Take a moment to observe, in your life and in society, the pervasive nature of comparison. Whether it's pursuing higher education or seeking employment, comparisons seem to be an integral part of the process. You find yourself being evaluated alongside your peers by admissions officers or interviewers. Even after securing a spot or a job, the cycle continues with regular tests, performance evaluations, midterms, finals, dean's list, honor roll, bonuses, or even performance improvement plans. In New York, the competition begins before kindergarten with GT exams, where only the top percentile can access gifted and talented elementary schools. High school graduations have valedictorians, and though I've forgotten the names for the second and third positions, they're akin to champions, runners-up, and third place winners in an ancient imperial examination system. Are these outcomes truly random, or do they emerge from the inevitable act of comparison? Do your professors or bosses really advise, 'Don't compare your grades or performance with others; just be content with your own progress compared to last year'? In major tech companies, during each performance review, are the bosses saying, 'Assess each employee's performance independently; avoid comparing them with colleagues since everyone possesses distinct abilities and opportunities'? The Olympics exemplify what the masses care about the most: the medal tally. Would coaches ever tell athletes, 'Our goal is only physical fitness; don't concern yourself with outdoing others in the 100-meter sprint'? Would ordinary citizens tell their leaders, 'Our GDP ranks as the lowest globally. However, we refrain from comparison. Your contentment is paramount. As a leader, you shouldn't be burdened by this pressure.' Human societal systems, you see, are inherently founded on the principle of comparison. How could one possibly abstain from making comparisons? Is it merely an act of self-deception or a form of comforting denial? Additionally, people frequently offer solace by saying, 'Consider this: there are others enduring even greater hardships. In Africa, there are children who go to bed hungry. Doesn't the knowledge of their plight bring you some solace?' In essence, the underlying message in this sentiment remains one of comparison. Otherwise, why would the thought of someone else enduring more dire circumstances bring comfort?
This is the only truth
You become more valuable to your and society when you are intrinsically happy within your self, and leading a life that "you" find fulfilling. Lead your life from that perspective. Lot of things in society are rubbish, don't let that rubbish drive your life
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I'm thinking his "package" is probably on the small side, maybe 4 inches on a really good day. 😄
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comparson is not good or bad itself. It is just good or bad when people do it for a good/bad purpose.
They say, "Don't compare yourself to others" to people who can't stand comparison and usually drop out of competition because they tend to give up. Basically, it's a phrase to be said to people in their "weak" moments so that they get out of that low confidence emotional state and move on to a more self-confident state. A self-confident person is always able to not just stand comparison but even beat the competition. Also, the "absolute" state is nothing if you don't have a relative state to compare to.
Lots of people don't give a fuck about the Olympics. It's a self fulfilling premise since you don't measure apathy.
Did you ever play organized sports? Or join anything that was a team? Or found a company? Yes you think of competition but what matters is thinking about you, your own weaknesses and limits and how to best your prior performance. “Oh I ran this fast last time, I want to run 1 minute faster”. You will realize that focus on the internal will lead to you doing better and not feeling like crap by focusing on others. Also as someone who achieved a very high tc (ranges from 700-1.2 depending on the year), I will tell you to focus on something internal if you actually care about it. At the end of the day none of these companies would care if you got hit by a truck.
The only person you should be comparing yourself to is "past" you. Are you better, and better off, happier, than past you? If not, fix that.
I have been wondering the same OP. It is definitely bad advice. Even worse, when one feels bad, they’ll be told to compare with others that are less fortunate, to make you feel better!
Lol it contradicts freaking psc too lol. Stacked ranking ;)