Splitting the bill on a first date??
How has who picks the bill on first/second dates changed? A recent conversation with a friend got me a bit surprised when he absolutely won't pay for his date; even if it's a cheap date like a tea/coffee. Women - I wanna hear from you as well. So once polls are posted they can't be edited lol; wasn't intentional to Target polls only to the male humans Update: thanks people of blind! Poll results gave me a decent picture.
don't go to dinner on a first date noob
I am a woman I always pay 50% of the first-third dates maybe this is why I’m still single 😂. I think this is the way to go unless it’s a rare circumstance where your pays are dramatically different like dudes if your Tc is $280k and you ask a public school teacher or someone who serves in americorp on a date don’t be an asshole and expect to split
Ah I don't think you are doing anything wrong. I would feel very queasy about someone who wouldn't even pay a $3 coffee. I am with you on splitting the bill.
I agree. So in the past when I like a guy and he pays for my coffee/drink and it goes further, I offer to take the tab the second time. I am so nice that I have even dropped some guys in train stations since they didn't have cars lol
If I like the guy on the first date I'll let him pay if he wants to. But I'll try to split if I don't like him coz I know I wouldn't want to go to a second date and I don't wanna owe him anything.
Fair enough.
I actually kinda fish for this. I pay for the first date and tell her she can grab the next one if I like her.
A guy should pay for dates until “exclusive” because it gets confusing for us gals. I have plenty of guy friends who I split 50/50 on all the time. Story time. I once payed 50/50 on a 3rd date and the guy was so offended that he suggested we be friends. So it’s quite confusing for me.
That guy was insecure. 'Us' guys like it to be split until something serious is established.
I always pay for the first couple dates, and i Appreciate it if someone else offers. Also of course income differences matter a lot.
So the low income theory holds fine but how do you know she ain't a golddigger? Or do golddiggers exist who make good TC? IDK
The person extending the invitation should pay.
The person _accepting_ the invitation should pay. The established system, which you support, has the poor initiator risking humiliation and social ostracism _plus_ being stuck with the bill. If we're talking about how society _should_ be, we should equalize things by having the accepter be the default payer.
The people consuming the drink or meal should pay. If both parties consume drinks or food, both pay. This isn't hard.
I always try to pick up the bill, but i very much appreciate the girl offering to split. Immediate brownie points. I always just say to get the next one though
Who pays first date, second date, third date, splitting is such an American culture. Nobody thinks about this in Europe or Latin America. Fucks sakes, go out, enjoy each other’s company. Be kind, be human. Even if it doesn’t work out, you met a new person who you’d have otherwise never met in your life out of the billions on Earth, be thankful for that experience. In my case, my date paid our first dinner and she insisted, 2 years later she’s now my fiancé.
Who pays tho
There should be no hard n fast rule. If a person really wants to pay without making it awkward for each other, excuse yourself and take care of the bill discreetly with the waiter when you go to the restroom. Take the initiative, so that he/she will never forget it. She paid for our dinner discreetly, it was a thoughtful gesture that I’ve never experienced before with other dates and that’s why I will marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. In the end, kindness trumps everything - TC, beauty, brains, property whatever.
You!
No, You