Hi all. Dealing with a mostly amicable divorce right now, where he wanted it but I did not, and I cannot see myself moving forward in the near future at all. My soon-to-be ex is having an “overly friendly” relationship with someone he used to manage and mentor while they both worked at Amazon. While he says they are not dating, he had admitted that the conversations have been more than just seeking support like he said initially. He is no longer with Amazon but she is still an area manager. We just filed for divorce, I am 8 months pregnant, and she lives across the country from us. Do you think he is moving on too quickly? Does it ever get easier seeing your ex- spouse move on? *Update: thank you to everyone who commented. I think I may have been caught up in viewing divorce as a failure where it may be a blessing in disguise here.
He probably already moved on why y’all were married
As cowards do
I’d definitely start seeing a therapist, they can help you dig through these questions and find answers. But if I had to guess I would think that you’ll find peace in time, but it would probably be easier if you could move away from your ex professionally (either to a different team or company).
Age?
26F, 30M
I had 2 kids by 22, left ex at 24. Married a great guy at 31. I hope the rest of your life is amazing, like mine has been. You're young. You will be fine.
Sorry, this sounds tough. Good luck!
Emotionally tough but you have to let go. You are almost out of this relationship. No point of thinking about his new relationship
What is this incel drivel
Wrong thread datadog.
It gets easier because you end up realizing that you don't want to be with someone that does want to be with you. You will then find someone in due time and wonder why you were so sad before. Just focus on your newborn and hit the gym/meditate/socialize.
Bro cheated behind his pregnant wife and still divorce "amicably". Wow, what a Chad he is. You sure he isn't sweet talking you into favorable divorce terms? I'm not experienced with your situation, sorry it happened. Use his behavior towards you as a reason to not care for him anymore. I understand you *think* things are amicable, because you are still obsessed with him. But let me tell you he is a real cheating POS who doesn't care for you, so why should you care what he does? A father leaving his unborn baby and wife for another woman is no man at all, and should drive no respect. I have more respect for a bird dad, or penguins. You should too.
With things being so fresh it’s hard to hate him no matter how things occurred. I’ve been forced to do everything alone for the duration of my pregnancy and it really shifted my focus to being controlling what I can for my baby. Maybe I will grow to resent him as time goes on but this close to the finish line I’m happy that I am fighting to provide what I can and definitely glad I fought to keep the house. I’m hoping to keep this mindset and start advocating for myself as much as I am advocating for my daughter.
No, you do not hate or resent him. That's incorrect. You just don't care about him enough to invoke any emotional response towards him. He dates other women? Okay. He re-married? Okay. He's dead? Okay. That's where you should strive for.
Tf does that shxt have to do with what’s happening here? A cheating pos abandoned his upcoming kid and wife for someone he just met at the office. That’s the topic.
Flagged Intel for trolling. Sorry, dude, this is not the place for your insensitive, victim-blaming remarks.
How are assets going to be split? How much would be child support?
Shared custody, I get the house.
Oof, you agreed to shared custody and you haven't even given birth yet? I hope you at least have full custody for the first year. Newborns need their mom. Can't imagine handing a newborn to an ex at a couple of days old.