For the past few months I’ve been slowly losing interest in women.
The main issue is that I’m in my 20s and all the girls my age have an overinflated ego because of all the validation they get from social media and online dating apps. This manifests through terrible personality traits, huge sense of entitlement and a lack of self awareness.
At this point I’m planning on going monk mode and focusing on my health & maximizing TC.
Anyone else in the same situation?
TC: 135k (in LA)
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Which really sucks for everyone! It sucks for the men who have extra trouble finding high quality females, and it sucks even more for the women. The women end up wasting their youth sleeping around, and then one day they wake up and hit the wall — they realize they’ve become old. Then they settle for any schmuck that will take them... Which is completely suboptimal for everybody!
For me it’s not about getting laid but finding an optimal life partner.
If the goal were to just get laid, then I wouldn’t be complaining! This is an optimal situation for getting laid.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3752789/
https://m.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/more-sexual-partners-unhappy-marriage_us_5698440
“According to researchers, the 23 percent of participants who only had sex with their spouse prior to getting hitched reported higher quality marriages versus those who had other past sexual partners as well.
They claim this finding is especially true for women, writing in the report, "We further found that the more sexual partners a woman had had before marriage, the less happy she reported her marriage to be."”
Are we talking about humans or livestock? Jesus.
@moka - you sound like a strong independent feminist who dont need no man.
Countless studies show that women who sleep around are women who will be more emotionally damaged and unlikely to lead to a healthy relationship.
It’s basic statistics, why wouldn’t you want the odds to be in your favor when deciding on such an important life decision?
Also this is doubly important for men because family and divorce courts are heavily stacked against them.
If not, then no, your happiness is not dependent on your wife, it's just enhanced by it.
What if my wife is not hit by a bus? Which has been the case everyday for 10+ years. You are living in a disconnected, shitty marriage if you want a wife but are so scared you don't want your lives to be entwined.
If you can’t be happy on your own you are destined for failure in life.
Let this be a lesson to women. Be humble about your sexual power, as it is fleeting, like all fame.
You made a good point about filtering. But on the flip side, it’s still lots of effort and the odds are not in our favor here.
But in some cities like New York it’s actually easier for men (slightly). Lots of women try to go to NY for acting or other similar roles.
If you’re okay with lowering your standards for your partner, that’s great, I’m happy for you. Unfortunately I don’t feel like I should compromise just because the dating market in your 20s is skewed toward women
Did you have the same experiences outside of be bay if you’ve done that?
Just curious how Area specific this experience might be.
I don’t know if dating apps are making it worse or if LA is especially bad at this, but this is my general observation so far.
The searching cost is way too high at this point, I’d rather just wait until the odds are in my favor
spending time with her > my alone time
So far it seems like a hopeless endeavor but you’re right my dating pool has been a small sample size.
So for you, make yourself “available” to be “caught”, but keep improving yourself in the meantime. Men have the advantage that for a long time their sexual market value goes up as they get older. So you’ve got a lot of time left! It’s the young women that should be really scared, as their sexual market value starts declining at a much younger age. They have tremendous pressure to get their life situated at a much earlier age than us guys.
So a great strategy for us guys is to just bide our time and develop ourselves until we find that girl we really want to pursue.
PS> as the guy who has been friendzoned twice (never again, been years now since then) I have even heard the complains about not enough right guys (after I got turned down, we remained decent friends for years).
What I meant to describe is... women can’t be understood... because they themselves are confused being... what you need to introspect is what kind of relation you want ? Just a causal sex relation that may last for sometime and move to next or a relation for lifetime ? Being assumed you are that one of the “nice” guy you may wanted to be in second type of relationship... women at different stage have different needs...
13+ to 20s mostly in sex not in relationships (they say they are but they don’t). Because they have many things in mind - career, society, sexuality, and hell lot of ego.... because her body is her insurance to get what she needs...
20s+ to 40s are in experimental stage... where socially they want to Settled but sexually, mentally and emotionally she still wanted to experience multiple relationships... I mean she is still checking her options.. who will not choose multiple options if they have .... now she knows that her looks are not that charming and there are lots of competition in market due to new girls.. she soon have to find a “nice” insurance policy (guy). But still the beauty ego is there...
40s are the women that knows that now she is already old and if she didn’t find a right guy she will lost her insurance... completely...so mostly she will find “nice” guys and expect commitment from him.. and they will mostly stick with this men...
Now above observation is not for all women... as always there are exceptions but mostly (may be 90%) these are the cases and hence you will notice there are maximum divorce till age 40s from women side...
If you notice mostly heroins getting married at old age if they marry young they mostly divorced later... take any celebrity...
While men and women both mostly misuse the power They have... women have naturally a power called beauty and obviously there are less women compare to men ... so they have more social dominance to choose partners.. and for that they have their own female ego..
Believe me my friend women ego is far more dangerous and brutal then male ego...
We are facked
Good luck to you. Let us know when you make good progress with your job, music, etc 🙂
Thanks again. Got into FAANG few months ago and love the new job, so everything going well in that domain. I'm gonna focus more on these aspects of life now which I can control better.
Congrats on getting into faang. I am glad you love your new job. I hope things continue to be great for you in all aspects. Good luck.
I know this is crazy advice, but truly works. I went monk and focused on my health, wealth, and wisdom as a man. I sextupled my TC in a span of 6 years, sprung away in net worth, became very healthy and much more attractive. What I didn’t realize was I was also “riding out” my 20’s until I got to my 30’s, which is a fantastic time to be a man.
The reality is that women date older, men date younger... usually. So as the time scale progresses, you will have more dating oppty. A woman in her 20’s dates men in 20’s+, while you date women only in their 20’s. They have a bigger pool than you. A woman in her 30’s dates 30’s+, while you can date her and the women in their 20’s too. Women hit a cliff and men just soar off the runway in their 30’s.
Sorry you are frustrated that women don’t want you now, but they will later. Don’t try to get married before 30, make yourself healthy wealthy and wise, ride it out, and better opportunities will await you. All those women who rejected you in your 20’s? Trust me, you will do better.
Don’t fall in the MGTOW bullshit these are mostly bitter losers. Also don’t try to attract women with your career and money. Become confident and charismatic enough that women will sleep with you BEFORE they know about your nice career and tech money. AFTER they sleep with you then you can show them how smart and rich you are and trust me they will LOVE you. Then you can have a relationship on your own terms.
Here’s a good video to start with.
https://youtu.be/ICDlE3uDTC4
Learning social dynamics was great, very important during my college years.
The trouble is not attracting women but staying interested. It may be because I have high standards but honestly it’s so hard finding a girl that doesn’t have major red flags
Libertarian baby.
I guess what I’m saying is, no one here needs to prove their the shit if they’re a Texan. It quite literally comes with the territory.
So if you can get over not being a Texan, whoever you find here most likely won’t be all into themselves (unless your looking in city center of a metroplex). Nah, that girl will be into things much bigger than herself because it’s how we are bred here.
You wave and greet people on the street. You pull over when you see an accident. You bring cookies around the neighborhood at Christmas time. You sign up to help charter food to the new family of three. You pitch in and help your community.
Now the trick is.... the person either needs to be a Texan, or claim it over wherever they are from.
Ideally you want to be within 100 miles of a top ranking university so you have higher chances of finding someone who is into her college and therefore educated.
You want a city around to increase the chances she is progressive enough to get what you do for a living.
If she’s a Christian, oh boy you hit the jackpot. They may not be as “dangerous” but they make great life partners and are taught self sacrifice.
Or, go for cougars, they know what they want and don’t play girl games.
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My issue isn’t attracting girls - I have no problem going out and hooking up with a “hot girl”. My issue is the interest/attraction drops soon as I discover the baggage and poor attitude/personality
So left with apps or meetups. Both suck IMO. People keep suggesting meetups, but it's again a sausage fest or old people, and you are not likely to meet same people again and again, nor can you make it to same meetup every time.
While in CA you have opportunities for career and TC.
You don't have romantic nor sexual opportunities.
Once your priorities change, you can move to NYC.
Good luck, don’t give up.