Relationships

When is it serious?

Microsoft ffs.gtfo
Jan 31

Been seeing a man 1-2x a week and on date 6. I highly doubt they’re seeing anyone else from what they’ve said and how they’ve behaved and so we’ve spent the night together. How do I progress the relationship forward? I would like it to become serious.

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    • Microsoft ffs.gtfo
      OP
      Ffs gtfo
      Jan 31
    • Google ParryPage
      Lol, Microsofties are the stupidest people on earth.

      It was wam bam thank you mam.
      If not, you wouldn't be asking this. He would've reverted back. But now, he already did the needful.
      Jan 31
    • Amazon hadSexxx
      They already seen it. She said she spent a night
      Jan 31
    • Microsoft ffs.gtfo
      OP
      Multiple nights at this point
      Jan 31
    • Amazon hadSexxx
      Multiple nights out of 6 dates? Those guys are doing something right
      Jan 31
    • Microsoft ffs.gtfo
      OP
      Or you guys are doing something wrong.
      Jan 31
    • Amazon hadSexxx
      PM me and find out
      Jan 31
    • Uber smartride
      Multiple nights only on 6 dates, why?
      Jan 31
  • Amazon / OpsVisual
    They??
    Jan 312
    • Microsoft Larry Pаge
      OP didn't say anything about being exclusive herself, so it might be one too many relationship.
      Jan 31
    • Google Emilyyy
      +1 this, I’m confused too. Why is OP using the plural pronoun, or is if the gender neutral “they” ? OP please clarify
      Feb 2
  • Microsoft Larry Pаge
    1. Tell him you want it to become serious.
    2. Watch him run.
    Jan 312
  • Apple / EngMojaveX
    It is only serious after you merge TCs to make the ultimate TC.
    Jan 311
    • Microsoft Larry Pаge
      Gotta resolve all the conflicts while merging
      Jan 31
  • Microsoft OIC-u812
    Do the needful. Spark joy.
    Jan 312
  • New tagged
    You ask about what they think about being in a relationship. I typically wait until they ask to be exclusive.

    I feel like guys want to think they’re getting a good deal, and when they’re pressured to be in a relationship, it takes away the attraction.

    But you should talk about it. If he says he’s not ready then you should be ready to lower his ranking in your life. Continue to look for guys who are more available.

    The minute you lower him, he’s going to feel it. If he likes you he’s going to work harder for you. If not, then you get your answer.
    Jan 310
  • Symantec APT10
    Just sit down with him and say “Hey I really like you, I’d like to be exclusive and for you to be my boyfriend.”

    He will either agree or say he isn’t ready for that yet.

    Then you will continue living your life like a normal adult.
    Jan 310
  • Oracle iOFR21
    y do women become serious with guy who doesnt ask for the needful and vice versa?
    Jan 310
  • Morgan Stanley jhsichaa
    You've been seeing him 1-2x a week and you're on date 6. So you've only been seeing him for a week?
    Feb 13
  • CA Technologies e2be2r
    When dates stop becoming dates and become regular plans. Go through the casual phase before getting to the serious phase. Ask him what his thoughts on commitment are.
    Jan 311
    • Microsoft ffs.gtfo
      OP
      Ooh I like this. 👍🏼
      Jan 31
  • Apple h4krBell3
    Can’t you just ask him over dinner?
    Hey, what do you think about being exclusive? I like you a lot!
    Jan 311
    • StubHub Sabrina👻
      Rephrase :Hey what do you think about being exclusive?This guy said he likes me a lot
      Jan 31
  • Amazon kmcY20
    I once read that men are wired to chase and that, once they feel like they can have the woman, they lose interest. I've seen it play out a few times. Have you considered a medium term strategy of not letting him feel like he can count on a relationship with you? And in the long run, accepting his desire for a relationship only begrudgingly?
    Jan 310
  • Tektronix / Sales
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    BlueBerdmore
    Ask if he wants to see you exclusively?
    Jan 310
  • Microsoft xbythjg
    Where do u meet these folks 😊
    Jan 310
  • Amazon ldrj20
    6 dates and he got you
    Jan 310
  • Microsoft phad
    It depends on his personality and the chemistry between you two. Imho the two approaches that work the best are:
    Ease it up through a more meaningful date, like sharing stuff you or he likes, it's easier to be in the zone for that talk after it not being only cafes,bars, parks, etc.
    Or just straight up say it, though you gotta know if he likes that dry and to the point approach.

    Oh, and in my experience, when it doesn't work that well is during or after you spend the night. Hormones are flowing, mind is cloudy, saying yes is easy without truly meaning it.
    Jan 310
  • VMware BobbleHat
    Just ask him what you should name your first child. /s
    Jan 310

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