Which ones are deal breakers for you when marrying a girl / woman with these qualities...?

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Pick all the ones from the following that are deal-breakers for you when it comes to marriage with a girl / woman ..?

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  • Morgan Stanley hotChicken
    Looks like a poll made by a low self esteem person. Who cares about her past or what she's into. The only thing that matters is that she's into you.
    Jul 5 4
    • Oracle databasey
      I have to respectfully disagree. It matters if she is a gold digger or if she has had too many boyfriends because of commitment issues or if she is into hard drugs.
      Jul 5
    • Facebook Wpju
      This poll is still shit. A girl can be into money by being wise and financially savvy.
      Jul 5
    • Morgan Stanley hotChicken
      I understand your point. I thought the context of this question was about moving from dating to marrying. If I am dating someone and everything is fine, I wouldn't have problem marrying that person. I have kind of a boolean view on this. Either it works out or it does not.
      Jul 5
    • Amazon •OP
      Why not have a golddigger option then? The options provided can imply it if you assume things about a generic her.

      Money is important to her, then she may be career orientated and focusing increasing her TC.

      She is attracted to people who make money, if she is an exec herself and surrounds herself with success, does not make her a gold digger.

      Would money is important to him have the same connotation?
      Jul 5
  • Facebook / Eng
    madhuridix

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    Most importantly, she shouldn't have been a man in the past.
    Jul 5 4
    • Oracle kingSize
      This lol
      Jul 5
    • Lyft chinka
      You’re transphobic @madhuridix. Some women have penises. Accept it!
      Jul 5
    • Facebook / Eng 🤸🏼‍♀️🦝z
      What's not to like?
      Can't get pregnant, knows how to manage complex projects like a badass, and is probably better than you in bed.

      And seriously, she was never really a guy..
      Jul 5
    • Flowcast lulll
      She prolly sucks d the best too lul
      Jul 5
  • Verizon Media sxSG85
    She should have had at least one serious relationship in the past. I’m not going to put up with a newbie sorry. Too much work in orientation phase
    Jul 5 7
    • Verizon Media sxSG85
      Yes!
      Jul 5
    • Google Devil
      Amen me too
      Jul 5
    • Microsoft sillyboi
      Found the guys who buy used cars 😂
      Jul 5
    • Google Devil
      you found confident guys who have been around enough to know what they like .
      Jul 5
    • Verizon Media sxSG85
      Having gone through a heartbreak builds character ( for most people- abuse victims and some extreme cases may not apply).
      I have a female friend who did not have a relationship until 28 and now she is dating her soon to be husband. The kind of paranoia she goes through makes me feel bad for her boyfriend and her.
      This is not gender specific though. Applies to men as well.

      Also in terms of sex- I want to hit the ground ( or bed ) running 😛. I like a woman who knows what she is doing in bed!
      Jul 5
  • Qualtrics dyatlov
    The drugs option makes me laugh so hard ya prudes
    Jul 5 8
    • Uber / Eng ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°
      I assumed this one meant drug abuse and not just some occasional pot.
      Jul 5
    • Google Devil
      Pot is not drug :-) it’s legal now .
      Jul 5
    • Amazon CbnJ83
      Doesn't make it not a drug? And you work for Google?
      Jul 6
    • Google Devil
      Did we interview you & not hire u ? Yep we did., You were not googley enough or offered a rational thinking. https://www.google.com/amp/s/m.huffpost.com/us/entry/571531/amp

      Stop taking cheap shots man
      Jul 6
    • Amazon CbnJ83
      Bummer cuz I can't use words like Googley now
      Jul 6
  • Apple / Eng tWBu16
    I have dozens of dealbreakers about which girl I will marry. None are on this list.

    To me, the biggest dealbreakers is: gets angry easily.

    Other dealbreakers: doesn’t have a lot of self confidence. Doesn’t treat everyone else great, isn’t easy going enough, isn’t attractive enough
    Jul 5 0
  • I don’t get all the hate on women who are attracted to high TC/money. It’s like hating on guys who are attracted to looks (virtually all of them). Wealth is for women what beauty is for men.

    From a psychological standpoint, high TC is an indicator that you can be a good provider, educated, and career-oriented. Of course it’s not always true, and the vice versa isn’t true, but it’s probably true in most cases.

    Question is, is that your primary motivation, or just a prerequisite? What if she loses her looks or he loses his money?
    Jul 5 5
    • Apple wMKi17
      Where are all the men with this thinking ? Thanks dude/dudette . #respect ✊ 💃
      Jul 5
    • Microsoft / Product
      Brazuka

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      Brazukamore
      Considering men do get scolded for only caring about looks (somehow you ignored this) then likewise somebody can argue this too.
      Jul 5
    • I used to be scared of gold diggers or whatever years ago before my mentor knocked some sense into me.

      Most men have some kind of minimum standard when it comes to looks. Women might have the same thing when it comes to earning potential or TC. That’s their choice and perfectly fine.
      Jul 5
    • Microsoft / Product
      Brazuka

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      Brazukamore
      Agree, having minimal thresholds for looks and tc is reasonable for both genders. For me the highest bar is actually education+intelligence.
      Jul 5
    • Indeed isbgu
      Woman has minimum standards regarding TC both as a signal of good partner traits and as a signal of being a stable provider: this is fine

      Woman's primary focus is on money, to the point that she will just marry the richest guy she can, more or less regardless of any other things: not fine, unless you are very rich
      Jul 5
  • Microsoft megamanX
    You must be young - the deal breaker for me is that she has kids with another dude
    Jul 5 0
  • Microsoft / Product
    Brazuka

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    Brazukamore
    Mine would be
    -kids with another person
    -daily smoking
    -bad spending habits (spends lavishly)
    -bad at sex
    Jul 5 0
  • Salesforce mrChao
    My biggest dealbreaker when she calls her female friends girl friends.
    Jul 5 4
    • Oracle kingSize
      It's a commonly used term in US. Isn't it? Or am I not understanding this term
      Correctly
      Jul 5
    • Intuit always_con
      Lolwut? I call my female friends girlfriends like all the time
      Jul 5
    • Facebook / Eng
      madhuridix

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      You can also call her friends your girlfriends
      Jul 5
    • Microsoft / Eng 🍤🍤&🌭🌭
      Bonus points if her female friends are girlfriends and she shares!
      Jul 5
  • Oath Atinlay2
    Smoking
    Jul 5 0
  • Google Devil
    Man most of them I want in my girl lol . I thought all of those were attributes I want in her minus the gold digger ones
    Jul 5 4
    • Apple wMKi17
      Haha! 🤨🤗
      Jul 5
    • Apple wMKi17
      I liked the fact.. that you want these qualities in your girl! 🙃
      Jul 5
    • Google Devil
      It’s important to me . Most guys don’t know what they missing
      Jul 5
    • Apple wMKi17
      Like OP! 🤦🏻‍♀️ He seems too picky. Infact, isn’t it great, she has good self control in trying things but not an addict. People think too much. 🙃
      Jul 5
  • Facebook / Eng 🤸🏼‍♀️🦝z
    1. She's straight.
    Jul 5 5
    • Facebook / Eng
      madhuridix

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      Why does that matter? You need to be more inclusive
      Jul 5
    • New / Eng keb
      This. She's gotta want the 🍯 too
      Jul 6
    • Facebook / Eng 🤸🏼‍♀️🦝z
      I'm not a guy, so obvs if she's straight that would be a deal breaker for both of us ;)
      Jul 6
    • Intel iSpyPi
      Bi girls are the best
      Jul 9
    • Facebook / Eng
      madhuridix

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      Tri girls are even better
      Jul 9
  • Addiction is scary and very hard to deal with.

    Other than that, the rest of the poll items are reflections on you not her.
    Jul 5 0
  • Apple wMKi17
    Omg.. this girl sounds like me! 🤦🏻‍♀️ Dude.. Have we met ?
    Jul 5 0
  • Indeed isbgu
    None of those are dealbreakers, but many are red flags. One or two are manageable, but Ignore at your own peril
    Jul 5 2
    • Microsoft / Product
      Brazuka

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      Brazukamore
      Good point. I agree that they compound if person has multiple.
      Jul 5
    • Indeed isbgu
      In particular what stands out to me:

      Broken family: this is about the most archetypal red flag I can think of. I would not write someone off for it, but it would be something I'd be very, very aware of

      Likes drinking: depends what you mean by this. Drinking is fine, but if it crosses the line into alcoholism that's asking for a bad time

      Attracted to high earners: the problem with mercenaries is that whoever hired them can get outbid. If she's attracted to money, and you do not have a particularly high salary, i would worry about what happens when someone comes along who does

      High status job: depends what you mean by this, but in general people with high status jobs will be expected to have high status lives. If you are not similarly high status, this could come back to bite her in some professional context
      Jul 5
  • Microsoft ghdcbt
    Mostly just want to ensure she has good DSL
    Jul 6 0