Would you date someone with a kid?

Cisco cbd
May 10 36 Comments

Why or why not? If you have how did it go?

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  • Amazon PeterPIPer
    I have, but I have kids too. Divorced dating is a different world though. Personally, I only date people with kids. Hard for somebody who isnt a parent to relate.
    May 10 15
    • Google notachad
      Why did you end up divorced?
      May 10
    • Amazon PeterPIPer
      The wife, she had a case of the crazies.
      May 10
    • Google notachad
      Yeah I feel you. Recently broke up with a girl who was crazy. Out of curiosity did she hide it before kids and marriage or were there earning signs?
      May 10
    • Cisco cbd
      OP
      Every time a man talks about how his ex is “crazy” I just wonder what he did to make her crazy
      May 10
    • Google notachad
      You should ask my ex I guess she could probably name hundreds of things.
      May 10
    • Amazon PeterPIPer
      She has borderline personality disorder. You cant cause that in somebody, it just is. Obviously I didn't see it before we were married or had kids. The postpartum depression after our first seemed to have triggered a bunch of secondary mental health issues, though I imagine some of this was always there but well hidden from me.
      May 10
    • SpaceX / Other
      muskytaint

      SpaceX Other

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      muskytaintmore
      That worries me, I have been really careful to dodge this sort of thing. Wife has been really awesome up to now and first kid is on the way.
      May 10
    • Amazon PeterPIPer
      Dunno what to say, other than make sure you have a shared understanding that you will trust your partner and seek professional help if the other thinks you need to. My ex insisted I was crazy and she was fine. I went to a shrink, he told me I was fine and that her behavior clearly was not. But she refused help, as she had through her periods of intense depression, denying there was anything wrong. How you view mental health issues turns out to be important in a marriage, even if you don't think either of you have them at the time.
      May 10
    • Google notachad
      So did you end up having more than 1 kid? And how is dealing with ex now in terms of splitting time with kids and all?
      May 10
    • Cadence qwer09
      @Peterpiper what level senior role and is it sw dev? Ethnicity?
      May 19
  • Microsoft / Eng bdjdk
    Yep. If that's my kid
    May 10 0
  • Yes.
    Her past won't bother me as long as we're happy together. I like kids, so it won't be an issue.
    May 10 2
    • Cisco cbd
      OP
      Do you have kids yourself?
      May 10
    • No. I've been in a relationship with someone who had. Wasn't a problem at all. More complexity to the dating schedule lol, but nothing else.
      May 10
  • I always thought I wouldn't. Until one day, I actually started falling for a guy with 2 kids, and found myself pushing hard to refrain from liking him haha
    May 10 8
    • Cisco cbd
      OP
      Are you two still together ? How did it workout
      May 10
    • We both liked each other, still do. But we never were together and there was absolutely nothing sexual. We loved talking and spending time with each other. It reached a point where we were talking all day and making plans to see each other. But we decided to cut it down and as mature adults, limit it to friendship.

      He has a beautiful family - a wife and 2 kids.
      May 10
    • New UHtz31
      ok did not see that plot twist
      May 10
    • Cisco cbd
      OP
      Hmm ok. where did you two meet?
      May 10
    • You wouldn't believe if I tell you, we actually met through blind 😀🙊

      We both stopped using this platform for a long time after that haha
      May 10
    • Cisco cbd
      OP
      I’ve had a lot of messages from dudes (married ones too) I totally understand hahaa. I’ve never met up with anyone from here though
      May 10
    • Oracle / Eng aham
      Blind friendship, interesting. Were you both living in the same city?
      May 10
    • No, not even close.
      May 10
  • Accenture / Eng __xjwg
    i have, 3 times, you are just with her all the time. you only talk about the kid/s but don't get to meet them. at least that's the case for me. i guess when things get really serious that's when you get to meet them
    May 10 0
  • Arthrex QeWE06
    Yes, why not. If you love someone you would love their kids too
    May 11 0
  • Microsoft yesterda
    Yes , if that isn’t my kid
    May 10 0
  • EA / Eng
    YJMJ04

    EA Eng

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    YJMJ04more
    I would date someone with kid only if the kid is thru surrogacy or adopted - I would not date guys who had sex with girls - because dating bisexual guys could be problematic in the long run
    4d 0
  • Yes. It's clear sex is not a problem.
    May 10 0
  • Amazon / Eng DeepObsess
    MILF?
    May 10 0
  • ConsenSys / Eng dackjorsey
    She had four, it was comedic 🥴
    May 10 0

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