Frequent fights
We are married for 3 years now. We started fighting more often post our first child, 1 year old. Handling and taking care of the kid is too much stressful for my wife without any help. I'm helping to some extent but am not always there. Things fall apart soon and we often end up fighting. We are contemplating divorce but don't want to do it considering the child. Sincere advice in handling the situation please.
How will divorce help? If you are unable to bring up kid as a team, how will you bring up kid as a Single Parent?
Each of us wont need to put up with the other. She wants to goto her parents home along with the kid and find a job nearby later.
So kid is not the problem. Why use kid as an excuse for divorce?
Pump your muscle and take Thai box training, so she cannot fight you anymore
Help with the child more often? It's your kid too.
U sound like an Indian ... Frugal to the core and not getting the necessary help. Just been through the journey and it's very very hard. Give some slack to your wife. It's only mental for you but for her it's both mental and physical ... What kind of jerk you are ??? Try delivering a baby and know the pain ... It take years to recover and sometime some pains are permanent, they just don't go away ... Do a clear separation of duties ... And don't complain about it . .. you are not the fist one's to have kid. .. clearly shows u guys were not ready for the baby
U start with an assumption and then through all your points based on a assumption as though you know everything about OP. Y not stop for a sec and ask some valid questions to know a bit more about OPs life style and then try to put your points?
I too tight with SO like crazy and we too have a baby ... But we are not selfish the colonisers that every sneeze we talk about divorce... So selfish ... Every relation is hard work ... We have good days and bad days ... It requires patience ....
Have another one. It will solve all your problems
This guy knows how to make the world burn
Get a nanny and go to marriage counseling. Give that some time to see if things improve, and then decide if divorce is the right answer.
bite the bullet. get a nanny and save your marriage. nanny is much less expensive than divorce in the long run. just make it super easy for your wife to deal with baby. you might be thinking you are doing enough but just like everything else in the life it’s not enough. same goes for her
2 years in marriage. No kids. In constant fights and arguments, hopes on marriage diminishing. The only thing I feel good abt currently is not having kid, else I feel it would have been more stressful worrying about kids future.
Arrange marriage ???
for you, i recommend having a kid. have one in an year or two. if that doesn’t solve issues, have another soon. atleast you won’t have to deal with current issues. you willl get entirely new set of issues to deal with which can be refreshing.
“Not always there” well you know, be there...
Get nanny