I have always had a hard time being present and being in the moment. I spend more time within my own mind than I do being in the present.
For example, if I am with someone, my mind drifts away and I can literally feel the high activity of various thoughts being pursued.
I have to constantly (like every 5 minutes) remind myself: be present, go back to reality, and take a deep breath. I don’t forget about the person I am talking to and I’m great at pretending to be engaged in our conversation.
But in reality, I’m having our conversation inside my own mind with an imaginary version of you, in a totally different environment.
I’m extremely good at visualizing, to the point that I sometimes don’t know if my though was a though or a memory. I’m really good at drawing because my mind naturally visualizes and then I just fill in was I see on the paper.
There are certain events in my life that I truly can’t recall if they played out in my head or if it really was a moment that I was a part of.
I have no “real” problems and I don’t think that I feel stressed. It’s just that I want to stop living in my own head and experience reality, I guess.
Can anyone recommend audio books that help with techniques to silence the mind? (I can’t focus on reading books for same reasons).
Just want to mention that I am a highly effective person (in work and sports) and I’m very social too. I have tons of friends and I don’t think that anyone else notices it because I get invited all the time to 1-on-1 dinners and parties. People always say “you give the best advice!!” and stuff like that. So, I’m not socially awkward.
I’m only bringing this up now because I meet someone that I really like. A while ago she asked if she could record an interview with me, I agreed.
Later, she sent me the video and after watching it a few times I realized how much of her I am missing when my mind drifts away in its own visualizations.
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You have be anxious and flooded w hormones that prevent focus. Your brain goes into FOF. Not unusual.
Have you ever thot about talk therapy?
- I have never talked in therapy. And I was in an extremely stressed state during a large portion of 2018. But I am financially very stable so I decided to resign and I have only been working on private projects for the past 8 months.
I have always been like this but it has increased greatly the past months.
What is FOF? I tried to search but I don’t think I found what you’re suggesting.
- Oh, that makes sense. I have definitely been feeling a “flight” feeling. There are so many situations lately that I want to “flight” from and often I flight into my own head.
Which is weird considering that I have been a fighter on semi-pro level half my life without any problems 🙄
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- I am almost the same shit you just described and I was diagnosed as an ADHD.
- I should say that one of the few things that can keep my thoughts in place is listening to binaural sounds:
In every beat my mind kind of resets and I avoid being distracted.
When I work I listed to this:
I use noice canceling headphones, Bose Q35-2. Since I got them I’ve been able to focus much better.
But I can’t wear them on a date :D