Not looking for judgment here, I know cheating is wrong but now that it has happened, should I tell my wife or is ignorance a bliss ? I’ve heard women say that they were more hurt by the lying and not the act of cheating itself, is that true ? Also do the details and who it happened with matter ? Like will it make things worse?
Do not tell... if she cares about you deeply, she would be heart broken by your act; if she does not care about you, there is no point to tell either. Just make sure she won’t find out by herself, which will make things even worse...
That's a Hitler strategy.
No need... if you have beautiful married life... it’s a mistake and make sure you don’t repeat it... she may have past and she may also not telling you... some mistakes/truth are better hidden then revealed...
It looks like you are harvesting bad feelings because of your actions and now you’re trying to dump those bad feelings on your wife. You made your decision. You should bear the burden of the negative emotions that follow, not her.
Never thought a Trump guy would be this thoughtful 😂 keep it up and for God sake don't hate liberals 😛
I don’t hate anyone
You need to tell her. The lying and covering it up is worse. And she doesn’t need the details, save her that humiliation. No judgment, but you need to be honest with your wife, no matter the cost. Many couples can survive infidelity
Nope... they seems survive because of kids but their internal relationships always ruined... she will do what she can do even after she come to knows... till that time why to create bad situation ?
This. She WILL find out eventually. And trust will be destroyed. Waaay more painful finding out on your own because you're left realizing you were a complete fool trusting this person and here they are going out of their way to hide stuff from you (no matter if it's well-intentioned). Honestly, you're fucked if you do and you're fucked if you don't. Best way to decide: do you want to rip the band-aid or let the wound scab over the band-aid and THEN yank the band-aid. And yes, it is a bit selfish telling her, but it's a lot more selfish leaving her in the dark. She has the right to make the best decision for her life, and you withholding critical information that could help her make impactive life decisions isn't fair. If she sticks around and decides to work it out with you, she'll lose all trust in you and you'll likely be patrolled/surveyed and that will likely annoy you and cause more problems.. So ya fucked if you do, fucked if you don't. Good luck! Edit: you know your wife best, you should know how she'll more or less interpret you telling her. She may think that by you telling her and admitting guilt it's indicative that you're not interested in maintaining the marriage. OR she might feel like you're genuinely sorry and want to work on the marriage. Who knows *shrugs* not me. But YOU should have a better idea.
You guilty so want hurt wife now. Don't do it
I would go to a therapist and come to terms with the act. Then completely quit cheating. Never do it again and just move forward
Tough one. Good luck man. Just .... temptation is all over, truth has a funny way of coming to light. Unless it was a paid professional who’s prides themself in being discreet about your affair. Option 3: deny till you die ~ ari gold. You have two other better options.
Upvoted for ari
They say that they want to know but in the end they wish they hadn’t. Especially if life was good.
^ this
You should come clean. If your marriage is meant to be you guys will come out of this stronger than ever.
This must be a women reply... 😜 don’t be the hero that shows in movie... there is difference between real life and movies
That sucks man