College girlfriend cheating? Help!
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We both lost our virginities to each other, and we have both planned to get married one day. Our families are pretty good friends too. So this brings me to my current situation. My girlfriend goes to college 4-5 hours away from me, close to my hometown. We Facetime a couple times a week, and on vacations we often hang out with each other. I was recently visiting my hometown and my girlfriend was still in school, so I went to hang out with her at her college. We ended up going to an apartment party with some other people from her dorm. There was this one guy in the group that supposedly slept with a majority of the girls from that floor. Not only that, I remember hearing from one of her friends that the guy has a huge dick. And that if she “is drunk and horny, that it’s okay if she goes home with him.” I didn’t really think much about it at first. My girlfriend’s attention was on me the entire time we were there, and we went on to have great sex later that night, which really took off whatever edge I had. Okay, so now this is where things start to get a little fishy. The next week, I notice that my girlfriend started following this guy on instagram. Okay… Then I see a snapchat story of her in his dorm room with 2 other girls drinking. Hmm... I then see her in a FB photo with this guy, and she is dressed up in a tight dress and he is holding her by the waist. I talked to her about this, and she tells me that it’s nothing, and then all of a sudden - everything on social media with him and her goes quiet (she’s hiding?). Now, this is the thing which really made me worry - my girlfriend recently started came to visit me and then we go to have sex. Usually she moans a good bit, and is vocal when we do it...but now? Barely anything. After this happened a few times, I asked her if something’s wrong as to why she’s been so quiet lately. She says that it’s because she’s been worn out recently and tired cause she hasn’t slept well. And then the next time we did it, she starts being super vocal, to the point where I feel like she is faking it. I’d like to believe my girlfriend didn’t cheat on me, but right now all the evidence is pointing to make me believe that she did. She is away in college, so I really have no way to confirm it. Another thing is, this other guy is really attractive. His Instagram account is filled with girls flirting with him, and his most popular photo is of him in swim trunks where you can see the outline of his dick. 😧 I don’t think my girlfriend would leave me for him, simply because this guy has so many options. But I do think she might be sleeping with him on the side. I don’t know what to do..when I tried to bring this up to her, she told me that I’m being crazy and reading way too far into things. This whole thing is stressing me out big time...it honestly feels like I’ve already lost her. Am I really crazy to be thinking this way? Help!! TL;DR- I think my girlfriend is cheating on me with her hung floormate.
Look, if you plan to get married, you need to trust her. If you feel insecure, you ask her. You accept her answer or you don't. You can't be a happy couple if you are stressed about her cheating, it will never go away.
Just break up and move on. Yawn
Sad...
First question to ask: what if she is? You going to work it out or break up?
If/when I confirm it, it will be over
How will you confirm it? If they haven't recorded a sex video or she admits, you'll never get a confirmation. Just trust your gut.
You have a trust issue which won’t go away. If she did it once , she will do it again. Move on and find someone you can trust..take your time and play the field. A lot to discover out there
Whether or not ur gf cheating on you, you don’t feel to be a good match for her to get married. You are anyways gonna screw up ur marriage doubting on her. Nothing is very evident at least from your story that she slept. But if u doubt her just for a huge d*** then I feel pity on your 2 year old relationship. And again giving you benefit of doubt that she is ditching u for a D**** then definitely u should leave her, unless u are sure that u won't find someone as good as her!.
Tough situation. Any snapchat employee here able to comment? Feel free to forward this to your CEO for advice as well.
One frat bro to another
If you don’t trust each other you should probably just break up anyway. Be frank, do it quickly and know that it’s a lot worse if you prolong things.
This ^ it’s already over
Is she still texting you?
It sounds like you’re insecure af - and that’s kind of a turn off. But it also sounds like she hasn’t been sexually attracted to you lately. Sit her down, make her feel okay to be vulnerable and tell her it’s okay if anything happened but you want to try and get to the bottom of what’s going on together, and that you’re aware she hasn’t been into it when you are together - and go from there. If she has done something and you cannot find it in yourself to stay with her - leave. If not - figure out how to address the problem. Good luck
Not insecure..sounds like most people on this thread think that she really is 😔
Fair maybe I misread that. I do think it’s worth having a hard honest conversation with her. It’s really the only way through this. If she is unable to engage with you in that conversation - leave. This is what your Youth is for. Don’t feel guilty if it doesn’t feel right.