Confessions - wish I was a part time parent

This isn’t judgement but if you have a partner then why are you paying a babysitter? Why isn’t your partner watching the kids so you can catch up on work / run errands / just take a break for a few hours? It’s a hard conversation to have but I think that’s what you may want to do. My husband and I both have designated weekend chunks or weeknights where the other one is responsible for the kids. Yes we see less of each other but for us that’s ok.

Can't relate but I do empathize if all the burden is on you. When we had kids we both deprioritized work, one of us voluntarily and happily worked part time and we both gave all our attention to kids. We had our whole life to make more money and pursue careers. I don't foresee regretting sitting on my death bed wishing I had sent one extra mail or got one extra promotion or had more dollars handed down to my kids. I do foresee regretting not getting more time with them. They will have their own lives before we know it.

Please read Drop the Ball.

If your partner isn’t helping enough - be careful -that’s how contempt takes root.

I get it. Divorced couples get a break. In many ways you can blame it on American culture. This is what extended families are for in some cultures. I believe American culture is harmful to families. I’m the sad product of a family that was isolated from relatives and had parents who couldn’t cope, which resulted in child neglect. No answers ... everyone has to find their own way to make it work because culturally families are not well supported. My advice is realize nothing ever stays the same and time with your kids is limited. Also maybe try to get some grandparents involved! I wish you well.

Why'd you have kids? Seems like they are more of a headache then anything else

Why do you work on weekends ? It’s not healthy