WTF about your 4 dates 😱 . Ask your parents to find a girl for you?
lol that’s pathetic
I would die before asking my parents lol
It’s pretty darn hard to be too nice. I highly doubt you’re too nice. Be introspective on why you’re not getting chemistry during dates. It sounds like you’re largely not interested in the girls you’ve talked to. It’s very likely they can sense that. As contradictory as it sounds maybe you should be more selective yourself so when you start talking to a girl you’re more likely to click. If anything lowering the number of girls you approach will increase your success rate which will help with your confidence a little.
Too nice is feedback I got from someone else. I think I’m a people pleaser :/ I only get dates so infrequently that I’m never really in a position to reject dates
There’s a difference between pleasing others because you genuinely feel good about it and pleasing others expecting something in return.
Forget about dating. Fix FB first. It's been out for almost 1 hour for me. Need to send cat pics asap.
😂 working for me man!
Also, 1st please find the PM who decided to put ads in 15 second videos posted by users and slap him for me. 🤦♂️
I think you lack confidence, you’re overthinking many of these things and trying to treat dating as a mathematical equation. I also think dating in SF is pretty hard, you would probably fare better in a dating pool in a more diverse city. Additionally, Tinder doesn’t work if you’re average/below, it’s mostly used for people who want a one night stand with a 7/10
I don’t know why people always complain about dating in the Bay. I’ve lived in four states on the east coast and SF seems to have a much better dating scene than three of them.
Haha I was in the bay for 4 months and taking girls home after every date. I never lived in a city where dating was as easy as the bay. I don’t know what you guys are going on about
Something is wrong with your tinder profile. Figure out what that thing is, fix it, and then delete and remake your profile to reset your tinder MMR. You make enough that you could probably find a service to fix it for you and get general dating advice to fix your situation.
I’ve heard of a dating service that does this, but they charge in the 000s, and I’m not willing to pay that much... yet 😂
Just ask a girl friend to help you!!
This is where you’re going wrong. > As I analyze what I did wrong, I’ve approached everything in my life as a meritocracy, where I check off all the boxes and expect results. You dont allow things to happen naturally. Stop chasing and allow it develop naturally. Also, im gonna be honest u sound a bit shallow. Its almost like you’re trying to cover up a shitty personality with belongings. Are you sure you’re not doing that?
I might be shallow. I don’t know. I didn’t really have to overspend to get anything, but they are definitely nice things in general.
Find a community around a hobby you truly love and make an honest effort to make friends there. The fact you don’t form deeper connections is what you can improve and matters as much as money or looks. Once you have deeper connections with people, you will make friends with your friends’ friends and eventually you will meet a girl that way
What if I’m not a community forming person? That sounds like a huge drag. Am i doomed hahaa?
Not doomed but you are making it harder for yourself if you don’t socialize and make connections (with both men and women). We are supposed to be social creatures. It’s all about having a healthy social circle.
Instagram working for me now. No need to rush with fb.
I love your articulate style. Yes, you seem to check all the boxes. I feel less bad about myself knowing that a person like you is struggling, :)
Hang in there buddy
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One problem I noticed is that you seem too showy. Change BMW to Camry, dress normally, don't talk about yourself and what is nice apartment mean?
By dress well, I didn’t mean overly stylish. Car/apartment are not always in the picture. I don’t understand how downgrading to a Camry could possibly help me. Nice apartment = nice apartment in a nice neighborhood with lots of amenities and stuff I don’t think I show off in real life at all.
He’s not being too showy. He’s just explaining his stats so people have context. And he does have his stuff together. Changing to Camry is stupid. Be proud of what you have. Even if it’s a Camry.