Is it OK to become close to your direct reports as a manager? I was promoted to a management position recently, and most of my direct reports are my ex-coworkers. It's little hard to convert my relationship with most of my guys. Please advise.
Things won't be the same as they were and they shouldn't be. At some points the distance will feel uncomfortable. You may feel as if you are "missing out" if they go to lunch or a happy hour and don't invite you. Don't be discouraged. You are evolving into a new role and owe it yourself and the business to lead your team versus getting caught up in play time. It can be lonely at the top, so you should find ways to engage your team but in a productive way. The benefit is you've likely already established trust and respect, which are crucial in motivating others. Good luck!
Great knowledge. Thank You. I AM learning a lot, as time goes.
Keep it business. less personal it'll be easier for ypurself
Just use a condom
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You will have to lie to your friends. You will become 'The man' and at least one will think they are more qualified than you and it's unfair. You'll survive.
I had way more fun and way less money when I was at the bottom.
Seek out a peer who has done a similar transition. You're going to eventually have to have tough conversations. Ask your HR for guidance (if you have decent HR). I would advise against going out and drinking heavily with your team. As your team turns over it will become easier too.
Consider a transfer to another facility, if possible. I changed facilities, keeping the promotion...and it is so so much easier that way. Dont know the people here, and they dont question what I say
Been there. Distance will come naturally.
So, is that negative distance or positive ?
Depends. You can maintain a good relationship but there's information you've that they don't and you decide on their salaries. You also keep them accountable. You're just not a part of the gang anymore, or well, of that gang.