Office Crush

Amazon Wake&Bake
Sep 10, 2018 85 Comments

Just met my Director’s EA for the first time and she is absolutely gorgeous. I would regret for the rest of my life if I don’t ask her out. Any tips on how I should approach her without getting in trouble?

Update: went back to her desk with an excuse for a conversation. No Ring! Yayy!! Had a great chat but cut it short to avoid lingering around for too long. I am planning to stick to casual floor/elevator chats for now. Will try to find out about her relationship status within a few of those convos. Good luck to me!

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TOP 85 Comments
  • New / Data Usermem
    Do it, but start interviewing
    Sep 10, 2018 6
    • New / Data Usermem
      You gonna get fired kid, and alone
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Bank of The West / Product
      MissionE

      Bank of The West Product

      PRE
      Cisco, eBay, NetApp, VMware
      BIO
      TC = 450k
      MissionEmore
      You will change jobs and wont have her —- most likely result. I hope you keep the job and have her too - most wanted results
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      I don’t care about the job once my vesting is done. ;)
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Bank of The West / Product
      MissionE

      Bank of The West Product

      PRE
      Cisco, eBay, NetApp, VMware
      BIO
      TC = 450k
      MissionEmore
      Got for it, all power to you and let us know how it goes/ends
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Panasonic Avionics Tac0s
      LOL. What makes you think you will be vested?
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Bank of The West / Product
    MissionE

    Bank of The West Product

    PRE
    Cisco, eBay, NetApp, VMware
    BIO
    TC = 450k
    MissionEmore
    Just don’t
    Sep 10, 2018 1
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      That’s not going to happen
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Oath / Eng I’m bot..
    Just do it
    Sep 10, 2018 1
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      Best comment award 🥇
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Microsoft richardhea
    Over focusing on a single chick. Usually does not end well. Meet 20-40, make an offer to each of them, some will byte.
    🍆
    Sep 10, 2018 2
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      Thanks but no thanks. I know how dating works. But this scenario is different
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Microsoft richardhea
      “This time it’s different.” ™
      🍆
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Amazon Nsgdbp
    Dangerous territory. How do you know she is single? Make a move if and only if you know she is single, you have had at least 20 more interactions with her, and you don’t care too much about possible HR repercussions
    Sep 10, 2018 8
    • Comcast keysersözæ
      Hey, are you free outside of work sometime to go grab some coffee or lunch?

      She'll let you know if she's in a relationship or if she feels it's inappropriate due to the work circumstances. Never ask more than once.
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      20 interactions are pretty high considering that we have been on the same team for 2 months and just spoke today for the first time.
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Nsgdbp
      How often do you need to meet with your director? Every such occasion is opportunity for interaction with his EA to check his availability etc. also EAs are involved on a lot of projects, once you start getting on projects things will change pretty fast. If they don’t change or you genuinely do not have opportunities to interact then ask her out for coffee like some others recommend, that’s just higher risk
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Spotify Pandora.
      That you not being able to think of so many different ways to indirectly get to know about her status sounds dangerous. Dude, please calm down. She would know about your crush anyway.
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Nsgdbp
      OP I feel pretty sure that dating her will create a lot of complications. eAs are privy to a lot of info including performance, promo, comp and appraisal discussions. For her to date anyone in her director’s org is unethical. Think this through
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Amazon / Other cut a sev6
    Go for it! YOLO. And EAs are people too. Plus you dont weigh in on your dir's EA's eval and neither they do you. For the amount of time we spend at this place, if you can find love and a life partner on the way, I'd say that's win-win!

    Ask her to coffee and get to know her. How she came to the role, what's she heading towards, career EA or stepping stone for something else. Read the signs, vibe and determine if you're a match or if it's just office politeness. Then when you're ready make the move or call it quits
    Sep 10, 2018 4
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      This is what i need!
      Sep 10, 2018
    • New / Product
      nicebot

      New Product

      BIO
      Need leads to PM roles in SF. Thank you!!
      nicebotmore
      Good luck, OP. I'm rooting for you
      Sep 10, 2018
    • LinkedIn non_blind
      Awesome advice
      Sep 11, 2018
    • Airbnb / Eng FemaleEng
      This is right.
      Sep 11, 2018
  • Apple / Other MEiD84
    Ask politely only once, if she says No leave her alone

    If possible ask in Cafe/Parking ie when she is not at her desk
    Sep 10, 2018 7
    • VMware theese
      don’t ask her in the parking lot like a creep!
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      Definitely not in parking lot
      Sep 11, 2018
    • Box whwhsi
      Please do not ask her at her desk
      Sep 12, 2018
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      How about at my director’s desk?
      Sep 13, 2018
    • Box whwhsi
      Please don’t ask her where she’s working. The social event is fine.
      Sep 13, 2018
  • Nvidia smartpm9
    Bro, don’t compete with your director, obviously TC matters.
    Sep 10, 2018 5
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      Fuck TC. I make more than I need and won’t mind earning less if that gives me a more satisfied personal life. My philosophy is way different from most of the people here on blind.
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Nvidia smartpm9
      It’s not about how you see your TC, it’s about how the EA sees your TC 😀
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      My director is married and loves his wife and kids ;)
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Microsoft / Eng Whatsupp
      It doesn't mean that there is nothing on the side 😂
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      True. But i highly doubt it
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Microsoft / Eng Trosk
    So you see a pretty girl at work and you want to ask her out immediately?
    Sep 10, 2018 2
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      Isn’t that how it works?
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Microsoft / Eng Trosk
      No, specially not at work
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Dollar Shave Club HcknGbsns
    The only way to win this game is not to play. Cold shower and leetcode
    Sep 10, 2018 1
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      I was waiting for someone to ask tc and suggest lete code
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Bank of The West / Product
    MissionE

    Bank of The West Product

    PRE
    Cisco, eBay, NetApp, VMware
    BIO
    TC = 450k
    MissionEmore
    Directors EA. Will lit fire pretty fast. If you are desperate ask her if she would have time for a quick coffee on a Friday.
    Good luck, you are playing with fire.
    Sep 10, 2018 0
  • Intuit wpoxmk6437
    What's so hot about her
    Sep 10, 2018 5
    • Microsoft / Mgmt Bonee
      Her body ?
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      She’s cute not hot. I don’t find girls cute that often. Hot girls are all around. They aren’t attractive to me anymore
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Nvidia smartpm9
      Ah, I see your problem, have you tried any medication like Viagara or seeing any therapists? it’s curable.
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      @smartpm9 i see your problem. You’re just another horny techie.
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Intuit wpoxmk6437
      Not worth it dude.
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Microsoft DOyu71
    This will end with you not only having a date with your left hand (again), but having no job either.
    Sep 10, 2018 4
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      Thanks for the positivity
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      Your parents must be proud
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Microsoft DOyu71
      You dont need "positivity" you need some damn sense. Ans yes my parents, when they were alive , were very proud of raising a realist.
      Sep 10, 2018
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      Yea like no one ever had a successful office romance. I see guys like you in corners of bars staring at hot girls and just being realist in their head. Get some balls
      Sep 11, 2018
  • Amazon gemalto
    >Create a phone tool icon called cute girl award
    >Give it to her
    ???
    >Profit
    Sep 10, 2018 1
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      Basically create all the evidence needed to get fired
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Google / Eng R7ps9bd6
    If you aren’t trolling...

    The world is full of gorgeous women. Find a different one.
    Sep 10, 2018 1
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      It is. But I rarely feel attracted to any of them
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Amazon / Eng 6’ !Indian
    Catch her as she’s about to go to lunch. Ask her if you can join. If you have any game, you’ll know where you stand by the end of lunch. If she’s not into you, don’t make it weird when you see her.
    Sep 10, 2018 0
  • Airbnb / Eng FemaleEng
    It’s incredible how many people here are spreading FUD about asking someone out at work. There isn’t a reporting chain here. Just be respectful and listen if she says no. You’ll be fine.
    Sep 11, 2018 1
    • Facebook AVsU03
      Exactly. So many people limiting themselves. Life’s too short and it’s just work—whatever
      Dec 12, 2018
  • Illumina / Other
    Duderin0

    Illumina Other

    PRE
    Illumina
    Duderin0more
    You are an idiot.
    Sep 10, 2018 1
    • Amazon Wake&Bake
      OP
      You have added so much value to the conversation
      Sep 10, 2018
  • Tesla / Eng 🐉⛈
    Add her on LinkedIn.
    Sep 10, 2018 0
  • Uber Mandrakes
    In one of these social events start a conversation with her, if you both have common interested try to come up with something to do out of office that you both would be interested. Something during the day would be better. If she says yes, go for it and polish your resume. If she comes up with an excuse, don’t insist.
    Sep 10, 2018 0

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