My boss has poor listening and empathy skills
Although polite, my boss is emotionally unavailable. Her approach is old fashioned: she’s closed off, I know very little about her personally, and she expects her reports to do exactly what they are told with no pushback. She’s also excessively critical and rarely gives praise. Of the 5 people on my team I have discussed this with, not one of them likes working for her. I like my job other than this and I would love to find a way to tolerate the situation until she moves on to another role or company. It’s tough though. I am an experienced professional and I’m accustomed to partnering with my boss and contributing my expertise to decisions, having productive debates, receiving mentorship, etc. How can I cope with a boss like this so I can stay in my role?
“Of the 5 people on my team I have discussed this with, not one of them likes working for her.” Be careful when it comes to discussing such things with your teammates. Hope you are good friends with them.
Tough situation. I would move on. However, if you want to stay, try to find a way to get her a message that she needs to take leadership courses.
Nope. Bad. Good chance she will flip out and OP will end up on her shit list.
Where is she from? Could just be her culture
Did you try talking to her exactly what you described here? You may be judging by a cover. Have a candid conversation with her and tell her you don't appreciate certain things in your working relationship and how she can help make it better. Talking through this with her may seem simple but powerful
So he is not satya nadella
Eh, I’m pretty closed off at work. You don’t need to be emotionally available to be a good boss. It sounds like you have more issues with how she gives criticism.
I’m looking for the kernel of truth in her criticisms and taking whatever I can seriously. It’s a red flag that I am not the only one that thinks it’s nit picky and veering toward controlling.
Is she an immigrant / first generation Chinese lady?? Sounds exactly like fobby Chinese.
Had this kid of boss before. Depending on your goals at work and alternatives outside of this team, you might need to adjust your expectations. Not every boss is alike and chances are we will all encounter “bad bosses” at some point of our career.
People generally work for bosses (or not) and not for companies, or so an approximation of that saying goes. It’s a lot harder for her to change because people rarely change than it is for you to cut losses and switch teams or companies. Life is too short to be held down and frustrated by a bad boss.
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