Dating apps feel so superficial where physical attraction always takes precedence. I sometimes come across bios where people's write-ups are very relatable, and impressive too, but I don't feel attracted to the person looking at their pictures. I've been attracted to similar people in more casual settings like schools and workplace but the appearance bar is a lot higher on dating apps. Any advice on how to move past this? #dating
Try meeting the top profiles in person. Some people don’t photograph well or are better looking in person.
Embrace the chaos! I have stopped fighting the notion of fairness in dating. It is a numbers game. Tweak your filters. Explore multiple channels of meeting people. Always test and validate your assumptions. Keep a log of your progress and learnings throughout the way.
What data do you log about every match?
I don’t log for every match. I log for cases where there was a IRL date or any significant time invested in the same person. A useful subset of the information is my initial perception of that person and the final perception. It is very useful to see patterns regarding what changes in the perception and correlate with other information on the sheet. I take detailed notes.
Dating isn’t an intellectual exercise, but nor is it a photography contest. Grab coffee, talk to them, you’ll see how you feel.
Meet them in person. Sometimes their pictures are bad. Sometimes things click physically in person even though the pictures were not that compelling.
It's really draining to say no to someone after starting a conversation. I don't need to justify a left swipe, but after meeting I do. And I suck at it
People ghost after meeting too
Just go on the date, then you’ll know
Let me check if Marshmello is interested in dating me