Got an offer from one of the unicorn in Bay Area. Have been dreaming of joining top tier companies but after looking up on COL, I am debating whether I should move. 2YOE Current Status Pros: 1. Company WLB is great 2. Pays 90k in Texas so it’s pretty decent 3. Living in a house 3b2b for only $1300 Cons: 1. The work they do is not really modern and I am afraid after a few years I am going to lag behind even more 2. My wife is currently finishing up here studies which would take another 2 years 3. Would want to fly back every week to be with my wife for weekends(Fly Thursday night WFH Friday, fly back to Bay early Monday). Would cost about $1600 per month If I accept the offer Pros: 1. Pays good: TC 190k 2. Is a well known brand 3. Better for future career Cons: 1. High COL 2. Leaving my wife behind Blinders, what would you choose?
If you got the job once you can get it again. Just let your wife know she’s costing you $200k for her ‘studies’. Or alternatively, ask the unicorn if you can work remote for the first year. Or ask for a relocation bonus and take it
You’re underpaid in Texas. Find somewhere else to work in your area.
Unfortunately, I am in middle of nowhere in Texas. COL is super low but also job opportunity. If I was to find a job in Texas, it would be in Austin but that would still mean leaving my wife behind and going back every weekend.
This is still better than moving to the bay area and traveling from there every weekend. I'd suggest try to get into a good company in Austin as a stepping stone and move to the bay area after 2 years. There are plenty of good companies in Austin
Ask yourself, would you like to spend more time with your wife, help her in her daily chores and studies or would you choose a better life alone on weekdays? And flying on weekends is not a good idea bro, you will also need to relax out after week long work. My suggestion, be together here or there doesnt matter, ask company to make adjustments for you. If they really want you, they will try resolve it out. Or else the jobs and world is not ending. Upto you now.
I should be flying on Thursday night and working from home Friday and flying out early Monday. So three days with my wife if I accept the offer.
Well if you can manage and make it work that way, and you find it comfortable, yeah than you should go for it. Read the whole thread and looks like you really want to get out of that place for career growth, which is wise....what does your wife think about this?
At least 2.5k for 1 bedroom apt
Not worth it in my opinion. Wait for your wife to be ready.
If you want to work for big tech (and I don’t say this in a condescending way, none of these companies are all that special except for benefits, resume padding and bragging rights), you gotta find a place that works for both of you. NY / Bay Area / Boston have a pretty good mix of academic work and tech companies so it’s almost impossible that you won’t find a city that works for both of your careers. Just talk to people and ask around. Unless your wife’s getting a PhD, look into transfers between colleges. Flying between Bay Area and TX is going to make you miserable and I wouldn’t advise it but plenty of consultant types are forced to do it so it’s not like it hasn’t been done before. Promos etc are also a pain in the ass if you end up being under leveled and move to a big co mid 30s (which is very likely if you’re working for a smaller company).
You can take your wife to bay area and have her credits transferred.
Didficult. You have to take a call.
Take it. The doubling of your pay will take care of the COL increase.
Why can't you take your wife with you?
She’s finishing up her studies.