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I am a guy in my early 30s and I have no plans of having kids ever. The girlfriend I am in a relationship with agrees, and she seems sincere. If our income difference is significant (e.g I make 350k and she makes 50k) does it ever make sense to get married in a state such California? My opinion is that the risk is massive: while I definitely love her and trust her NOW, I have no idea how sheāll behave 5, 10 or 20 years down the road, people just change and thatās a fact of life. Why would I want to expose myself to such a massive risk of being wiped out upon divorce, considering that hopefully the majority of my net worth will increase while I am in this relationship and so prenups would be useless? If anything, I would think about marriage just when we are in our very old age and we would need to take advantage of marriage-only benefits such as sharing insurance etc.
You obviously don't love or trust her and don't understand the meaning of the words love and trust or else you wouldn't be concerned over something so trivial as money.
This is a small child's concept of love and trust. I'm guessing you've never had to be financially responsible since Mommy and Daddy have your back.
@Caldean92, I've been married for 11 years now with 4 kids. What experience do you have with love and trust?
You never know what's gonna happen 10 years down the line with anyone. At least with this girl, there is love that exists! Nurture that. And why can you not sign a prenup when going from relationship to marriage?
How "she'll behave" in the future? Bruh, you sound like the one I'd be worried about.
You want a caring wife or a busy money minded wife ? Choice is urs ;)
These are not mutually exclusive. Geez archaic thinking. And possibly and woman who makes no money is specifically interested in a man who has money vs a woman who has her own decent income and is looking for love.
Love and trust is about being completely vulnerable in front of her. But probably that definition doesn't work in US.
Agree with the other posters. How sheāll behave isnāt something that really comes in the way of marriage/love. You know the whole āfor better or for worseā ordeal. Iād recommend you just stay single or casually see girls here and there your whole life if money is what matters. And thereās nothing wrong with that either.
Significant tax savings moving from Single to MFJ in that scenario.
Not sure are you stupid or just trolling. You should marry a girl if you love her. And you should not if you dont. Its that fucking simple.
What the hell has love anything to do with the fact that down the road I might have to pay her millions if she decides to leave me 25 years down the road?
Ouch, forget about it. I get it, you just an idiot :)
Dude you will not get wiped out. Max loss is 50% of assets accumulated during marriage years. If for example you use all your savings and buy a home outright now and then rent it out thus having an established asset per marriage then you wonāt lose that home
Don't believe this. There are many cases where people lose more than 50%. Legal battle is costly in itself, unfavorable court decisions can screw you over, and life time alimony. The last one suck if you make a lot during the divorce. If it's based on the highest amount you ever make and make less after that there are cases in NJ that a man was jailed because his required payments were more than his income.
If you cohabitate long enough you can be considered married in the eyes of the CA courts and so you end up where you didn't want to be at. Best to research what that is and break up before you get there
Or marry with a good prenup??
common law marriage?