How to deal with the fact that my parent is dying?
I have found it’s difficult for me to admit the reality. I also realized that I’m far from prepared. We are still actively looking for treatment. There are possibilities but also constrains. We don’t know if we could make it. Sometimes it’s even not stress, but a deep sense of meaninglessness and helplessness. Having dealt with other forms of loss, I know life goes on and the rest part of life still matters. Have anybody else been through the situation? What are the actionable things I could learn from your experience? Thank you.
I have no advice, but I hope everything turns out alright for you and your family.
It's always difficult to cope. Losing someone close. But just think that they are suffering now and they will be free of it when the inevitable happens.
I would say spend as much time with them as you can. My father passed away unexpectedly sometime back. I was not ready for it. I always thought he has lot of time left so we could spend time later. Now I regret it, but I cannot do anything.
same here.
My mother passed away unexpectedly. I had cut short my last conversation with her a few days ago. I regret that. Luckily I had spent a good few days with her about a week before she passed away. The memories I hold onto are those that remind me of the qualities that I admired in her. Its been about 5 years, yet, thinking about her still makes me cry and I am okay with that. I just try to honor her memory by following her example. Spend time with your parent. Get to know them as much as you can. There is so much we do not know about them. When they are gone, that will help. It will also help to not focus on their deteriorating condition. It will bring you closer and comfort them.
Recently bumped into this article. Not totally related but maybe help in a way to you. “Three Magical Phrases to Comfort a Dying Person” by Jenny Harrington https://link.medium.com/Kak6RFVl9U
Life’s tough man 😓 thanks for sharing, helps bring perspective to the rest of us and the realisation that we need to be thankful everyday for what we have
I am sorry to hear this. I am goi g through something similar. My dad is sick with a chronic condition and we don’t know how long he has got. I try not to think about it and spend as much time with him as I can. I want him to know that I love him and that he means everything to me.
Just do what makes them happy , reduce the suffering . Be with them as much as possible
My partner lost her father to cancer just a week ago. It wasn't easy, and isn't easy for anyone.
Unfortunately you have no control over what is happening. All you can control is how you react to the situation. I watched both of my parents slowly decline into death. No, the experience was not enjoyable, but in my heart I know I was there for them to the end. Best of luck with whatever you decide to do.
Have been there last year. Tough times to see your loved one just vanish in front of you. But the fact is that their pain is not worth it to bear. Sometimes it’s impossible to let go, but then it’s better to let go than to see them go through the pain of suffering.
My prayers with you