Anyone here has been divorced primarily due to extensive and crazy work keeping you away from family, 80-100% travel etc?
Definitely resulted in having no time to date or get married.
Been married a while and I work late and travel a lot. It’s actually improved my marriage, and greatly increased our affection for one another. When I’m home we are all at our best, with far less squabbling and such that you normally get with living with other people. We all get something out of it. I get to travel and take time off periodically and do exciting things. My wife, who is very introverted, gets alone time; she didn’t have to return to work after the kids were born; and her parents live with us so she has help with the kids. One last thing: welcome home sex is fantastic. When I started traveling even a little, it rejuvenated our 3-4 times a year up to 1-2 times a week. After a 10 day trip, my wife wants to go at it every day I’m home until the next one.
How does her parents living with you change the dynamics?
Help with young kids is key. They can be utterly exhausting. Stay at home moms don’t get PTO, RSUs, or any of that stuff we get in corporate America. Also, her parents didn’t save much for retirement so it helps them out financially. Everyone wins, and it creates a positive flywheel effect.
I've ended Relationships over this with men who felt I work too long. Figured it's better to cut my losses.
Truth. Aligned priorities are extremely important
Yup. People who say stuff like love conquers all, have no clue. Either they are willing to lose themselves in relationships or don't care much for their own personal goals.
Yes. And it was intentional on my part. I took a road warrior consulting gig in part to get away from my husband . I also worked with many people who were very happily married, some with kids, and stayed committed despite a M-Th commute. Actually it can be better because it leaves some space for both. The time spent on weekends is higher quality. I think it could be very difficult in a scenario with mom at home caring for kids solo. She could get resentful and potentially jealous, and she may need support.
☝️I am an example of the 2nd paragraph written above. It keeps things fresh for us and gives us both our own space as well as quality time when we are together. I travel only 50% though. Traveling for 5 years, married for 4. All is great so far. No kids.