Saw this ad on facebook. At first blush this seems almost repulsive to me; on the other hand, I have a deep respect for the strong traditions that keep a culture together. But does this ad really mean what I think it means? Is dating and marrying another Asian really something that parents consider an act of gratitude or respect?
Many east asians consider east asians the best race
It's mostly the Japanese think that. Mainland Chinese definitely not
Marrying people of the same culture removes the language barrier, maintains culture and believes passed on in the family and keeps the older family members in the young couple’s live easier. Is that wrong?
Anthropologically, no. I'd say it's kind of an imperative for a culture's survival, which is important if you think your culture has distinctive attributes which make it worth preserving. But of course, here in the U.S. and in much of the Western world, that idea has pretty much been re-labeled as "fascist" or perhaps "nationalist" or some other pejorative. It may seem as if Western culture is on a warpath to self-destruction in that sense, and at this point I have to wonder whether that opinion isn't too far off from the truth.
Just FYI, I'm Hispanic saying this with family roots in Mexico. You don't have to be white to see this trend.
And what would be wrong with this?
Replace Asian with white and see how it sounds in 2019.
There just isn't a safe platform to express any kind of coherent case anymore for a distinctly "American" identity anymore, unless that identity is a globalist one... but that just sounds like cultural suicide with extra steps.
I’m cool with similar White groups. it’s just SJW who think you can’t have White groups but can have Asian or black or Hispanic groups
Logically, it makes sense. But given cultural context, and just on further thought, the sense it makes kind of falls apart. I mean, is there really a *need* for a whites-only dating site in North America? I'm thinking what separates American culture from others is that we unite around a set of ideas or basic principles. Not so much skin color or ethnicity.
Whites-only groups sounds really bad, at least in America. It’s not SJW, it’s because of the ugly history of the U.S. regarding race and slavery. So nowadays most Americans are pretty sensitive to that stuff. Whenever someone mentions whites-only meetings or whites-only events, everyone will automatically think of white separatists or white supremacists.
(Disclaimer 1: this is just one sample of Asian parents. It in no way represents Asian culture.) (Disclaimer 2: I did not do all of these scenarios, but I've talked to parents about these topics.) My parents' (both Chinese) reaction be like: If I date a Chinese partner -- good for you. If I date a rich Chinese partner -- when are you getting married? If I date a Korean partner -- ok. If I date a white partner -- ok. If I date a black partner -- are you sure? If I date a Japanese partner -- traitor! you lose face of the family! If I date a same-sex partner -- we need to take you to a doctor. So... I guess race is just one small fraction in people's prejudice matrix.
I'm 100% Asian and find it extremely offensive that something like this is considered OK, but a white4white dating app would be crucified to the end of the earth. Isn't this basically reverse racism?
It is based on the fact that minorities like Asians and especially the perpetually emasculated male side (by the same virtue signalling, hypocritical SJW Hollywood) could use a little help. It's a small attempt to help a marginalized group. Same reason why there are groups that promote women in tech but no groups that promote men in tech and it's not sexism.
I'm saying that if you have a group for women in tech, you should be able to have a group for men in tech. If you have an app for black/yellow/purple people dating, you can have an app for white people dating.
Everyone knows that mixed race people are better looking.
Whites, blacks, Hispanics also commonly prefer their own race for kids-in-law. More commonality. For Asians, it's often a language barrier too where they can't speak their first language at family gatherings.
Wait until you see the video for it lol. But people who like those similar to them isn’t new. There’s plenty of sites like that. Christianmingle, jewishsoulsearch, blackpeoplemeet, race or income or hobby, whatever your pick. Don’t read too much into it and just use the ones that are NOT specialized.
It’s not what the parents hope but it’s to help Asian men who have trouble finding women.
I understand the struggle. Except most of my family approach the topic from the perspective of "we just want *you* to be happy." I never quite considered landing a life partner as a way to express gratitude.
lmao my parents have suggested arranged marriage but never said anything remotely vaguely resembling phrases like “we just want you to be happy”