Dating advice
Since everyone is asking dating advice on here lol....I haven't dated in a while and travel alot for my job. I want to start dating to potentially find a long-term partner. How do I do that? What's the best way to meet quality nice guys? P.S. I'm a girl, I don't really drink alcohol so I don't go to bars much. And I don't like apps like tinder where the majority of users will be looking for more casual hookups. Any suggestions?
As much as I hate to say it, it’s basically a numbers game where your odds of success go up proportionately with the amount of likeminded people you meet. Outside of glib bullshit like “be attractive and don’t be unattractive” that’s how it works. Also just as my personal bias as a guy it pays to keep an open mind. Don’t come up with a hard list of dealbreakers where the only men who would be eligible are the kind of men 80% of women would wife in a heartbeat. As an asian, I’ve dated white, Nigerian, taller/shorter than me and women of all social classes. I know a woman who went to the local high prestige private college and only want white dudes taller than 6’, football player but lean not chunky, history major but not going into academia but law, and must be 2 years older than her at least. Needless to say she’s still single.
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Well when you price yourself out of the market, you don't get a lot of buyers lol
Unless you have a condition, it’s weird to not drink alcohol. I’d recommend doing the social tradition ancestors nearly everywhere have done for millenia.
Seriously?
I don't find it weird. Not everyone enjoys the feeling, side effects, etc. Anyway she likely won't find what she's looking for at bars, so it's irrelevant.
Consultants generally date on projects, I know 4 couples who are married now and that was from one project. It helps because everyone understands the lifestyle
"It helps because everyone understands the lifestyle" ^ truth
Travel within the country or outside? If you're outside of the country, (though works wherever), just ask someone you fancy for information, like directions. It's an ice breaker.
You're right. I need to just stop being shy and talk to strangers more often. Thanks.
You're welcome. I can understand being shy. That's part of why I'm suggesting something a bit less daunting than a huge behavioral shift. If interested, the man will make the move, verbally, once the completely plain conversation starts: - "Is there parking around here?" - "Did the number ## bus already pass by?" - "Why is there no sun in this city?" He is less likely to approach to show interest on his own. (And in places like California, such a thing is now harassment). Guys understand where that sentiment comes from, and don't want to offend nor frighten a stranger. Game on if you speak first though.
Men with healthy friendships with women make the best dates, in my experience. They're able to relax and not treat everything like a race to get laid at all costs. My fav men (including partner) have all been met through friends.
During interactions with men, give an indication that you are open to dating. This involves flirting back, spending time with people one on one, being enthusiastic about plans someone mentions to you or asks you out to, etc. And hopefully you'll find a nice guy.
Location? Generally speaking, use Bumble.
I met my current bf through tinder. We got closer because he helped me prep for interviews. I met my last ex off a reddit chatroom. The relationship was great while it lasted and we were a good match. I don't drink much either because I get nothing out of it but asian glow. The way I approached dating was to use a dating app or two (I prefer tinder and the league), as well as attend as many social events as I'd like. I did a lot of meetups with internet friends, which was a lot of fun (and still are) - some of my closest friends come from those, including my ex. Don't be so close-minded about tinder - I like it because it has the most variety out of all the apps I've seen. Whatever your type is, you'll find it there. I don't hookup either and I never found it a problem. For you though, the league might be a good option for you to start, if you find tinder daunting. http://bnc.lt/eWSc/HgehNRHnLJ
What's your location? In general, pick up hobbies and pursue interests that'll get you out some more. Go to events with friends. Or meet someone at work. I know several ibmers who have done this.
OP here. Yea I need to go out more, I kept thinking once I settle in a permanent location I would go out more, thanks.