

      Capital OneLegal

      BIO
      Go watch porn... Not my stats
      SoWhat?more
      at OP... yes I agree with you... as I told earlier.. whoever is powerful will misuse his/her power because it’s easily available to them... hot girls will use their looks as her power so their attitude is always shitty:. Because she get so many options... and that’s ok.. it means you are a “nice” guy and needs someone who is more realistic,practical and respectful then just showing off her self... now that’s a tough requirement because now a Days ... physicality and sexuality is dominating the relationship and not genuineness and love... that makes you a good person who doesn’t like shit and that is good... stick to your morals and don’t date such women who have attitude issues...
      Nov 30
    • Nutanix classical
      My clique of friends doesn't include any girls till second hop I guess :( Meeting girls socially like back in school is definitely better.

      So left with apps or meetups. Both suck IMO. People keep suggesting meetups, but it's again a sausage fest or old people, and you are not likely to meet same people again and again, nor can you make it to same meetup every time.
      Nov 30
  • Microsoft TonyM
    Women are all that really matter. Everything else including TC are tools to get yourself the best woman you can. What’s the point of the other stuff without women? It’s time for you to get serious and double down on your opportunities
    Nov 291
  • Google QNrQ72
    You sound like a “nice guy”
    Nov 300
  • Lyft Barack
    Market economics are real.
    While in CA you have opportunities for career and TC.
    You don't have romantic nor sexual opportunities.
    Once your priorities change, you can move to NYC.
    Nov 290
  • Yelp Doberman
    JFC this thread is sad AF to read, mainly because it’s an understandable perspective.

    Good luck, don’t give up.
    Dec 30
  • Williams Lea Tag / MktgGayDude
    mokka!!! - you don’t like women. Why are you asking 🤣🤣
    Nov 290
  • New / Designm.vignelli
    Timely investigation from Atlantic “Why Millennials are having less sex” https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/
    Nov 290
  • OP, are you a man or woman?
    Nov 290

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