South. If your SO works in San Jose, Mountain View or similar areas will be good for both of you commute-wise, ~20 minutes. Trying to buy or rent? That hugely impacts your decision.
We will probably rent first to understand our options better
SF! Why would you want to live in SJ.
Ouch. Live in Menlo Park.
Just live in Palo Alto. Reverse commute to San Jose.
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