I've been heavily focused on my career the last decade and missed dating in my 20s. Now I'm hitting 30 and I'm finding myself missing a long term partner. All my friends suggest and use things like Tinder and Bumble, but these seem shallow and focussed on one night stands or short flings. I'm not really about that life Are there better alternatives for women looking for something real and long-term? Please don't say arranged marriage - not my culture. TC: 625k
I will date you OP 😁
Physical attraction is a pretty broad spectrum for me. The most important thing is intelligence and that they make me laugh. Health is more important to me then someone's face, because I want someone I can share hobbies with (hiking, running, travel) and that would be hard with someone very out of shape. I don't think I'm trying out of my league - I'm just not sure where to even start trying.
I mean if you can’t pull dates then who can.
Pulling dates is not the problem. Finding a long term partner I'm compatible with instead of someone who just wants to hook up is.
Sorry I meant long term partner . I mean if you are looking for someone who makes same as you or more there are very few of those . Maybe you need to those high end matrimonial type services .
I’m not but it certainly feels like lots of men are looking for ltr on bumble/hinge, at least
So… this is just my experience on what works. 1. CMB is way better. 2. Connect the old fashioned way is way better than Tinder. For example: Single professional meetups. Tinder app treats men like trash while offering trashy women. Hell even Reddit and Blind works better than Tinder. 3. Take a break from dating here and there by focusing on yourself: the gym, a different meetup for your hobbies, etc. You will never know if you meet someone there but don’t expect. 4. You can pay a lot more expensive matchmaking service (no not Sima Auntie, I am not Indian either), they worked. And provide suitable matches for your TC.
CMB?
Coffee Meets Bagels
Did you use a matchmaking service? Would you recommend it?
I did. Pacific Coast Matchmakers in Walnut Creek. Met a few high earning gals there. Some are doctors.
Define high earning . 500k is not high earning they are everywhere in bay .
Shaadi.com but I think it will be difficult to find someone who matches your TC. If are you willing to compromise on that, then there are plenty of family oriented you can find.
Been in similar situation for over an year. In my experience, the men I have went on dates with fall in one of the following categories: 1. Very casual- luckily I haven’t seen many. Also easy to weed out from conversation 2. Seriously looking for partner- good guys but very laid back. Not passionate about career or being their better self. These are good people, I wish I found these attributes attractive 3. Driven and focussed- my type but they are either intimidated by strong career focussed women or are not sure if they want something temporary/ fear commitment Another problem I feel is men swipe to just about anyone so when you actually meer it’s still not clear if they really liked you or it’s a I couldn’t find anyone else!
Your types are mostly looking for traditional women and they don't want to put in additional time to cook, clean and maintain kids. You will have to settle down with 2 mostly. You need to understand that women cannot have it all.
Didn’t get you. I am a women looking for a decent guy who is driven. That too much to ask!?
Don’t leave me on read OP, we could have something real together 😁
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625k is very impressive TC. What’s your level at Robinhood ?
M1. I must be jaded because it doesn't seem particularly high to me. Normal M1 range these days at companies that offer tier 1 comp.
Very jaded