How to feel proud about your self? I feel proud about nothing!
If I am having a conversation with some one, I am always the push over. If they discount my skills, I just accept it. I don’t even defend myself! I just take the beating! Any idea what’s going on?
Are you happy? If yes, nothing matters. There is no need to defend yourself always except for the person you care. Are you talking about technical skills? Still, no need to defend except in official conversations. This state can be very useful if you are confident about yourself. If not, try to make new friends who are accomodating. Bullying is not your problem, it's their.
a) your work is not who you are. b) it’s a good idea to pay a professional to talk to you about it.
get therapy. you can afford it
Why are they discounting your skills? That’s pretty fucked up yo. Fuck em. Look in reality everyone’s learning. Whoever criticizes you has problems too. No one’s perfect. Screw people that put you down, they’re just jackasses who are like that with everyone.
More context of these conversations is needed for proper analysis... *bleep blorp*
It’s okay not to go to parties if they make you sad.
Usually the people who try to belittle others have insecurities of their own. I don't think you should worry about it unless it's your manager who is doing to talking. And even in that case, you have to be your own judge to decide whether the feedback that person gave you is something you need to work on, or whether you are not presenting your skills right, or you need to help them see it better, or you just need a different manager. But irrespective of the person, you should totally work on yourself to not be a push over and have to ability to respect your accomplishments. You don't necessarily need to have an ability to talk back to just bullies (although it is a good to have skill ;) ), but you should at least not accept just feedback to yourself. I know it's easier said than done. Coz I struggle at it myself. But keep working towards getting there. P.S. And it's totally ok to ignore such fuck heads from your life.
Get better friends. Why would anyone discount your skills? Tell them to GTFO.
The alpha males have a necessity to chew on push overs like you to feel good about themselves. After you take enough such beatings, you'll stop giving a fuck. If they go low, you'll go lower. You will stand up for yourself because you'll realize that there are a lot of jerks around -- esp. in tech.
That would be “alpha males”.
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