I’m not the jealous type but I keep seeing strange women DM my bf on Instagram. It’s really odd because this kinda stuff didn’t happen on FB where you only had your friends. Don’t really know what to make of it. Most of them don’t live in the area so its not a big deal, but I feel like this is going to be a problem as long as he has a public Instagram account. I asked him to post pictures of us together, but it didn’t help. I can’t ask him to delete his account, he is very passionate about it and posts pictures regularly
First - what does he do with those messages? Second - how did you find out? Lastly - do you trust him?
I don’t know, I see the notifications on his phone when we are together. I do but I don’t like strange women having a direct line to my guy
If it happens next time when you're nearby - you can casually ask what he does it with. If it sparks a civil conversation that leads to him understanding your not-sp-comfortable with the situation, that's great. Could lead to something or nothing. Just be ready for whatever
Stay away else you'll lose him
That's your own damn fault. Everytime it's "OMG these girls keep on messaging my bf" Then why on Earth did you choose him? You're here trying to show off. And you haven't replied. Stop that. It's so hard for us non-Eurasians.
Yeah.. these non-eurasians! 👆🏾.. casual racism is strong in this ☝️
WTF is an Eurasian?
Even if he is messaging them back for time pass, it means nothing as long as he is not emotionally attached to them. So, chill
Honestly, lots of those are probably bots trying to get him to cam sites. Trust he’ll do the right thing and just laugh at it. Or stress out about it and your insecurity will slowly eat away at your relationship until there is nothing left and you go separate ways. I’ve done both and I highly suggest the first option.
Unless he’s really incredibly attractive it’s probably him that’s DMing them first. If the girls are hot it’s almost certain. But be sure they aren’t bots or something.
Why do you care so much? If you trust your bf and you love him, then other people sliding in his DMs shouldn’t bother you. Jealously is not a good trait. If he’s a cheater; he’s a cheater. You fighting off other women will not change that. Think of it this way: if your dog was raised to never pee on the rug, you shouldn’t panic about it peeing on the rug whenever you see it approach the rug. (Not the best example, I know.) So, if you trust your bf, then trust him! Good luck
It’s not that simple. People are not binary cheater/non-cheater. People get in fights, people make mistakes. And what these women are sending him can affect him 🤷♀️
Yeah. But the way you put it is as if it is not in his control. I see it as a values thing. If someone values loyalty and trust, they wouldn’t do that. When people reveal who they are via actions, you should trust them. You can’t cheat on someone by mistake. It’s literally a choice. A series of choices
Psycho gf
To be honest, there are always women keep DMing people, they just want you to take a look at their profile to increase followers, how do I know that? I got DMed also, but my IG profile is about my dog (full of my dog), it's a fictional IG account to follow other dog owners....so you need to realize that every male IG account will get DM all the time.
Umm. Did he message them back and maybe deleted the messages? No offense.
I don’t know, I just see when he receives the messages
I understand. I dont have a way for you to resolve this other than asking him. And that would not go smooth