TC: Please gtfo About 2 years back I liked a girl then came the virus and got stuck in lockdown. I thought that my feelings would go down with time so I promised myself to keep nurturing them and confess to her whenever I go back to office. Offices opened with 10% capacity after 2 years, though only about 2-5% people come daily. I came back to office a week ago. Primary reason: I was too lazy & undisciplined at home that there was no WLB for me there, secondary reason: to tell her my feelings. Luckily she also came and I thought this would be the best opportunity. I walked straight to the meeting room where she was sitting alone and told her. I didn't go in details about my feelings for her as I thought it might sound meaningless, repulsive and too irritating to her. After I finished, She: 'I m dating someone'. Me (keeping my composure): 'Ok, it's alright then.' (and leaves the room normally). The next day she came to office like nothing happened and sat in the same room. But from the day after that she started sitting on another floor. Talked to my best friend about this whole story for hours and felt somewhat better. Even after that I couldn't stop thinking about her, it feels like my feelings for her are touching new highs. I can't focus on anything besides work. For workdays it was fine as I was busy but when the week ended on Friday I couldn't stop crying. I searched the internet to know more about her relationship and found a guy who I think can be her bf. Then I started searching everything about this guy in hope of finding any pic where they are together confirming my theory, I didn't find any. This was very painful & I didn't even know why I did it. A thought came to my mind saying she lied, felt little better but the next moment I was down thinking why did she lie to me. The city where my office is present feels very lonely as everyone I know is at their home. So I thought of travelling to nearby places to ease the pain but the more I travel alone, more anxious I get. There are a few folks living close to my current address but they are busy in their daily chores, have their groups, etc. So basically I don't have any relatives, friends, etc. whatsoever in the city. (The loneliness this city brings) + (fresh rejection) is making difficult to even survive. Need help on overcoming/conquering this.
you are being a crybaby. Work on your physique, hygiene, grooming. You will find a better one
Thanks man. I m on it.
Don't shit where you eat, dude. This is the unspoken rule of dating colleagues.
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She works in a completely different team, different product, different business unit (which is almost equivalent to working in a different company).
You waited 2 years! People get married and have kids in that much time. Sorry you are so upset. But believe me, this too shall pass. Even if your feelings for her don't go away completely, it's alright. Focus on finding someone you'll genuinely love after you give yourself time to heal.
Learn to focus on your shit brother ! I know it is not easy but as time passes the feelings you have for her will aslo fade. What you are going through is a common trait we all have -"If something is limited to us we tend to want it more". one more thing try not to feed those feelings by thinking/searching(online) about her. Work on yourself. chances are she might come back once her heart is broken by the guy she's dating (I know what you are thinking here and don't take this as a chance to get back to her) by that time you'll have the courage to say NO to her. you take care brother
this helped a lot, you're good at reading minds I believe
Sorry about your situation but you sound like a teenager. You're probably very young. You told someone about your feelings and she said no. Move on man. There are plenty of fish in the see. Why you gotta be obsessed about just one? Use this pent up energy to get cracking in the gym
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"It feels like my feelings for her are touching new heights" - seems like infatuation than anything else
Did you have any interactions with this girl seeing as she’s on a different team and BU?
Don’t take it so seriously!!
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