Friday night. I absolutely hate it. I came to the US because my family got lucky and we got our GC. And I’m completely alone here. I’ve tried making friends Went to meet ups. Went to coworkers who don’t directly work with me. And every Friday I find myself alone and sad. I have no connections here. Most ppl from my home country come here to do their MS and that’s how they make their friend circle. They stay friends even after that. So many of my colleagues are from the same college. I don’t now how to connect with people. I don’t know what more can I do? I make 180K and all I fucking do is save and invest. I have no one to enjoy life with. My gf is back home and she intends to come after a year or two. But what do I do till then? I knew making friends as an adult is hard but I didn’t imagine it to be this lonely. I wish I had the kind of circle I had in college but I suppose someday I’ve to realize that it’s all gone.
Get a dog.
I have one. He’s the only one keeping me sane. Love him to death.
Videogames
Try getting into a hobby. Board game groups are generally welcoming.
And unfortunately I don’t like board games :) Although I’m open minded. Any suggestions where can I find some?
Ultimate Frisbee communities are extremely welcoming if you're into sports. Google search (city name) ultimate Frisbee association or something like that and you should find something
do you have any hobbies? look for something where there is an intersection of hobbies and people getting together. and if you have no hobbies, try exploring and see if any suit you. and making friends is way harder as an adult.
I like going out to bars and restaurants but I don’t know how to ask random people for that.
Eating food isn't a hobby. Do you have any actual hobbies or interests?
More or less most of us are in the same situation. Your chances to make friends are still better as a bachelor. Once your GF comes here your chances will be slimmer as you won't have time for others. Which area and age group?
Maybe. Actually, def yeah that makes sense. Lmfao didn’t think of that. I’m bout 24 and live in Seattle
Sorry, I'm in bay. If you play cricket/tennis then try to find local groups. Less formal setup and Desi folks, easier to connect on multiple aspects. You may easily find 2-3 people who match your aura
Get into a hobby like playing the guitar. That's what kept me sane.
If you're in WA go for a damn hike
Sad thing is, I don't even like going out. But I'm marries with kids, so different situation
you have a job and a gf and...a green card. You dont have to worry about having to leave the US within 60 days when laid off. That is all to say you are way better than 90% of the people out there on work visa.
If I’m being honest with myself I’d rather go back and live a life. I won’t because I want to make something of myself here. But I’d rather be with friends
so what do you ACTUALLY want? Solve for this question today and you can start taking action tomorrow.
24 is an awkward age. I just turned 27, and although I haven’t made many friends after graduation I’m genuinely not lonely anymore. Maybe it’s bc I’ve adapted…but I’m currently laying in bed alone and I’m having a great time. Loneliness in many cases, at least in mine, comes from within. A core wound. In addition, it’s coming from having a hard time adapting to adult life. You’re likely used to being surrounded by friends in high school/college, and now that’s gone. It’s tough, but you’ll adjust. Work on some self-development/healing work, and get out of your house.
I had an incident which left a pretty deep emotional scar and one of my coworkers unknowingly opened it. Been feeling like this ever since. But thank you for your insight
Try ACA. It’s group therapy. Look it up, and see if it resonates with you. That helped my loneliness so much, because I knew other people understood me and I wasn’t alone.
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Board game clubs, health and fitness clubs, online groups, book clubs Genuine connection is difficult to find as an adult. Finding something you’re passionate about and connecting with others that have similar interests is a start
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