What are some reasons to identify as “non-binary” (they/them)
I’m genuinely curious. I met a “girl” recently. By that I mean, she looks like a girl, talks like a girl, has girl parts, and actually just a normal person. But then she said “my pronouns are they/them”. I’m not brave enough to ask about the story behind that decision, so I’m genuinely curious why some people make this choice.
My younger sibling is female presenting but goes by they/them pronouns. They said they just don’t really feel attached to either of the genders/gender norms/gender roles that are generally associated with she/her. Everyone is different though, so their reasons for it could be different.
Some people don't feel like they identify as a binary gender. There's lots of reasons. https://www.them.us/story/gender-neutral-pronouns-101-they-them-xe-xem
you can just ask. if you ask 100 different people, you'll get 100 different stories. some may not be comfortable with sharing, so ask politely, e.g. "do you mind if I ask about your decision to identify as non-binary?"
I’m sorry for your struggles
I see no struggles
Let me try to understand , you mean they don’t feel like the gender they were born as or they can fluidly associate with any gender ?
Depends, because in non-binary group, there is also gender fluid e.q. some day they feel like a man and on some days woman, some days they don't like to define themselves. There are also some that think that society's social construction of man & woman don't fit for them. Gender identity (how someone could express themselves) could also changes with time so just because today they're a non-binary, it doesn't mean next year they won't be something else. Not everyone fits nicely in the boxes society creates. Be kind, in some ancient society, some even have higher privilege (e.q. a shaman /elder / witch doctor/oracle). They are people, like you, like me and anybody else.
Thanks for explaining
Don't talk to her and save your energy
Like they say don’t feed the trolls. She is looking for attention.
Lol, they’re living their life. It’s not about you.
First world problems
Cause they want to. That’s mostly it.
But why?
Stick with me here….they want too. It’s like they’re them and they want to do it. And so then, they do it, motivated by them wanting to do so.