I can't do this anymore. I've been living here for 4 yrs and it's really impossible to date and settle down in this place. I am just one of the typical software engineer Asian guy and I know I am not the coolest, richest, or ambitious person but I'm also not hedious or boring. I've gone on so many dates from online dating apps and nothing panned out. I went to HK for a week and girls lined up to talk to me. This is really not healthy for a single man who is looking to settle down. I'm gonna give this place half a year and if things are still the same it's time for drastic change. Who here feels the same way
Nothing surprising man. Also nothing you can do except keep trying or keep visiting new places and maybe find someone there. Plus east bay could be a little bit better. SF is just a sausage fest.
If you worked for MFAANG, you'd get laid for sure.
I think you mean Albertsons
if you’re one of Albert sons maybe
You need to be in a community, do good, good things will happen to you beyond your expectations (from my experience)
What’s a ‘community ‘?
The cs community
Yup
The key is to not be a typical software engineer. I think everyone is sick of software engineers at this point. We are cool anywhere outside of the Bay Area. We are the like the homeless people just on the other end of the spectrum.
Sales doods with their smooth lines, mamma mia in the city! Marina is a prime example
Tell me more about marina, I didn’t get it
First, get comfortable being single. When you don't feel the need to have and settle down with someone, that's likely when you're ready. Another person in your life is just an add-on.
Been in sf for 2 weeks and gone on 2 dates where the girl asked me out for drinks. It's actually refreshing here compared to where I'm from.
White guys play life on the easy mode
Big facts
Yep. If you’re used to dating elsewhere it’s just bad. Plenty of guys just come here with no previous successful dating experience and say it’s the same... it’s not.
Wait. Are we in the same city? I'm always running into interesting women to talk to. And I'm not even frequenting the usual spots. I end up having conversations while shopping for groceries, on the bus, while sharing an Uber. Sometimes these conversations last hours and we take it to a coffee shop.
Lol you sound like an extrovert
Not at all. I prefer reading a book to talking to people. I'm a good listener though.
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I hear it was cool 30 years ago. You should go, it’s a big world out there