About me: YOE - 5 TC- $130k Age - late 20's Location - Seattle The girl that I truly love lives in Italy. We've never properly dated due to distance, but we've gone one a couple of short trips together and it was amazing. She and I met traveling, and when we're together it's pretty explosive. We understand each other well and the sex is fantastic. A few years ago I met my current girlfriend and we moved in together after a year. She is amazing and truly loves me. She is also smart, successful, good TC, and has a family that accepts me and is cool. However things have gotten super boring after living together, and she and I don't have the same passion as the Italian girl and me. Deep down, I don't have the same feelings for my real-life gf as I do for the girl I love in Italy. What do I do? Do I walk away from my amazing life in Seattle for a pipe-dream in Italy? We have a good life together here in Seattle, but I'm super bored and she doesn't excite me like the Italian girl. Seems like a huge risk. We have good TC and also REALLY good potential TC in the next 10 years. What if I walk away from my amazing life here and then it doesn't work out with the Italian girl I love. Any advice would be awesome. My girlfriend is super cool and I feel bad for not being as attracted to her as another woman. She treats me so well, but I can't control my heart. Logically I should stay and enjoy my awesome life here, but on the other hand I'm only going to live once. Should I risk it all for un-fulfilled love?
Why did you move in with this woman if you’re in love with someone else ?
great question that I ask myself all the time. we did it to save money since Seattle is expensive and our TC wasn't good back in 2017 when we met.
You sure it wouldn't be the same with the italian once you moved in together?
i think about that all the time. i'm really not sure. honestly it probably would be...right? i dunno. this is the first time ive ever lived with anyone.
It’ll be exactly that. It’ll take a lot less than one year too. Going out on a limb here, but you probably have a lot more to talk about with your ‘High TC’ girlfriend.
Yes. Risk it. Get that slice of Pizza
It’s likely the same thing would happen with the Italian girl if you were to live together for a year.
OP doesn’t realize the sex you can’t have is always going to be more exciting, he’s gonna be working in a pasta shop in a few months
Grass is greener on the other side. You will be bored with Italian pasta soon. You played your current gf. Karma will come around buddy.
ya that's probably true. so you think i should stay?
No, you should cut her loose
You know what... That Italian babe is thinking just the same but about another guy. Does that change your question?🤔
ya she also has a boyfriend in italy. but she also texts me often too. i think we're in the same position.
Lol... This is so funny from an outsider perspective... But I can feel your pain. It's like working a sweat shop life at Apple versus easy going one at Intel...
If you’ve never seriously dated her then you don’t know her and you’re not in love.
ya...that might be true. but i think of her all the time and we've gone on some trips together and it was mutually amazing. we secretly text all the time and i think we are in love together. even if it might be superficial love.
You should chase the pasta maker just so your poor Seattle girl can find someone who actually cares about her
You will 100% get bored of the Italian girl once you live together
Why is that?
Inverse correlation between number of times you nut in a girl and level of excitement you feel around her
Beware of the geographic cure. The unrest you feel is likely within yourself. I suggest opening up to you gf about your desire to identify mutual things you can engage in that taps into your 'passion' centers. Don't just Netflix and chill, everyone is boring at that stage.
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i put TC at the top
My bad. Gf's TC?