Does a guy change his mind about having kids
Started seeing this guy. We had a great date, interesting conversation. From our chat, he mentioned he didn't want to have kids, that he's scared of the responsibility and how he won't be able to travel and go hiking if he has kids. I did mention that I want to have kids though. Does a guy change his mind about this serious stuff? He contacted me after the date and acted super interested in me. I really like him but I'm kinda holding back as I want to have my own family in the future. Guys, any thoughts on this? I'm 35 and he's 37. I'm at a stage in life that I use dating app to meet potential partner that can lead to marriage, so that's why it's a concern for me if his mindset can change about kids.
How old is he? It does change but if he’s already 39 then... maybe not.
How old is he? How old are you? (feel free to provide approximate figures)
When they tell you who they are, believe them.
Life stages change. After marriage, things change and he could want to start a family at that point. But, at this point he is looking for freedom and flexibility.
I think someone on the fence about not having kids would not tell you they don't want kids in an early date. Talking about having kids is a sensitive subject for two people just dating and can easily turn off the other. If he's said he doesn't want kids, I feel like he really doesn't want kids. Nobody really says dislikes in early dates but more so their likes. Also what part of him do you like? It seems he's already come out and said he doesn't want responsibility, that's a pretty big red flag to me.
Most guys I know don’t think twice about hiking or traveling even after kids. My suburb is full of dads who bike 6 hours every Saturday while their wife is home all day with the kids. Their lives don’t change that much.
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Lol ya.
I'm 35 and he's 37
By 37 you have this stuff more or less figured out. Unless there is some major event and he feels like he wants kids. I would say it is a no. I am 39 and never wanted kids
Most men mature only after 30 or so.
Over time, possibly. You have to decide if it's worth the risk and wait. The thing about this millennial generation of men is 1) they were not wired for responsibility, 2) in our culture today they generally don't need to marry to get sex, and 3) they see only risk in marriage - divorce is super common, usually initiated by the woman, and often costs the man literally millions of dollars over the course of time. So, in a way, who can blame them?
I would say yes people can definitely change their mind on this stuff. Unless he was super adamant about never ever ever having them because he hates kids.