Relationships

Strange women keep DMing my bf

Google Emilyyy
Jan 10

I’m not the jealous type but I keep seeing strange women DM my bf on Instagram. It’s really odd because this kinda stuff didn’t happen on FB where you only had your friends.

Don’t really know what to make of it. Most of them don’t live in the area so its not a big deal, but I feel like this is going to be a problem as long as he has a public Instagram account. I asked him to post pictures of us together, but it didn’t help.

I can’t ask him to delete his account, he is very passionate about it and posts pictures regularly

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  • Vertivco / Eng
    FastPapuan

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    That's your own damn fault. Everytime it's "OMG these girls keep on messaging my bf"

    Then why on Earth did you choose him? You're here trying to show off. And you haven't replied. Stop that.

    It's so hard for us non-Eurasians.
    Jan 108
    • Aurora bystander!
      Yeah.. these non-eurasians!

      👆🏾.. casual racism is strong in this ☝️
      Jan 10
    • CA Technologies TonkarBell
      WTF is an Eurasian?
      Jan 10
    • Aurora bystander!
      Ask him.
      He has been posting this Eurasian shit all over the place. Crying discrimination.
      Jan 10
    • CA Technologies TonkarBell
      I was asking him. I don’t think any one in their right senses can come out with shit like this. Yeah, he is a regular troll. I’ve developed a mental filter for him, but this shit is hilarious. Eurasian my ass, lol.
      Jan 10
    • Google Emilyyy
      OP
      Lmao, wth is this answer 😂😂
      Jan 10
    • Blizzard others
      He won’t even say what Eurasian is
      Jan 10
    • Vertivco / Eng
      FastPapuan

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      I have posted some graphics illustrating the simple, well-known definition of Eurasia.

      You're the one trolling. You're over here engaging in the marginalization because you gave the perpetrators a pass.
      Jan 10
    • Microsoft HURi57
      Non-Eurasian lives matter.
      Jan 10
  • Airbnb nbbhcc
    Unless he’s really incredibly attractive it’s probably him that’s DMing them first. If the girls are hot it’s almost certain.

    But be sure they aren’t bots or something.
    Jan 102
    • Cision IWORK4FOOD
      👆 this
      Jan 10
    • Google Emilyyy
      OP
      Idk, last time it started happening right after he posted a pic. But maybe he had already initiated a convo with those women in the past. It really ruined my mood
      Jan 10
  • Google feral
    Why do you care so much? If you trust your bf and you love him, then other people sliding in his DMs shouldn’t bother you. Jealously is not a good trait.

    If he’s a cheater; he’s a cheater. You fighting off other women will not change that. Think of it this way: if your dog was raised to never pee on the rug, you shouldn’t panic about it peeing on the rug whenever you see it approach the rug. (Not the best example, I know.) So, if you trust your bf, then trust him! Good luck
    Jan 103
    • Google Emilyyy
      OP
      It’s not that simple. People are not binary cheater/non-cheater. People get in fights, people make mistakes. And what these women are sending him can affect him 🤷‍♀️
      Jan 10
    • Google feral
      Yeah. But the way you put it is as if it is not in his control. I see it as a values thing. If someone values loyalty and trust, they wouldn’t do that. When people reveal who they are via actions, you should trust them. You can’t cheat on someone by mistake. It’s literally a choice. A series of choices
      Jan 10
    • Amazon / ITjanfox
      ^ this is totally right. If he’s going to cheat he’s going to cheat. Do you trust him or not? That *is* binary
      Jan 10
  • Bloc / Engcerealbox
    Honestly, lots of those are probably bots trying to get him to cam sites. Trust he’ll do the right thing and just laugh at it.

    Or stress out about it and your insecurity will slowly eat away at your relationship until there is nothing left and you go separate ways. I’ve done both and I highly suggest the first option.
    Jan 100
  • Microsoft / R&D
    MSPikachu

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    MSPikachumore
    To be honest, there are always women keep DMing people, they just want you to take a look at their profile to increase followers, how do I know that?

    I got DMed also, but my IG profile is about my dog (full of my dog), it's a fictional IG account to follow other dog owners....so you need to realize that every male IG account will get DM all the time.
    Jan 100
  • Microsoft devil13
    Umm. Did he message them back and maybe deleted the messages? No offense.
    Jan 102
    • Google Emilyyy
      OP
      I don’t know, I just see when he receives the messages
      Jan 10
    • Microsoft devil13
      I understand. I dont have a way for you to resolve this other than asking him. And that would not go smooth
      Jan 10
  • Amazon btsfan
    Psycho gf
    Jan 100
  • Providence Health & Services S-PgM
    First - what does he do with those messages?

    Second - how did you find out?

    Lastly - do you trust him?
    Jan 103
    • Google Emilyyy
      OP
      I don’t know, I see the notifications on his phone when we are together. I do but I don’t like strange women having a direct line to my guy
      Jan 10
    • Providence Health & Services S-PgM
      If it happens next time when you're nearby - you can casually ask what he does it with. If it sparks a civil conversation that leads to him understanding your not-sp-comfortable with the situation, that's great.

      Could lead to something or nothing. Just be ready for whatever
      Jan 10
    • Providence Health & Services S-PgM
      Unless you were snooping around without him knowing. That'll get weird and y'all may already have to work on something else :)

      Regardless. Good luck!
      Jan 10
  • Cohesity CSJ
    Even if he is messaging them back for time pass, it means nothing as long as he is not emotionally attached to them. So, chill
    Jan 100
  • LinkedIn tendies
    LOL people's logic - I don't want my partner getting attention but I only choose the attractive ones.
    Jan 170
  • Bank of America blacKnight
    Yap... some women are pervert too.. may be your BF is wealthy and she knows how to lure guys..
    Jan 100
  • IBM void**
    It would be nice if there was a way to only accept DMs from followers without having to go private, but it doesn’t seem like that’s an option. It could cut down on spam messages as well.

    He could very well enjoy the attention, and I get where you’d prefer that he wasn’t even tempted in the first place, but if he values what he has with you he won’t pay them any mind. If he doesn’t, well then I hope you find out sooner rather than later.
    Jan 100
  • New / Eng
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    Stay away else you'll lose him
    Jan 100

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