How is your experience with dating in the Bay area? How does it differ for women vs men? As an objectively attractive woman in my mid 20s, I expected the dating scene to be great when I moved to SF a year ago due to the supposedly higher ratio of men/ women. My dating experience here has actually been the least successful amongst my experience in all other metropolitan cities (NYC, Boston, London...). I’m confused
you moved here during covid and expect to have a great dating life?
I guess I’m confused since the ‘success rate’ (defined here as # invite for another date/ # total of dates) is a lot lower in SF compared to in other cities (in which my experience was almost 100%). Understood that the overall experience and number of dates would decline during covid, but there must be something else to it
I think you're underestimating the impact of Covid. Despite a huge number of lonely/horny people, there's less enthusiasm.
mid 20s male following
How are you going about dating? Need much more detail to provide insight
Same approach I have always used in other cities I guess. When I was in NYC/ Boston/ London, every single online date I went on lead to another date invite. I never got ghosted. In SF, the reverse of those things have been happening a lot more often, surprisingly
Can you elaborate? I dont think my taste in men changed at all since I moved here
How high are your standards
It’s the same as it has always been everywhere else! What happens is that I would go on all these dates only to never hear from them again. That only happens in SF- I feel like that can’t be because of my standards?
Do you have certain first date rules then
Honestly, could be some weird COVID variable. Are they just not asking you out again or are you texting them and they’re ghosting?
They’re mostly not asking me out again. This never happened before, even when I was (I think) a lot less attractive
Don’t worry about it and just keep dating. You are filtering out the wrong people.
Dating in general has seemed to fair more difficult; especially for us in our 20s. I feel that people expect the perfect match off of just one date, when that is far from realistic. Also given the effects of covid, I feel that people think they want to date but are actually just bored. This may be the issue
Ya I resonate with that. But since I’m comparing my experience here with my own experience before in other cities, that eliminates a lot of the confounding variables (about people expecting too much, dating being difficult etc). Hence the confusing part
The stats don't matter because jn the end you'll just end up with one that works... So you migjt have gone on 2nd dates at a higher % previously, but what does it matter? None of them ended up being your spouse/long term partner iin those cities tok right? So who cares what the reasons for the stats are. From personal experience what I had high hopes for ended up being nothing, what I didn't expect anything from I ended up married to the person... And it happened during a time of not dating much as previously too... Just keep being a nice well balanced, happy person around people, not just your dates, enjoy life, and you just never know who ends up being the one...
Definitely no dating for me as an Indian origin male in Man Jose
Move to SF?!
Are you asking him out on a date in “girl hints”?
A bunch of nerds not very suitable for "catch me if you can" dating-alike games populate the area, plus the exoticism extra that you may have had in other places dims in comparison in the Bay where a large percentage of the population is Asian. That said, as an objectively attractive woman you will kill it as usual when things reopen
This could actually make sense. Though I feel like things being closed isn’t exactly a factor here (since the 1st dates still happen despite that), and it might be something else (such as the dating culture/ asian population like you said)
Yeah ... now please blame it on us ... glad I choose to spend my time and money in Bangkok !! Hopefully more guys follow the lead !!
What’s your height, weight, and ethnicity? This should answer the question
Why would ethnicity matter? I get the height and weight to a certain extent...
There’s been some studies that show certain ethnicities are at a disadvantage in the dating scene.