Moving to LA from SF...good decision or not?

Macy's FOpI30
Jun 23 34 Comments

I’m 24 & I’ve been living in SF for 2 years and I honestly just feel kind of over it. I’m naturally very social but I’ve never felt more isolated in my life, mainly because it’s just hard to get around in this city & I’m just out of energy by the time I’m done with work. Rent is so high. The dating scene doesn’t seem to be too great either. I’m also tired of constantly being harassed and cat-called. I work in tech but I don’t think I’m so passionate about it where I have to live in a tech-hub. I don’t think this is the best place for a woman to live. It’s a beautiful city and I’m grateful for my experience here so far, but I’m ready for a change. Has anyone relocated from SF to LA? What are the biggest differences?


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TOP 34 Comments
  • Amazon Jefbeesos
    How about Seattle? It is far more welcoming to women than SF.
    Jun 23 3
    • How ?
      Jun 23
    • Amazon I5swfi
      She said she wants a better social life and dating scene, not San Francisco 2.0.
      Jun 23
    • BqcQ58
      Sf 2.0 hahaha
      Jun 23
  • Uber john_list
    Not sure how it’s hard to get around in SF that’s actually one of the major perks versus LA where everything is spread out and traffic sucks. You really can’t get around in LA, it’s like 5x worse than SF.

    That’s the main issue with LA though. Everything else is good, also people are much more diverse. You will find more artsy people, or just people doing different stuff. SF people fall into 2 categories 1 tech person or 2 homeless person
    Jun 23 0
  • New lbuy82
    As long as you have a job and live close to work or can handle traffic, you will love LA. Tech jobs are much harder to come by but everything else in LA is far superior.
    Jun 23 0
  • Facebook pYB6xj
    Playa Vista and Santa Monica are becoming as expensive as SF. Downtown, Koreatown, Venice and Sunset boulevard have a lot of homeless people too.
    The city might be more interesting to live in because of more diverse population, but it isn't low COL as some people think.
    Jun 23 2
    • Amazon CsRr26
      Santa Monica is nowhere near as expensive as dtsf
      Jun 23
    • Facebook pYB6xj
      Santa Monica near the beach matches DTSF cost. Santa Monica far away from the beach matches San Bruno.
      Jun 23
  • Did you find a job already in LA?
    Jun 23 2
    • Macy's FOpI30
      Yes, I’m transferring with my current company because there’s a firm down there (my blind profile has my old company). The nice part is I get to keep my SF salary.
      Jun 23
    • That’s awesome. Congrats. I think SF salary in LA will make you feel rich there
      Jun 23
  • New / Finance ASdT78
    what?! better dating scene in LA?! did you drunk post this? you know LA is called la-la land for a reason!
    Jun 27 0
  • City National Bank / IT

    City National Bank IT

    Straight to the point
    Beware. Men in LA can be lazy and unmotivated. If they have something going for them, then they think they're all that and a bag of chips. Dating sucks in both places but you'll get a new feel for life by moving. It'll get you out of your rut. Everything gets old after some time. Newness only lasts for so long.
    Jun 30 0
  • Scotiabank 0xFU
    Yes LA is one of the very few cities I’d live in. Enjoy reclaiming your sanity
    Jun 23 0
  • SF is overrated to live in, these days. People are rude, it’s crowded and expensive, and has a homeless problem.

    Elsewhere in the Bay Area it’s much better. Although San Jose still has a big homeless problem in certain areas.

    Probably good to move to LA. However it’s interesting that you said the dating scene isn’t that good. All male Blinders seem to think that SF has no women; I’ve been of the opinion that tech bros act superficial by throwing around TC and not being balanced in other aspects. 🤷‍♂️
    Jun 23 2
    • Macy's FOpI30
      Yeah, every date I’ve gone on felt more like a career coaching session because all guys seem to talk about is work/money/investing 🙄
      Jun 23
    • I just tell people I’m a plumber. 🤷‍♂️

      I was born and raised here and hate hanging out with only tech people. We have no perspective and are completely unable to connect with the average Safeway cashier, Uber driver, or African American/Mexican in the hood.
      Jun 23
  • Amazon ohbother
    I lived in LA. I only lasted 6 months. It was the city that taught me that I hated commuting and if you didn’t live near your friends, they were no longer your friends (which is difficult to get right when you’re moving there blind). The incident that made me decide I needed to leave was on an Internet date - guy said he was in the entertainment industry, I was curious because it was so far from what I knew, but he wasn’t giving me a straight answer. Turns out he worked for Girls Gone Wild, and I was done being in a city where the only thing people were passionate about is themselves.

    I’m sure your experience will be better (and that I probably should have given it more time), but do choose your location carefully to optimize both work and the kind of people you want to be friends with.
    Jul 9 0
  • New injigur
    LA tech scene is slurry. As a men I like LA because I saw more beautiful women there than bay area.
    Jun 29 0
  • Apple / Eng tWBu16
    Try it out, worst case scenario you don’t like it more and you can try something else
    Jun 23 0
  • Credit Karma BeautiPich
    All the comments are great but to be honest, people making point about homeless in SF as one of the reason to move LA seems bogus. LA's homeless problem is worse than SF. Tenderloin is nothing compared to Skid Row. Venice is dangerous too, Compton is dangerous, I personally find LA metro has more unsafe areas than SF Bay Area.
    Jun 23 0
  • Snapchat Bubby
    Oh you will love it here. Did the same thing , the crowd is much diverse here. And the beaches are 👌
    Jun 23 0
  • Intuit Toodooz
    If you can keep your sf salary that is great. Your money goes much farther there. The only thing that really sucks is that traffic is usually bad most days at most hours not like the Bay Area where it’s bad mostly at yah hour. That’s the only downfall. I think the diversity is better there in a good way. Your young it’s a good time to be there.
    Jun 23 0
  • Dropbox drl/
    Los Angeles is a great city. Dating scene will be more competitive if you are a woman, but overall quality of living should be much better. Great decision to get out of SF. The city is overrated.
    Jun 23 0
  • Intel Benzy
    I'm from the bay area but spent about 10 years doing frequent projects in LA. It is different than SF but keep in mind you could have the same work life balance issues down there too. It's a madhouse compared to the bay area and LA is traffic hell so you gotta be well aware of work/home locations and the traffic in between or you can spend hours just getting to and from work. I mostly worked around the Hollywood/WeHo/H'Wood hills areas but usually stayed on the west side in Westwood or in Santa Monica. SM is very nice if you can afford that an have a reasonable commute. It's a very walkable, bikeable city on the beach. Have young relatives there that relocated from NYC and they absolutely love it. Weather is better down there too vs SF. People wise it's very different since many folks are into the arts/entertainment industry vs the tech/geeks of SF (I prefer to hang with the artsy types myself..). There are however a LOT of superficial douches, folks that are going to be big someday and a lot of scammers. Lots of good folks that have done well too, you just have to learn the difference. Since it is LA and a shitload of actors and such, there are a LOT of good looking people and hot women so dating wise, it won't be a sausage fest when you go out but you've got much more competition.
    Jul 5 0
  • Snapchat Playette
    if you are a woman, the dating scene in LA is gonna suck for u. Fuckbois everywhere, and there are way more pretty girls here than in SF. If you wanna be in a relationship, you should stay in SF until you find the one then move down to LA with ur spouse
    Jul 2 0
  • Rally Health PWcK47
    this move seems like going from pretentious people to superficial people.
    Jun 30 0
  • Sentieo ButNowISee
    Congrats on taking your SF salary to LA! That’s basically a nice 25% raise right there.

    I moved away from SoCal to SF recently because I wanted to work in tech and the tech scene down there is weak sauce. But the thing I got tired of most is how vapid and superficial everyone is. Get ready for most of your conversations to be about gossip, fashion, reality TV, and people’s appearances vs having a conversation with substance or about tech or startups.
    Oh and traffic is HELL. If you think getting around in SF is bad, LA is so much worse.

    But those things aside, the weather is nice, the beaches are great and since you’re keeping your SF pay you can live really comfortably.
    Jun 23 0


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