Dating advice for introvert
East Asian female in early 20s living in bay area. I’ve always been extremely introverted so I don’t really have any guys friends let along potential dates. In short, I have never dated anyone before. I really want to step out of my comfort zone and start dating people. In terms of physical appearance, I’m lean, 5’5, willing to dress up for dates. Objectively speaking, I don’t see myself on the extremely unattractive side. But I’m worried that guys will find me very boring: I don’t have any notable hobbies and mostly just watch TV. I find myself genuinely lost interest in things after I started working full time. I’m really curious to know how do guys think about someone like me who’s not super ugly but just really shy and plain boring. Also I would appreciate any tips on how to meet guys in general. I lean on the conservative side so I don’t think hookup apps like tinder will work for me.
East Asian and hwp, it should be easy for you to find dates. You’re such a fetish for so many guys, that’ll be the hardest part about dating.
What do you mean by fetish?
oh boy, strap in for this lecture boys & girls
Are you just looking to make friends or for someone to date?
I wouldn’t mind both.
You can go to meetups to find people that have similar interests as you, maybe cooking, hiking, reading, movies, anything. I think it's always better to meet people in person than some recommendations from apps. To start off with, try not to think about dating, just look for new friends. This will build your confidence and you will learn to be more social. There is definitely nothing wrong with being shy. I'm fact plenty of guys who have similar personality as yours, and they are also looking for someone. You just need to take the first small step of getting out of your comfort zone and reach out. When you first join your company, did you know many people already? Think about how you got to know your colleagues. Apply similar tactic to meet new friends.
Blind is a great way to meet guys. Most here are guys trolling like yourself.
b..but I thought I could DM her and land a date!!! noooooo
Thanks for commenting! I have been definitely doing a lot of soul searching the past couple weeks. I have came up with some attributes I’m looking for but I want to actually date people and learn from trail and error if that makes any sense.
My wife made a list of 32 items that she wanted in a prospective mate. It focused on how she wanted to be treated and the experiences she wanted to have.
Use one of the other dating apps. There are plenty of other boring people to match with
One of my motivation is to be less bored not finding someone to be bored with lol.
Push yourself to be less shy when there are other people around. Push yourself to use apps like Hinge and Bumble more
Haven't men reached out to you already?
RIP inbox
So many thing wrong in this post... start reading about feminism and don’t consider yourself as commodity.. Boys will love it. At least it impresses me :)
Feminist cat lady spotted
I don’t mind being a Feminist cat lady just to filter people like @qwertyui0p
Learn to cook for him. Or lol put conservative on your dating profile - will filter most of the men in the Bay Area though
Uh, are the men in the Bay so shallow that they'd be put off by someone not wanting to engage in casual physical relations?
Nah Bay Area men just won’t be able to deal a conservative woman. It’ll break their programming